Friday Thoughts: Surviving Summer
Well, hello there! Even though it’s only mid-July, it’s hard to believe that summer break is more than half over for us.
It’s been a summer of ups and downs. Lots of fun, lots of challenges. Some wonderful memories made and some disappointments here and there. Just life, you know? But overall, I think we can all say it’s been a pretty good one.
This Friday Thoughts post is kind of long. It’s random. It’s a little weird. It makes me feel slightly vulnerable in parts. But it’s all real life stuff! I don’t blame you if you don’t read it all. Clearly I just needed to get a lot of stuff out of my brain and into this space, so no worries if you give up after the first paragraph. If you make it to the end, you deserve a super rock star award.
As I say with each of these posts, what I really want is to hear from you! Let me know how your summer is going, and weigh in on anything and everything below! It’s a highlight for me when I read all of your comments.
You can catch all Friday Thoughts posts here (some of the best discussion and information in the comment threads of these posts).
1) Card Game Obsession: In between the massive amounts of outdoor projects and yard work we have done and have yet to do, we’ve found our new game obsession. Oh man. This simple card game is SO fun. I bought it after one of you recommended it in one of my last game posts, and we’ve already introduced it to so many friends and family (who have instantly fell in love and bought it too). It’s called Play Nine {aff. link}. It looks like a game all about golf (which actually kind of turned me off initially, no offense golf people), but other than trying to get a low score, it’s not really anything like golf. Highly, highly recommend this, especially since it can be played with as few as two people or as many as six people, and it is super easy to catch on. Yep, we’re obsessed.
2) Craziest Cookie of My Life: I posted this pic on Instagram last week asking for help thinking of what to call these cookies. Seriously, you guys, they are insane. So, so delicious. I’ve made probably six or seven batches of them in the last two weeks (notably, I just made 150 of them for my cousins’ wedding dinner yesterday). I received over 400 messages on Instagram (!!) with name suggestions, and all I can say is: you guys crack me up. I’ll be posting the recipe next week, and I’ll definitely be highlighting the winning name as well as some of the others that are too good not to share. Any last thoughts? What do you think this cookie should be called??
3) Cookie Dough Business: Speaking of cookies, my older three kids are busy earning money for a church trek/camp coming up, as well as a family trip we have set for next spring break (each of them are earning several hundred dollars toward the cost of the trip). My older two boys have “official” jobs (one working hard at a horse ranch and the other doing upkeep/yard work/fix it projects on our rental property and 20 acres behind us). That leaves my sweet 12-year old who decided he wanted to sell cookie dough. He put together this flier and got to work!
He literally spent three full days in the kitchen making cookie dough and freezing it in preparation for sales. He’s done his best to get the word out to neighbors and friends in the area and so far he’s sold almost 20 dozen cookie dough balls! Proud of him and all his hard work as he has tackled this largely on his own (he’s an amazing chef/baker so it was a natural business choice). We do need to work a bit on degreasing the kitchen floor and “cleaning as you go” but overall, it’s been fun to see him work on this.
4) Family Reunion Recap: Brian and I planned his extended family reunion this year. The planning consumed my every waking moment for a long time, and I was equal parts relieved and sad when it was over. His family of 48 prefers to stay under the same roof for reunions, which is awesome but poses challenges finding a space for that large group.
This year after asking on Instagram for your recommendations, we stumbled on Three Peaks Lodge in St. Anthony, Idaho, and wow. Wow! It was amazing and probably the most perfect reunion location we could have asked for (totally unsponsored). We loved it so much, in fact, that his family has already booked it for the 2021 reunion. The kitchen is ginormous (seats 40+ people!), there are rock walls and slides and hidden tunnels all throughout the lodge, and outside there are basketball courts, tennis courts, picnic tables, a hot tub, tons of grassy/playing areas. Ten bedrooms, six bathrooms and a huge bunkroom. Honestly, it was perfect.
Brian and I basically packed up our entire house and brought it with us. Ha. Among all the kitchen and planning items, we brought our nine square game that our friends made for us, which was a total hit and occupied kids and adults alike for hours (along with tons of other outside games like spikeball, flimsee, Kub and others).
One of the highlights that I didn’t expect was this baby faces game. I printed out 5X7 pictures of every family member as a baby and put them on a wall (each picture had a # on it). The “scorecard” sheets had all the names…whoever matched the most correct #’s to names won the grand prize (a set of teething rings and a Baby Ruth candy bar :). I couldn’t believe how competitive Brian’s family was about trying to get the most right! I think his dad and older brother sat in front of this wall for at least four hours. It was hilarious.
