Friday Thoughts
I’m checking in on this fabulously fall Friday (the weather here is AWESOME; 70’s, breezy, perfect) with a Friday Thoughts post.
I hope I adequately express to you guys how much I LOVE, I mean really LOVE, your comments on these posts. They are my favorite.
You don’t know how many times I’ve scoured the comment threads of these Friday Thoughts posts over the months for a story, tip, piece of advice, or feedback someone shared. Your comments have led me to at least one more amazing pair of jeans AND changed they way I teach my kids piano lessons, just to name a few. I love your guts (and your comments’ guts) so, so much.
Today, I have a lot to share since it’s been a few months! Read at your own risk. 🙂 But whatever you do, DON’T ignore my questions below, pretty please. I want to hear all about what YOU think!
School Year Thoughts: August 22 began a new phase for our family. All five of the kids in school…all day long. Over the years, depending on where we’ve lived, we’ve had half day kindergarteners, full day kindergarteners, and a stint where I homeschooled three of the kids. But this is the first year where the send off in the morning means everyone is gone all day.I have mixed feelings. The end of summer about killed me off, I’m not going to lie. The chaos in my house was at an all-time high and well-intentioned schedules were pretty much nonexistent (as were bedtimes and my patience). But then, when everyone left me mid-August, I kind of felt adrift and a little sad, and I wandered around aimless and confused. It reminded me of an older friend’s tongue-in-cheek advice when we lived in Wisconsin: “don’t get attached, they grow up and leave you.” 🙂 My melancholy lasted for about 3 1/2 minutes until I realized that the one thing I always, always crave more of was at my disposal: time.
Of course my well-laid plan to get four bedrooms painted, learn Portuguese, and finish the five quilts hiding under my computer room table all within the first five days of school didn’t happen (or even get started, let’s be honest) like I thought they would (how does time go so dang fast during the day??), but I AM determined to make the most of my time at home during the day.
As you know, blogging takes up a great deal of my life. It is my “job” for lack of a better term, and I’m grateful to be able to work from home with a flexible schedule, but I’m also determined to have a better blog/life balance so that I really can focus on some other industrious projects, as well as spend time volunteering at the school and do more in my service at church/temple. And also, naps. I’m not opposed to them either…or hanging out with my chicks. Ok, talk to me, how is your school year shaping up (public schoolers AND homeschoolers)?
School Lunch Thoughts: Piggybacking on the school year thoughts above, we are still staying strong with the school lunch checklist I shared last year in this post (also included in that post are some free, downloadable menu plans to save your sanity during the busy startup of school). After almost 10 years of using them, we finally broke up with our long-loved Goodbyn lunch boxes in favor of these pack-it freezable lunch boxes {aff. link} to keep everything cold, and so far, the system of kids packing their own lunches each day is going pretty well (my 14-year old who is a freshman in high school graduated to a simple brown paper bag as his packing preference). I have to monitor Ms. First Grader’s lunch box to make sure it isn’t packed chock full of only chips and fruit leathers, but other than that, the other kids are pretty self-sufficient.
Book Thoughts: So many of you recommended A Gentleman in Moscow when I reached out for book recommendations a few months ago. It took me a while to download it to my Audible app and even longer to actually start listening to it. And if I’m being honest, the first few chapters (maybe even more than that) almost put me to sleep (not super awesome since I was utilizing it as a way to keep me entertained and awake on a long drive last month).
But I persevered after consulting some friends who promised it would be worth it, and I am officially a repentant book listener. I have about 1/4 of the book left, and I am enthralled, and dare I say, obsessed (think: listening to it whenever and wherever I can; Brian looked at me very strangely when I had it at max volume this morning while blowdrying my hair with my head bent upside down). It’s an insanely long audiobook (17 hours or something), but I’ve been listening at 1.25X speed and using it as my clean-the-house incentive, among other things. The brilliantly descriptive, almost magical, writing style makes up for the slow start. I highly recommend this book (maybe avoid the Audible version if you want to get through it more quickly?). Have you read it? What did you think?
Alaska Cruise Thoughts: I shared in my newsletter and on Instagram that Brian and I took a first-ever cruise this summer to celebrate our anniversary in August. We went on an Alaska cruise, and I have so many thoughts to share about it. But since I don’t want to bore anyone with too many details, I’ll just share a couple:
-For first-time cruisers without anything to compare it to, our experience was pretty great in terms of service, hospitality, accommodations, etc. We went with Princess Cruise lines and booked everything through them including airfare, excursions, etc. (we took the easy way out on this one and I don’t regret it for an instant). We decided on an inside passage route (Anchorage to Vancouver) with ports at Ketchikan, Skagway and Juneau.
-So many people have asked me what I thought about the food. Um. Hmmm. Let’s see. What to say? It was ok. I mean, it was good! But not lifechanging. Maybe I had my expectations set too high (a very distinct possibility), but I was a little underwhelmed, particularly by the buffet. However, Brian wants me to mention that the 24-hour access to hot chocolate and ice cream was pretty amazing. One of my favorite parts of the cruise was taking a tour of the galley and meeting the head chef. The kitchen (we only saw one of the many on board) was absolutely amazing and kind of overwhelming – it’s hard to wrap my mind around how much food they make every day for so many people. Crazy.
-The weather, always unpredictable in Alaska, was pretty terrible during our 7-day cruise. There were a lot of experienced cruisers on our ship, and they all commented that this was the worst weather they’d had on any Alaska cruise. It was foggy almost the whole time so we didn’t see much scenery while on the ship, and it was pretty cold and rainy at all the ports.