Brian planned some epic family Olympic games involving everyone from the babies to the great grandmas. Super fun. Yes, those are ding dongs getting stacked on Jackson’s forehead. 🙂
And this bobblehead skit some of the grandkids did was hilariously awesome (faces of grandma, grandpa and the two great grandmas). I printed the high res photos at Costco (16X20) and glued them to foam board, cut them out, and glued a sturdy plastic cup to the back which the kids gripped in their little teeth. If this whole setup has you slightly concerned and freaked out, just google “bobblehead skit” and you’ll see how hilarious they are.
Mostly we did a lot of talking, laughing, game playing (inside and out), and of course, eating. I made this honey lime chicken and this lentil chili and served it as a build-your-own nacho bar with tortilla chips and tons of toppings. For a breakfast, I made this chocolate granola and this almond granola and served it with yogurt and lots of fresh fruit (and scrambled eggs and toast). Yum! His siblings brought some stellar meals, too. We definitely didn’t go hungry!
5) Quilting: Where are all my quilters at? I posted this on Instagram a few weeks ago, but I finished this flag quilt (pattern by Camille at Thimble Blossoms) just in time for the 4th of July. And even though I tend to say a lot of bad words when I sew anything, and I’ve never met a hobby that frustrates me quite as much as quilting, weirdly, I actually really enjoy it, too. I was visiting my mom when I finished this quilt – she took me to her local quilt store and taught me how to long arm quilt the top. I was a super nervous wreck (not the greatest hobby for perfectionists), but in the end, I’ll give it to my mom for pushing me out of my comfort zone and making me finish this 100% by myself. Geez. Why do moms always have to be right??
6) Pickleball: We are very, very recent pickleball converts (my brother taught us to play a few weeks ago when we were visiting in Montana), and oh my gosh, how come no one told us how fun this game is?? We quickly bought some paddles online {aff. link} and it has been a blast for our whole family. A few tears, but not too many. Our tiny little community doesn’t have official pickleball courts, but we have tennis courts that can be *pretty* easily modified and there are some public park pickleball courts 25-ish minutes away. I am the least athletic person alive, and I’m still halfway decent (haha, not great but decent). Am I the last one on earth to play this??
7) Fill in the Blank: I’ve been thinking a lot about boundaries lately. I’m not good at them. I never have been, really. But I’ve been trying to establish better boundaries in many areas of my life. Boundaries for things I do personally (blogging/social media) and also boundaries involving people in my life (for instance, trying to learn how to stop managing the emotions of those around me). Much of this initiative is to lessen some anxieties that I deal with on the daily. It’s not something I talk a lot about because it reveals some of my insecurities, and it’s probably a bit too deep to dive into fully here (we can pick it up in the comment thread, if you’d like), but mostly today, I’d love if you could fill in the blanks in this sentence for me. No judging! Any answer is safe here – be it deep, a little out there, hilarious, real, sensitive, whatever.”I want to do more _____________ and less _____________”
My responses today would be:
I want to do more being true to myself and less worrying about making others upset.
Or maybe: I want to do more reading in the New Testament and less scrolling through Instagram.
Or lastly: I want to do more cookie eating and less cookie baking. Def going to need to get my kids involved in this last one! 🙂
If you feel comfortable, I’d love to know what your response to that sentence would be!
Love you guys. Thanks for being here.
Friday Thoughts Update: By popular demand, I’m recapping a few hot topics from the last Friday Thoughts post. Namely, what do you use for photo storage and what is your signature recipe? First up, photo storage. I went through each and every comment and kind of compiled a quick and casual list of how you guys reported you handle your personal photo storage. The highest number of comments talked about their experience with Google Drive and Google Photos (the latter syncs to your computer and an external hard drive). Lots of other responses included: Amazon Prime, wd.com, backblaze, forever.com, carbonite, and good old-fashioned hard drives.
Signature recipes! It was impossible to categorize all of these responses, but I loved reading the recipes you are known for! Loved it, loved it. Everything from cinnamon rolls to chickpea curry to chocolate chip cookies to almond puff. The answers are golden and now I want all the recipes.
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Hi there, Mel!
I’ve been looking back through your older posts that mention your son’s cookie business because I have an 8-year-old girl who wants to try her hand at a bake sale business. I was hoping to glean some tips or advice from your experience. I have loved following your family life and recipes for a few years 🙂
So, if you (or fellow moms) see this and have any resources or advice about getting started, I would greatly appreciate them.
PS – We live in Colorado, so promise not to steal your customers!
I don’t know that I have a ton of advice, but here’s how my son has done it. He made a flier on the computer that advertised the four flavors of cookies he offers (it’s changed summer to summer, but I think he’s pretty much settled on soft and chewy chocolate chip, smore’s chocolate chip, snickderdoodle, and fudgy brownie…and then he also offers a gluten free chocolate chip on special request). He charges $5/dozen. He spends several days making several batches of each. He makes the dough, rolls into balls, freezes on a cookie sheet and then pops 12 cookie dough balls into ziploc bags and puts them in the freezer (he writes the flavor of cookie on the bag in sharpie). Hope that helps a little!
I would do more living in abundance and less living in scarcity.
I would do more self care and less spreading myself thin.
Can I ask how much it cost to make the 9 square game? My husband is pretty handy and I think could make it..m but I know pvc can get a little pricey if you’re buying a lot! We have a reunion coming up though and I feel like it would be super fun 🙂
Could you share the link to your Instagram post with family reunion locations? I tried looking through and couldn’t find it, but would love to see what other places were recommended!
Also, almost goes without saying, but I am a huge fan. Love cooking your recipes!!
Hey McKenna – I don’t have a link because all the suggestions were sent via DMs on Instagram, but I’ll try to compile a list!
I just sent my oldest three kids to school and with that in mind I want to do more listening to my children and less talking at them. Getting ready for school to start this year was absolute insanity and I found myself just wanting to take a deep breath and let go—but I just couldn’t do it. So the first day of school is my new beginning too.
Enjoy the back to school detox, Emma!
As a quilter, I enjoyed seeing your project. I also teach quilting, and always tell my students that finished is better than perfect.
Great advice for me – thank you, Mary!
I know I’m super late in posting my response. I was lost in my own family reunion and kind of unplugged, so just catching up. I wish I could do more living and more sleeping. I know that sounds weird, but do you ever feel like you just start getting into your groove around 11:00 or 11:30 at night after your kids are in bed? I feel like there just aren’t enough minutes in the day somehow. No really, though. I wish I could play more with my kids and less worrying about my to do list. There is a little more vulnerability. Thanks for the introspection of this question. You’re the greatest.
Oh my gosh, that is the story of my life, Jennifer. I give a huge amen to everything you said!
You’re incredible Melanie! I use many
of your recipes and we love them. I loved reading about your Reunion etc. We usually have a three day reunion but this year we had a great one day reunion in Ruper, ID with 202 attending out of nearly 600 of my parents family. Many live out of the country and out of the western states so that was pretty good for the first time doing ‘just fun at the park’. Thanks for your inspiration (studying the New Testament), thoughts and kindness from your family!
Love ya, Carol!
I know you’ve already named your cookie now but you’ll prob want to change it after I tell you my sisters’ ideas…car seat crumb cookies or couch cushion cookies
I’m with you on the New Testament. I need to recommit. Thank you for your post.
Haha, those are great names. 🙂
Pickleball is the best!! I’m in St. George and it is growing so fast here! Glad you discovered how fun it is!
And thanks for your suggestion to think about what we want to change in our lives. Right now I’d say I want to do more playing with my kids and less spending time on projects that are supposed to be for them but are taking away from my time with them.
I’ve heard pickleball is really huge in St. George! That’s so fun. I loved your fill in the blank response. It’s so easy to get distracted by those “things” which seem to be beneficial but are actually taking away from the whole point of the matter (kids, in this case). Thanks for sharing that.
I love your posts. For years now (probably 8 years now!) I have loved your blog. Thank you!!
I don’t know that it is always “doing” more – I think it is being more that matters – for me anyway.
I want to be more focused on what really matters, and less easily overwhelmed.
Thank you, Trish!
I love your game suggestions! Some of our most favorite family games have come from your recommendations over the years. Also, I can’t wait for the cookie recipe. Cookies are my most favorite treat!
Thank you, Jen! Hoping to post that bad boy cookie recipe tonight!
I love this post! Do you happen to have a link for the instructions on how to make the 9-square game? I would love to make one for my family!
Hi Katie, a friend of ours made that game for us, but I know there are a lot of tutorials online if you google “homemade 9 square in the air game” – it’s so much fun!
Oh, the cookie. I’d call them Play Nine Cookies. You can remember this summer forever!
Haha, true!
your machine quilting is huge. i once machine quilted one of mine and swore i’d never do it again. ha. i will use my own small machine for a small and simple quilt but the long arm was insanity. i’m sure it’s just a matter of practice. your quilt is amazing. every fourth of july, i wish i had a great flag quilt. love your reunion recap too. i’m always interested in that! sounds like a huge success. the cookies look insane. i need to make them.
i want to do more trusting that things will work out and less worrying.