The good news is that because the experience was so novel to us, we still loved it, and we really, really enjoyed the time we had to spend together – just the two of us. Would we go on an Alaska cruise again? I’m not sure about that. I’m not exactly a world-traveler (the gift of wanderlust is a bit lost on this homebody who gets a some anxiety traveling and leaving home), but the experience and majesty of Alaska was amazing and definitely a once in a lifetime experience even with the foggy conditions. I don’t know if we caught the “cruising bug” exactly, but it was a pretty awesome trip all things considered, especially getting off and exploring the seaside towns. Have you gone on a cruise? If so, WHERE? And what did you think?
-I took this petite gray backpack {aff. link} to Alaska and wore it everywhere. It was awesome. For being on the smaller side, it had so much functional space and so many helpful compartments; I loved it, and it was a lifesaver for a one-bag solution. It even fit my DSLR camera with a fairly big lens and an umbrella. I’m still using it as a purse-slash-backpack now that I’m home. I also wouldn’t have survived without my beanie {aff. link}, this waterproof windbreaker {aff. link} and these Sorel wedge boots that I wore straight out of the box (I know, not smart), but they ended up being surprisingly and incredibly comfortable. I wore them nonstop and consider them well worth the splurge (they were on a 50% off sale on sorel.com in August; they are certainly more spendy now in leadup to winter). I’ll wear them for many winters to come I’m sure.
Also, the picture below has nothing to do with anything except that our high school mascot is the Vikings and my sister made this Viking braid beanie for me and I love it and I will continue to embarrass my children by wearing it every day to pick them up from school as well as at the next high school football game. Go Vikes! 🙂
Ok, I think that’s it for today! A huge reward (cookies?) if you made it through that whole post! Let me know YOUR thoughts below!
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Hey Mel! I’m planning a cruise to Alaska in August and wondering what excursions you did and if you liked them/were they worth the money?
Also I love your book recommendations!
Thanks!
Hey Ashlee – I hope you have a great time! We did a ziplining excursion, the White Pass and Yukon Railway, and the Mendenhall helicopter glacier tour. All three were amazing (although the helicopter one almost didn’t happen because of weather; I guess that’s common). We had saved up specifically for the excursions so we chose a few of the more pricey ones but we didn’t regret it. They were all three incredible!
I read this post way back when you posted it but I’m not sure if anybody ever asked you about what you wore to formal night on the cruise? I’m looking for a short, modest dress that packs well. Do you have any experience with that? It goes without saying that I read every post and love them. You’re so relatable. Anytime we have other people over to dinner and they ask about my meal my kids say it’s most likely Mel’s! I smile and say it sure is!
Hey Katie! I kept it SUPER simple for formal night because I wasn’t about to spend a lot of money on a formal dress I’d never wear again. I have a black knee length dress from Ann Taylor I got on clearance about 4 years ago that I still wear. I brought some black strappy high heeled sandals to wear with it on the cruise and a long necklace to dress it up a bit. Unfortunately, the dress isn’t sold anymore but it’s similar to this one: https://www.anntaylor.com/matte-jersey-wrap-dress/485248?skuId=26731995&defaultColor=2222&catid=cata000012 it’s kind of spendy for a dress, but if you wear it for as many years as I’ve worn mine, it’s probably worth it! Good luck!
Thanks for from the suggestion. I agree that keeping it super simple is the way to go. That dress is even $50 off right now! Thank you for being so sincere and sweet with your replies. You are an online treasure!
I’ve never taken an ocean cruise – way too many people for my taste – but I have taken numerous river cruises in Europe with Uniworld. The evening meals are AWESOME gourmet experiences, lots of choices, professionally presented, nicely sized small portions, which you need for 5 courses! Breakfasts and lunches are upscale buffets. Don’t let a mass market cruise experience turn you off travel completely, try a small ship (100 passenger) tour instead, you will be amazed at how different the experience is.
And I feel for you about the BC West Coast weather – we sailed the coast every summer when I was a kid, one year it would be sunny every day, the next year it seemed to rain every day. But still breathtakingly beautiful (provided you could see it through the fog, of course!)
I have two kids. I always pictured myself as a typical Mormon mom with 6-12 kids. 😉 now that my second is almost 3 and no third on the way I am faced with the possibility that my life is not going to be what I planned years ago. I was really starting to freak out about what I am going to do when they are both in school. So I started a blog. Eek. I have only published a few posts but it has already helped with my anxiety. I have really enjoyed your posts and recipes. Thank you for your inspiration!
I have been meaning to come to your site and read this post for over two weeks! Love your Friday Thoughts (along with everything else) and meant to comment on the last several of these posts but never got around to it. Your post on schedules earlier in the summer was awesome and helped me so much. Our summer schedule did not look exactly like yours but one of your ideas gave me the missing piece I had been trying to think of for weeks! Thank you! And I REALLY want to hear more about your jean discoveries (I think about buying a “real” pair of jeans often, but I’m afraid to spend so much money and just keep going back to Old Navy jeans that are on sale) as well as hear more about the way piano practice has changed in your family (help!). Perhaps a Friday Thoughts post that includes the best nuggets and ideas you have gotten from your readers?
I’m struggling with our schedule now that school is back in swing. Hard to fit in all the “things” (homework, piano, jobs/chores) and still give my kids some down time, which I feel is very important. And I’m with you on how quickly the day goes by. I still have one child at home, but he is easy enough that I already know that after he starts school I’m still going to look back at each day and wonder how I got nothing done. After feeling the nudge for some time, I recently started a public instagram account (I’m a dietitian) and have really struggled with finding the time to keep up with it. I have often thought of you and wondered how you do it. I am sure most people can’t imagine how much of your time it takes up. Thank you.