Thanks for the comment, Karen! The quilt almost put me over the edge (long arm quilting the top)…I have an even bigger one to tackle next. Yikes!
That quilt is absolutely beautiful! I’ve always wanted to learn how to quilt. Maybe one of these days I’ll take a class. As far as your question:
I want to live more joyfully and complain less.
I want to learn to trust God more and worry less.
Thank you, Karlie!
After baby #5 was born quilting became my creative outlet. Something I could do during nap time to help save my sanity;) since having baby #6 finding time has become more difficult but I refuse to let it go:) I have had to let go of some perfectionism tendencies but I love the whole creative process! Lately I have been doing more potholders and table runners (same process just faster start to finish). I look forward to seeing what you make in the future!
Something fun I have done for my kids is a name quilt with fabric that fits their personality. They are relatively quick and easy and my kids love them!
Good for you for hanging on to the hobby with both hands! Even if it slows down a little, I love that you are still trying to find bits and pieces of time – smaller projects sounds like a smart idea!
I was thinking of having my kid do a fundraiser with frozen cookie dough for sports. With inflation these days how much would you charge? Thanks!
It’s really hard to say – and so much depends on where you live. I’d say anywhere from $6 to $10 for a dozen cookies. But honestly, that’s just a shot in the dark. We haven’t sold cookie dough in a few years, so I’m not sure what we’d charge now if we did it.
I just love how real and open you are. I struggle a lot with the same things you have mentioned. I often let what others are doing affect me and I doubt myself a lot. I was sad to see your post end! It has so much great stuff in it. My hubby plays pickle ball with the guys from work and keep waiting for him to teach us! Maybe I’ll just have to buy some paddles and google how to play! Haha! Your site is the first one I go to for recipes on anything. Just love it and and think your pretty darn great!
Thank you so much, Keri! I’m actually pretty convinced I’m going to try and paint a pickleball court on our driveway. I mean, why not?? 🙂
Sounds like your summer is amazing so far. I would love a write up of the games you did for the family Olympics. We do something similar each year on a big friend camping trip and I’m always on the lookout for the ideas that work!
Yes, me too! I love idea sharing. I’ll try to get them all written down in one place.
Mel, thank you for a great post. Your new cookie creation sounds like a happy Trailblazing or Chunk full of goodness cookie. Whatever name you decide on will be perfect. In response to fill in the blanks, I should limit my time on my iPad and read more scripture.
Love those cookie names!
What a wonderful post! Fill in the blank is a great idea! As I read through the comments, I am overwhelmed by how many of these fill in the blanks I relate to and more overwhelmed that each of them belong to such strong and incredible people. I am constantly reminded to give myself some of the grace that I give others. I have grabbed a notebook and started to write down ALL the ones that I relate to and feel. I will be reviewing them during my morning quiet time (aka my first glorious cup of coffee!) as a reminder of my focus and gratitude. Thank you, Mel, for this post as I know I definitely needed it and am amazed that I am not the only one!
I will be true to myself, remembering who I am, what I want and less being and doing what others want.
FYI – I changed “want” to “will” – hoping that the slight, but impactful, change will help trick my brain to start making choices, using the words and making the decisions to support the statement as if I have already achieved the goal.
What a great idea, Anna! I, too, need to write down all the responses that resonate with me…and then do better at being grateful and also implementing small changes. Thank you for your comment!
So I was a little sad to see this post end! Haha. Loved hearing about everything. I would have to say I need to be better at everything studying my scriptures and scrolling less is s great place to start. Hoping Im doing a good job as being a mom. So much I need to work on. Maybe it’s time to make cookies today
Love your posts Mel. Wish we lived closer-I just know we’d be friends. Go Cougs! And where did you get your BYU shirt? Have a great day!
Ah man, I love you right back, Ashlee! Hope you fit in a little cookie making. I got that BYU t-shirt a couple years ago on a blow out 4th of July sale on the BYU bookstore website. I wear it probably more often than I really should. 🙂
Mel- I’ve actually never commented on your site ever but have read it for a couple years now! I saw the loaded cookies and immediately thought “pantry cookies”. I’ve made a rice crispy bar for years with whatever I find in my pantry. My sisters call them pantry bars! Lots of times they don’t have rice crispy in them, whatever cereal is needing used up. I always use marshmallow to bind them and than just find salty and sweet with chocolate and crackers or other cookies chopped up, chips or pretzels, m &m’s or whatever I find. Kids love them!! And adults also. It’s my go to for last minute goody!! I’m sure your cookie is already named but I had to send my thought!! Thanks for many yummy recipes!