On travel, I’m a 40 year-old homebody like you, but we occasionally find ourselves living overseas with my husband’s government job and definitely make the most of travel opportunities while we are far from home and the opportunity clock is ticking. (We say we will take the same approach when when we go back to the US but never do.) At any rate, because we currently live in a “hardship” post, we are alloted travel expenses home (or elsewhere) during our tour, and while a cruise is not my top choice for seeing destinations, it counts as travel so we are sailing from Athens to Rome with several stops in between with our kids next summer. Traveling with kids is hard, but I think several aspects of cruising will make things easier and we could never visit so many places with them otherwise. They had better appreciate it! 😉
Thanks for the book recommendation! Since you have a bunch of boys, may I recommend The Boys in the Boat and Unbroken? They are both nonfiction books about boys who overcame obstacles to accomplish great things. Even though I usually prefer fiction, I loved these books. I gave the young readers versions to my 13-year-old boy to read and he couldn’t put them down, and I felt good about him branching out from the fantasy books he usually reads.
I didn’t even think of looking for young reader versions of those books. Thank you!
The very first thing I noticed is your oldest is wearing a Penn State shirt! We Are! My oldest went away to college last year and this year she came back! She is at community college and is home what seems like all the time now. With the other 2 in school all day this has been a new challenge to make her feel loved and still have me time. God has a plan and it will all work out.
We organize lunches the night before when possible and little guy packs 5 snack bags on Sunday night. I have never been on a cruise and I love your blog!
Thanks for the comment, Helen! My son is a HUGE fan of the Penn State wrestling program. 🙂
Hi Mel —
I enjoy your blog and your recipes — thank you. This time you hit one of my favorite topics so I have to chime in.
First — Gentleman in Moscow — I liked it very much. Not much action, but all about kindness and heart. Second, my two recommendations: The Peaceable Kingdom, by Jan de Hartog. Nominated for a Nobel in 1972. It is a fictional account of the origins of the Quaker way of life. It doesn’t require that you agree or believe — it describes people trying to do the right thing by their lights. Then, A Vision of Light, by Judith Merkle Riley. This is the story of a young woman in the 1300s who is also trying to do the right thing. Both stories are heartwarming and uplifting (and make me want to be a better person). If you try one, I’d be interested in your thoughts.
Oh, I’m so excited about those book recommendations, Margaret! They seem exactly like the books I’m after right now. THANK YOU!
I just moved to Alaska (my husband is in the military), and all of August was rainy in Anchorage. September has been spectacular though – you need to come back! Fall is in full swing here, and it’s gorgeous! Fly into Anchorage, rent an RV and drive up to Denali! It’s amazing! Love your Viking beanie – way to work it!
Yes, I DO think I need to come back!
My husband and I have been on three cruises–one to the Bahamas 25 years ago that was forgettable and two to Alaska, both with Holland America. In 2013, we did a two-week land and sea package with members of my husband’s family, and in 2016 we did a weeklong cruise with just the two of us. Both were amazing.
We LOVED Alaska! So much so that even though we were planning to do the New England-Canada cruise in 2016, just before we booked it my husband said, “Let’s go back to Alaska.” And we did.
Did you go zip-lining? When we were in Ketchikan in 2013, I went zip-lining (and had a blast) and my husband went to the Misty Fjords.
Love reading your blog and perusing your recipes. One of your brownie recipes has become my go-to.
Hey Beth! I love that you have loved your Alaska cruises so much! After reading this thread, I wish we would have gone on Holland America instead of Princess Cruises (although we still had a great time). Both Brian and I did a ziplining excursion and it was one of my favorites even though I was super nervous!
Mel, this is such a fun post, as these Friday ones always are! Love how you are always so real. I am glad you got to go away on a trip with your husband–so special–and you deserve it after you do so much for everyone else. We did our first cruise last summer to the eastern Caribbean on Oasis of the Seas (Royal Caribbean) and though it was fantastic. I really liked the food and the service was amazing. I figure if I don’t have to shop, cook, and clean it up, I am pretty happy and not too hard to please when I am on vacation. I would love to do a European river cruise sometime. We have also done a few all-inclusives, which in my opinion have been fabulous (Beaches Turks & Caicos was our favorite). The Beaches ones are so family friendly and fun for everyone. My boys are older so our new thing is we have been doing week long vacations in big cities. We’ve been to San Diego, San Francisco, New Orleans, and Charleston in the last couple of years and have absolutely loved it–so much to see and do. We all do love the outdoors very much and enjoy hiking, fishing, camping, etc. Our favorite new place to go is Attean Lake Lodge in Jackman, Maine. It is a very special place and we have been there the last 3 summers. What a place to relax and unwind off the grid–I know it’s far for you, but if you are ever on the east coast, check it out (and come see me in Connecticut!).
I’ve been at at-home mom for the last 20 years and have loved every minute. This year was a big change for me also as my younger son went off to college in NYC and my oldest son, who attends college in Philadelphia, is now studying in Madrid for the fall semester. It was a bit stressful getting them ready towards the end of the summer. They both seem very happy and adjusted so far (you know that expression, “you are only as happy as your least happy child”) so if they are happy, I am. And although I really miss them, my husband and I are really adjusting quite nicely, LOL. It reminds us how much we loved spending time together before the kids (we just celebrated our 25th last month). We have a couple of little weekends away planned, but are just enjoying spending our evenings and weekends together and taking walks and drives together, which we both love. The day does really go by fast, but I am looking forward to doing a lot of projects I’ve been putting off for so long. For several years, I have been volunteering at a food pantry a couple of days a week and doing volunteer fundraising for a non-profit, so that also keeps me busy, too. Now I am looking forward to taking some cooking classes for fun, incorporating even more yoga and exercise classes into my week (I am taking my first Zumba class tonight and am kind of scared as I am definitely not a dancer!), and continuing to enjoy my time with my many at-home mom friends, who are so special to me. Thank you for sharing all this fun in this post. Love it so much! xo
Hi Mel – I love your Friday thoughts! The school year has its ups and downs. We’re public schoolers in a pretty impoverished small southern town. I’m grateful for many aspects of my and my children’s experience in our school setting, and there are challenges, too. We’re butting up against those challenges already this year, and it’s tough to know when to step in/pray and when to hang back & wait/pray. I’m feeling better about school lunches, though, just by purchasing a few reusable containers. Just knowing I’m sending far fewer plastic baggies into the trash is encouraging…baby steps, right?! The book you mentioned is on my list, and I had heard the same things about it – slow to start, but hang in there, you’ll not regret it, etc. I’m feeling it for winter, so I’m shelving it for now. BUT, I did read a delightful book recently: “The Unexpected Mrs. Pollifax” – an easy, enjoyable, well-written novel from the 1960’s or 70’s – can’t quite remember now. It’s so refreshingly fun, while also being suspenseful. I really liked it. We have not been on a cruise before, but I think I’d like to, someday. My husband’s boss went on one of the cruises through Europe, the ones they always advertise on PBS, and the pictures he sent of his food – alone! – make me want to sign over my firstborn & jump aboard! 🙂 However, we probably needed to have started saving as toddlers in order to make that happen….! Thanks for your thoughts & questions. I appreciate you!
Thanks for the book recommendation, Nancy! Sounds right up my alley. So, so many people are saying those European cruises are where it’s at! I don’t know if another cruise is in our future, but I think if one is, I’m going to look into that (and start saving like you mentioned – yikes!). Good luck with the school year. It sounds as if your location and circumstances pose a unique set of challenges that can be rewarding…and HARD! Hang in there, my friend!
Hi Mel, Please come back to Alaska!!
Forget the cruise ship: just come on up to Petersburg (the MOST beautiful town in all of Southeast Alaska) and stay a few days with us! Living here over 30 years as an Idaho transplant, I still am amazed at the beauty of this place! Bring your kids, or just you and your hubby! I love your blog, recipes and humor, and would love to meet you. I too, have 5 kids – all boys and more fun than possible- and it’s true: they do leave you.
Hey Donna! I definitely think we WILL be back to Alaska. The beauty totally captured us and we want to bring our kids back. Thanks for the recommendation (and invitation) to Petersburg – I will definitely let you know if we find ourselves up that way (although I don’t think I’d ever subject you to our chaos…haha!)
Hi, Mel, Before giving up on cruises, you MUST go on a Viking Riverboat Cruise, the Rhine or the Danube rivers. We just returned, and the food was absolutely amazing. ( think orzo with truffles. Salmon Benedict…) Quiet, romantic, non-touristy, but no kids under 18.
We are in our 70’s, and had never been to Europe, so it was time.
Love the hat! I remain a faithful follower. I hardly use my Kitchen Tested cookbooks anymore since I found you! Have you been approached by Food Network yet? Wink wink:) BTW, your sweet and sour chicken recipe is the BOMB!
Nancy, that river cruise sounds amazing! I think several other people recommended that exact same one in the comment thread. Wow! That would be a dream. (And thanks for your sweet words – SO happy you love the recipes! We just made the sweet and sour chicken tonight and Brian declared it, for the 100th time, his favorite meal in the history of ever!).
Cruises – we did an Alaska cruise ad well and sounds like it was similar in the places we went to port at. We did have great weather so that has an impact. We loved Alaska. It was our first cruise and for seeing Alaska it was great. I am not sure I would do another cruise. We definitely did not catch the big. And for me the food was good. Just good, nothing great. I thought the buffets were just so-so. I have family that loves the food so I had high expectations. Oh well, I didn’t go for the food. The best meal we had was on one of our excursions we had a fish fry – the fish was so fresh. So there is that.
I agree, seeing Alaska was amazing! And the food was decent. But after reading all these comments, I think if we vacation again, I’m going for a land trip (plan our own adventure), a river cruise in Europe (ha! That’s a dream) or some kind of all inclusive resort. So many options! Considering this Alaska cruise was our first real vacation as a couple in 16 years, it’ll be a while before we have to make that decision. 🙂
Has someone already said this? I didn’t read ALL the comments, but seriously, listen to the audiobook on a faster speed. I highly recommend teaching yourself to listen at 2.0x. You’ll be amazed that it doesn’t sound like chipmunks, you get used to it really fast, and that’s about the right pace for storytelling, IMO. I’ve listened to A LOT of audiobooks :). A Gentleman in Moscow wasn’t one of my favorite books, I’ll be honest. I have thoughts on it, but basically it wasn’t my cup of tea. Have you read Educated? That’s a huge page turner, and I loved it with my LDS, homeschooling, married to an Idaho boy heart. If you like a little YA Scorpio Races is amazingly narrated–one of those books that improves with narration. And…if you can handle some swearing I love Liane Moriarty’s books as audiobooks.
I’ve tried faster but 1.25X is about all I can take. My brain must move slower. 🙂 I haven’t read those books but thanks for the recommendations!
I have no real words of wisdom but just so you know, these years of school will go by quite soon and they will be off on their own (as your friend put it!). And if your family is like mine, you’ll be ushered in to taking care of your parents after your kids are grown. Yep, I’m sandwiched in and although it’s been a few years since this has been the case, I am struggling to find balance in what I *really* want to do and what my parents need.
Lunchboxes – my kids ate school lunches and then came home and devoured leftovers that were homemade. To this day, as adults, they love leftovers. (insert heart-eyes emoticon here!).
I just got the book “Joyful” from the author that wrote it – Ingrid was at a work function for the company I work for. Haven’t started it as reading is on the back burner as I juggle things.
I have never been on a cruise. Maybe one day, but I hope to go somewhere warm.
Vikings – I live in Vikings territory and cannot stand football. What did you think of yesterday’s game? LOL
I finally made dinner on Friday night – homemade spaghetti. Not your recipe, sorry, but the troops (couple of them were at my house for dinner) loved it. Great food still makes my world go around.
Went back to read about school lunches and noticed that you were actually talking about your high school, i.e. Vikings mascot. Oops LOL
Good luck with your busy life, Becky! That would be an interesting turn of phase to have kids leave and then take care of elderly parents. I can see how that would be a struggle to find balance. Thanks for the book recommendation!
I’m not yet at the point of all-kids-in-school. I still have a 1.5-year-old, so it’ll be a few years! But my next youngest started kindergarten this fall and my days have been amazingly quiet! I haven’t had one baby at home since I was still at BYU and working for Res Life while I finished by degree, so it’s kind of a new experience for me. I too have had grand ideas of projects completed (painting and quilting are also on my list), but none of that has happened. Why does the rest of life have to take so much of my quilting time? I put that book on hold. Thanks for the recommendation. I have to say, I didn’t like Rules of Civility though. It was fun to read about your cruise! We haven’t cruised, but my husband and I lived in Juneau for a summer back in 2009 and saw all the boats and tourists coming through. It’s pretty beautiful when the weather isn’t miserable. Checking out your lunch box recommendation now!
Hey Vicky – thanks for chiming in! If I’m learning anything from this comment thread it is that life’s phases come at you fast, and I think we are all doing our best to be as adaptable as possible (even though it’s hard sometimes!). Glad you have a bit more quiet…and good luck getting those projects done. If you find the magic secret to doing so, let me know. Haha. Interesting about Rules of Civility!
I really enjoyed Gentleman in Moscow but I wasn’t blown away by it. It was pretty slow for my taste. I enjoyed Amor Towles other book Rules of Civility better. He creates these amazing characters and beautiful scenes. I’ve recently discovered Neil Gaiman. I don’t know anyone who writes like him. I think he’s considered Fantasy. He wrote The Ocean at the End of the Lane and Neverwhere which are great stories. He’s most known for American Gods which is very interesting but has some questionable language and the “bad” guys are pretty crass.
I finished A Gentleman in Moscow this week, too. I had started it a few times, but was also a little bored. I’m so glad I pushed through this time. So good! I highly recommend his other novel, Rules of Civility.
Thanks, Rudi! Lots of recommendations for Rules of Civility!
I picked that book for my book club month and half way through listening to it on audible, I changed my mind and book! I couldn’t stay awake and found it SO boring! Maybe I need to endure it again per your suggestion? I loved hearing about your cruise. That’s on my bucket list!
Let me know what you think if you start the book again!
Mel, I love your posts and feel like we’d be best friends in real life. My kids tease me about talking about “my friend Mel”. Love your recipes and I especially love and appreciate the weekly menu you post at the bottom of your home page. About 85% of what I cook comes from you. So thanks!
1-about school lunches, after reading your post a while back, I instituted the same type of thing with my kids (I have 7). But in a much simpler form. It goes like this: at least one fruit and one veggie, and no more than one thing from the pantry. They pack their own lunches and do a pretty good job keeping things balanced and healthy.
2-cruises. I’ve only been on one with my husband. Alaskan cruise on Royal Caribbean cruiseline. It was fabulous, and we were lucky to get fantastic weather with lots of clear skies. My favorite part was being able to focus 100% on being a wife and friend to my spouse. I think it’s so important to create time to focus on marriage and connect without distractions.
3-I start the new phase of “all kids at school all day” next school year and am seriously dreading it. I tear up frequently just thinking about it. I love my little 4 year old boyfriend who I get to hang out with all day. At the same time, I get excited thinking about how much more efficient I’ll be able to move throughout my day and get my tasks done. I teach piano before and after school right now and am hoping to add some homeschooled students during the school day next year to keep me busy and earning money. Hold onto and cherish your time with your kids. . . my oldest left the nest a year ago on a mission, then off to college. Life is short.
Enjoy your nice 70’s degree weather. I live in the beautiful desert of Arizona, and we’re still high 90’s during the day. When you’re covered in snow, we’ll be enjoying nice 70’s degree weather. There are trade-offs!
Tell Brian hi. I was his ballroom dance partner our BYU freshman year. Such a good guy!
Hi Mel,
I enjoy reading your blog and trying your recipes. I check out your website about once per week and enjoy reading about your family. Piano Lessons? I was a piano teacher for 10 years before going back to public music education K-5. My PhD is in music education. I think I can answer any questions you may have about helping with piano lessons and teaching music to children.
Happy to Help,
Susan Hines
Greensboro, NC
Thank you so much, Susan! What a generous offer! I might be sending you an email soon with my questions!
Oh my goodness, Mel, you are adorable all around, but that Viking hat picture is so cute! You make me want to get one . . . too bad that’s not our mascot! As far as the school year is going, is it bad that I have proclaimed several times already that I hate this whole year? Trying to get up in time to make breakfast and lunches and get 4 kids out the door by 7:40 is killing me, especially on the days we have piano lessons before school (bless their teacher). I keep thinking I’m going to make one of your overnight breakfasts but fall asleep each night before I can. I am definitely going to start utilizing your school lunch checklist, though. Thanks! So, I just did a quick perusal of some of the other comments, and think it says wonderful things about you that so many of us feel like we would be real-life friends if we lived near each other. You are just such a likable person. Thanks for the great recipes and the glimpses into your life that help us all get to know you better.
You are the cutest, Corinne. 🙂 And my goodness, I hear you on the schedule thing. I actually really like schedules – they make me happy and feel centered but trying to get out of the house on time in the mornings is going to kill me off, too. Hang in there.
I just wanted to let you know that I love your posts and recommendations. I have bought several things off Amazon that you wrote about ( my favorite is the Victorinox knife you suggested – I use it ALL the time!) I also love your recipes and just reading about your experiences. I look forward to your posts, so thank you!
I have never been on a cruise and probably won’t ever go on one. I tend to be a stay at home type. I do enjoy hearing about other peoples trips though.
I think the better a cook is, the less impressed we are by food when we eat out. In general I like to eat out where I am eating something I don’t fix myself. On the other hand, people who eat out a lot and don’t cook much enjoy eating things that don’t impress me. Maybe I’m just a bit odd?
I haven’t read that book, but I have read and recommended:
To the Last Salute by Georg Von Trapp ( this is the autobiography of his WWI submarine service ) I read the book on this one.
Write it when I’m Gone by Thomas M DeFrank ( Bio of Gerald Ford)
Ladies of Liberty by Cokie Roberts ( post revolutionary history based on lives of presidents wives and women during the span of John Adams presidency to John Quincy Adams)
The last two I listened to as audio books and really enjoyed. I listened in the car and they worked well in small doses during my short trips to volunteer and shop.
I’m in that retirement stage, and enjoying time for volunteer work, reading and crafts. I’m sure you will adapt to this new stage in your life. Each stage has its own joys, but we have to give ourselves time to adjust.
Bless you for all your efforts and time spent sharing recipes and your life with us.
Love these recommendations!
Wow! I was going to read through the comments but didn’t realize how many there are. Friday posts bring out all the comments! Thanks for these- it’s interesting to hear what’s on your mind, especially to discover it’s a lot of the same as many of us. My youngest started kindergarten so even though it’s half day and the morning FLIES by, I definitely feel I’ve entered a new stage of life since it’s the first time in 10 years that I’ve had regular time alone (no preschool so it was 24/7 before). It’s also bittersweet since I’ve left a stage of my life that I was finally getting better at- having little kids at home, going to the park, moms groups, outings, etc. it’s sad to know I won’t be packing a snack and going to meet other moms at the park at 10am, idly passing the hours with nothing else on the agenda.
I’ve been on 3 cruises, all with my husband before kids (he likes cruises). We did the California coast/Catalina, México, and Bermuda. I mostly enjoyed them, though it’s not my favorite vacation. If you do ever want to do another cruise, the best one for good/better food is (or at least was) Celebrity Cruise line. They’re known for having better food, and I did notice a significant difference. It’s nice to not have to worry about making any big decisions once you’re on the ship, but it felt almost too scheduled for me (obviously you don’t have to go to anything but sitting in your cabin all day isn’t super fun), and all the clothing changes weren’t exactly my cup of tea. I prefer a bit of spontaneity and exploration- the element of an unexpected adventure or having an amazing meal at a local favorite or meeting people and having great conversation. Being an introvert this can still feel overwhelming and hard to pull off, but it’s happened many times and those are my favorite travel memories. Train travel is my absolute favorite, and allows for all of the above. Once with a detailed itinerary, my husband and I last minute decided to jump off the train in San Sebastián, Spain because we couldn’t imagine not spending a couple days in such gorgeous scenery. And sometimes just lounging on a beach reading a good book all day (and napping) can’t be beat.
Happy start of the school year/what do you want to be for Halloween/what am I making for Thanksgiving/I can’t believe it’s almost Christmas season. And thanks for the lunch bag rec. Enjoy!
I love your travel thoughts so much, Jennifer! I agree that cruises definitely aren’t for the spontaneous traveler, but I can see why they appeal to people (and why we loved so many parts of it!). I think I’m learning that I need to really push myself out of my comfort zone for travel (any type) and I need to experience more types before I really decide how I feel about it all. haha. Good luck with this new phase of school/family life!
Sorry, correction to my earlier post re: Alaskan train to Denali should be 10 hrs. not 20.
Loved hearing about your cruise! Making spaghetti pie tonight! I always look forward to reading your posts and trying your recipes.
Thanks, Michelle!
We have never been on a cruise instead opting for all-inclusive resorts in Mexico. We love the 24 hour access to all food and treats, staying in one spot and having access to the beach the whole vacation. We love it and are taking our kids again in October. Someday I’d like to do a cruise but I get so motion sick that I’m nervous! Thanks for the book recommendation!
1. I am in your same boat this school year. First time they are all in school. It is shocking to me how little time I actually have, but also nice. I started teaching one class at the local community college and that has been a fun professional adventure for me.
2. I loved Gentleman of Moscow but most people I talk to have the same reaction you did. It is a slow start but a beautiful book. Glad you are enjoying it. (Thanks, by the way, you got me hooked on Revisionist History. It is amazing!)
3. We did an Alaskan Cruise and loved it. We went on the Holland America line where the food was life changing, however these days any vacation with my husband counts. Glad you got some time with yours.
4. Love the hat!!!!
How fun, Emily! What are you teaching? And I’m so happy you are loving the RH podcast. I’m anxiously awaiting a new season to start. Our friends also had rave reviews about Alaska cruises through HOlland America and I’m wishing now we would have gone through them instead of Princess. It was still an amazing trip, though. 🙂
Hi Mel. OH my goodness, what did you feed Jackson this summer? what a hunk he’s becoming!! the girls at Middleton High are sure to take notice. We have lost our cellar dwellers to their new home, so now we have 4 unused bedrooms and would love to have some company. If you can’t cruise the oceans, cruise on over here. Greg dug up the zucchini plant the other day, so that must mean fall is here ( or maybe he’s had it with zucchini). Miss you tons. Michele
Well you better be careful what you offer because you know we’ll probably take you up on that. Miss your humor and wisdom and general awesomeness SO much. And Jackson has a smile as wide as the Mississippi after reading your comment. Of course I turned to him and said “I hope the girls are NOT taking notice” haha.
Thank you for making me laugh out loud this morning with that last picture! I just love you! I have followed your blog since the very beginning and I have always loved any post about your family, especially when they include pictures, because our families are so similar! I have 4 boys and one girl and they are almost identical ages to yours but my daughter came first. AND I live in Wisconsin. When I found out we were moving here 7 years ago I seriously hoped we would be in the same ward because I just knew we would become very good friends! But then you moved!!
Anyway, my last child started full day school this year and I have been vasilating between sadness and excitement over all the possibilities this extra time will offer! The kids are thriving, hope yours are too. Thanks for being so real and letting all of us be a part of your life. I love your food but I also love knowing you through your posts!
Oh thank you so much, Andrea! I really miss Wisconsin. In fact it’s funny because I have this recurring dream ALL the time that I’m driving over the Fox river in Green Bay and I wake up and almost feel like we’ve moved back. Anyway, I love that our families are so similar! And thanks for laughing at that picture as it was intended. I think it’s officially the 3rd selfie I’ve ever taken in my life. Haha.
Oh Mel, your honesty and spirit are so great in these posts!
So I actually have my youngest home with me – this is our 4th year of cyber school. He’s a senior this year! Needless to say I have a TON of anxiety about him going to college next year. I think it’s fairly unusual for a mom and 17 year old boy to have the close relationship that we have, and I am so blessed for it. I know he’s going to do awesome things in life but if I could slow down the days this school year, I would!
I have never been on a cruise and truly have zero desire to go on one. I do however have a major case of wanderlust and want a road trip every.single.weekend. but I’m a busybody and need to hike mountains and snorkel waters and have major adventures on my trips, so I think I would feel cooped up on a cruise.
As for books, an oldy but goody and favorite of mine is The Ultimate Gift by Jim Stovall. Have you read it? It’s a short book but has an AMAZING lesson to teach. I have actually been reading it out loud around the campfire to my family, because I want them to have the moral story and get their thoughts on what the Ultimate Gift would mean to them.
Thanks again for the great “talk”! Keep them coming, and the wonderful recipes, love your whole blog and family and lifestyle! ❤
Loved your comment, Rebekah! I feel sheepish because I haven’t heard of or read that book but I just ordered it on Amazon, so thanks! 🙂 I love your spirit of adventure…and admire your relationship with your son. He’s a lucky kid!
Oh Mel,
I feel like we’re friends even though you have no idea who I am. Thanks for the recipes, great thoughts, game recommendations (my kids are beyond grateful to you for suggesting Sleeping Queens), for asking people for book suggestions (I just love hearing about books people love. What are your all time favs? You’ve probably said before. Juliet Marillier? I love all sorts of books. A few of my favs are: These Is My Words, The Trapp Family Singers, Les Miserables, The Summer of the Monkeys, love so many books by Louisa May Alcott, To Kill a Mockingbird, I am Malala, and I should really stop now), and for sharing your amazingly with the world.
So, I have never cruised, something my husband is so sad about. I would much rather road trip, so I could get out whenever I want. Also, I am a home girl and get a lot of anxiety leaving my kids for too long. I’d much rather vacation as a family, but with 4 kids things get pricier. So- we go camping, National Parks, naturing, etc. a lot which makes my kids beyond happy. I asked them, “Disneyland or camping?” Each one said camping. Maybe it’s because they haven’t actually been to Disneyland yet. My poor kids.
I’m looking forward to the day all my kids are in school :), and also do not looking forward to it :(. It is definitely a laugh/cry situation. My kids range from 9-18 months, with 2 still at home, so I have a while before I’m a free range day mama, and that’s ok with me (most days:)). I’m just going to try and enjoy these sweet moments, and even not sweet moments, with my littles while I have them. One of the things my 4 year old loves to do with me is bake. She’s getting to be an excellent egg cracker. So thanks for all those recipes which create family bonding moments for me.
Really and truly, thank you, Mel.
Hey Brandi! Yes, we sound a lot alike (poor you! haha). 🙂 I honestly dreaded the day my kids went to school; as hard and chaotic as days at home can be, I really, really love having my kids around me. But as the years go by and I realize that they need wings to fly (sounds cheesy, but really, I want them to launch one day into successful adults and I’m learning that takes daily opportunities to practice with those wings), I’m doing better at letting them go (during the day to school and in other situations). But I always get a little weird and melancholy around the transitional times (i.e. start of school). I think the Lord blessed me with a desire and drive to get things done and an ability and love for TIME. I love time. And I love getting things done. And that helps soften the blow…and also turns it around where I get really energized by the time I have to do that. Thank goodness it has been in baby steps and all five kids didn’t just up and leave me one day for all day school together. I think it’s pretty far off that we’d take the whole family on a cruise or other big vacation mostly because we also love camping, hiking and outdoor exploring (and also, cost, yikes!). They’ve gone to Disneyland once and loved it but honestly they talk more about the fish they caught this summer then they ever have about Disneyland. Our favorite vacation ever was driving out to the Redwood National Forest and hiking around there. Amazing. I love that your 4-year old is a baker with you. Love that so much! And thanks for the book recommendations. I love anything by Juliet Marillier (well not anything, mostly the Sevenwaters series but you have to enjoy fantasy for her writing) and Susannah Kearsley. I also really love Kate Morton books. I haven’t read Louisa May Alcott in years! Time to revisit that! Thank you!
Hi Mel! I was so ready to send my 2 big kids back to school! But I was super pregnant and just had no patience left for the craziness of summer with 4 little kids at home. I just had my baby and so my kids got to have hot lunch at school for a whole week! Now it’s time to get back to making lunches. I feel like I’ve been in a rut so I’m looking forward to revisiting your list and mixing things up a bit.
My husband and I did a Hawaiian cruise for our honeymoon. It was our first and only cruise and we loved it. We did 7 days/5 ports. It is a great way to see more than one island. We traveled at night so we got to spend all day exploring the different islands.
The only book suggestion I have is don’t read All the Light We Cannot See. It’s an easy read and written by a guy from Boise, but it’s a very depressing book. There are better books written about that time period.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. 🙂
Congratulations on your baby, Stephanie!! And right at the beginning of the school year. Talk about crazy! Good luck getting into a new routine. I actually tried listening to that book years ago but could never get through it (but I had friends rave about it, so I still feel like I’m missing out??).
Love your recipes and thoughts and everything about your blog! Thanks for the work and effort!
I’ve been on a few cruises and by far the Disney cruise was the best when my kids were younger. Otherwise I love all inclusive resorts ! Villa Del Palmar has a number of places in Mexico – the all inclusive is reasonable and the results are lovely.
Books : I love love my audible account. I drive a lot for my work and it makes me want to get back in the car . A few of my latest favorites : The Winter Garden by Kristen Hannah ( and The Great Alone too !) , We Were The Lucky Ones ( historical fiction which is my favorite !) and anything Jodi Piccoult writes -I love her work -her books present a moral, societal dilemma through the story and she does a great job fleshing all all sides. Such interesting stories!
Summer -I can do relate to making it to the end. I work during the school year as a speech pathologist and I was a single mom of 2 great kids for a number of years ( they are now a freshman and senior in high school !). I got married again about 3 years ago to someone who has his kids for summers and some holidays. My stepchildren do not come from an idyllic situation -when they come for the summer we try to model what a typical family looks and functions like ( not perfect by any chance !). It’s a sad tragic situation that isn’t changing so we are trying to make the best of it. So, easy summers with my own 2 kids have moved to busy, hard summers with 6 kids. By the end I want to run away and I am spent. I usually leave towards the end of their visit to take my kids to visit my family and spend time with them while my husband can spend some alone time with his children. Mixed families are hard and no matter what it takes a desire to make it work. 🙂 I am grateful and very happy but definitely struggle with the end and summer overall! My husband and I also try to spend sometime alone after his kids go back as a way to regroup and relax.
I set things up as summer gets started with lists and meal plans and structure but by August I’m just grateful they are taking their shoes off in the house. It’s time for me to go back to work too and if I don’t feel like I’ve had much of a break it’s harder to jump back in.
There are so many stages of our lives and seeing all your kids off to school is definitely a transition. Take care of you and recharge while they are away. It makes us better moms !
You are the 2nd person to say all inclusive resorts are where it’s at (and the millionth to say Disney cruises are IT!). I’ve read and loved both of those books by Kristin Hannah! (Started The Great Alone on the tail end of our Alaska cruise and it was great timing). I haven’t read We Were the Lucky Ones but thanks for the recommendations. I’ve loved a lot of Jodi Picoults books, too. Thank you! And wow, you are a selfless and amazing woman to embrace a new kind of summer with your kids and your step kids. It sounds incredibly challenging and I think you are wise to acknowledge that instead of looking for a fairy tale situation. I don’t blame you for wanting to run away at the end…and then you jump right into work! You are a good woman. Thanks for inspiring me!
You are an inspiration as always Mel! I’m looking for a take-in meal recipe but just have to take a minute to comment. My youngest is in second grade so I went through that home-alone-all-day transition last year and, after I mourned for a couple of months, I have learned to embrace this whole stage of life. There are so many things that I have wanted to do for the last 10+ years and now I can finally do them!! (Not ALL of them of course.) You should look into cleaning the temple on Monday mornings with me! We are a little short right now and it’s so neat and uplifting and waaaaayyyyy more fun than cleaning my own house! 9-12 am and its a great way to start the week.
I have a new LOVE for Alaska. FIRST, I read “The Great Alone” which I see someone else has recommended (with good reason) and THEN my daughter got her mission call there!!! I have never been but have already requested a personally guided tour from her for summer 2021. I have been on 2 1/2 Caribbean cruises (yes, there’s a story) and might be done with cruises for a decade or so. I, too, am usually underwhelmed by the food yet amazed by the staff’s ability to produce it! However, cruises are a good way to see a lot of different places in one trip so maybe I’ll be eating my words and going on another one sooner than I have planned. Hopefully not Alaska though – I want to fly around in those little seaplanes and see all kinds of different landscapes.
Keep up fighting the good fight and omigosh your three middle boys look like triplets in that picture! (Insert heart eyes).
Lori, that’s so true about embracing the new phase of life…and for me, NOT feeling guilty about the time (even if it’s still cram packed with things to do and I’m busier than ever). Are you cleaning at Meridian? I actually started reading The Great Alone at the tail end of our Alaska cruise and it was perfect timing (loved the book but especially after having been there). Amazing that your daughter is serving a mission there!! And the 2 1/2 cruises certainly has a great (probably not to you) story behind it. 🙂
Yes, I help clean the Meridian Temple. It is a perfect fit for me.