Thanks for the first time comment, Maria! Love the cookie name…several other suggested kind of similar ones revolving around “pantry” and I love that idea! Your rice crispy “pantry” bars sound delicious!
Mel, my family has been to Three Peaks Lodge for family reunions, too! It is the best – the kitchen with all its glorious seating is the winning feature for me, but my kids love the secret passageways. Thanks for all your recipes and ideas that help my family!
Those secret passageways kept the kids entertained for HOURS!
I want to do more books, and less screens (although this one will be tricky as we’re temporarily downsizing our life to travel in an RV, so most of my books will be on…..screens).
I want to do more time with my daughter, and less time trying to finish EVERYTHING on my ‘to do’ list.
I want to do more trusting the Lord, and less worrying about what could go wrong.
Love all of these so much, Sandi. And wow! Traveling in an RV sounds super adventurous!
I want to do more accepting and less judging.
I want to do more chilling and less striving.
I want to do more giving and less withholding.
I’m known for my brownies with peanut butter frosting. Planning to serve them at my funeral.
Thanks, Mel, for being so real. Yes, yours is the first site I go to when I need a recipe, but I also love the way you write. Love the fact that you put your struggles right there beside your successes. It makes the rest of us feel more normal, you know.
I want to do more BEING and less DOING. I want to do more gentle responding and less quick reacting. I want to do more savoring and less hurrying!
I second your comment!! I couldn’t have said it better myself! And to Mel, Thank you for keeping it real. I am a follow and you have encouraged me to try new recipes and not stress too much over things if they do not turn out exactly like they should.. keep doing what your doing, sharing real life… the ups and the downs!!
Thank you, Julie!
I want to do more gentle responding and less quick reacting. Thanks for that reminder!
Yes! Loved all of these especially the gentle responding.
I want to do more figuring out as to who I am and what *I* want, and less trying to be what I think everyone else wants.
I think a lot of this tendency is exacerbated by my chronic indecisiveness. When I know what to do and how to do it, I’m really good at a lot of things. Same with when I know what I want. It’s only when I’m struggling to choose or decide that things fall apart for me.
Another thing I think I struggle with is confusing compassion with acquiescence. I think too many of us think that being compassionate and kind means being ready and available to drop everything and be there for another person. But you can still be compassionate and wonderful without doing that too. Being a good person doesn’t mean giving away your time and managing people’s emotions to ensure that they’re happy. And this is a lesson that has been really hard for me to learn. :/
Everything but the Kitchen Sink Cookies
This was an inspired post!! I feel like the day I stumbled upon a recipe from your blog for the first time was a life changing moment for me.
1. We play a game called golf with face cards that sounds q lot like this game. It’s easy to pick up and it can be played quickly.
2. In light of the theme I’ve seen in lots of the comments I’m going to fun them the “All In” cookies. These cookies aren’t afraid to throw every conceivable tasty ingredient into one epic bite. Who says we can’t have it all? i.e. care for ourselves and others at the same time. WE CAN!
3. I think it’s great that your kids are working this summer. My 14 year old is teaching tumbling, babysitting and doing other odd jobs to earn money for school clothes and extracurricular activities.
4. Thanks for the fun family reunion ideas. Last week we had separate gatherings with each side of our families. Honestly I love spending time with family, but I prefer it in small groups rather than in a huge group. For many years I felt guilty about that but I finally understand that it’s ok that I like connecting more one on one and it’s ok that other people in my family love being in huge groups.
5. I love quilting!! When my oldest was about 4 someone bought me a quilting book. I really enjoyed the challenge of piecing that quilt. My mil has a long arm so I can quilt my blankets at her house. I made one for my husband and I this year but when I tried to do the binding my machine broke. Now I have to wait until I can buy a new sewing machine to finish it. I love the flag quilt. Hurrah for overcoming a fear a d getting out of your comfort zone.
6. I very recently heard about pickleball and now I really want to try it!!! There were lots of pickleball courts at the park my daughter practiced softball at.
7. I want to spend more time learning to see the beauty and joy in mundane, every day tasks and less time wishing away those moments for something else. I want to own the life I have right here and now.
So far this summer has been VERY stressful for me. My mom was in and out of the hospital 3 times in 3 weeks. I’ve had a lot of responsibility at church and a lot of people needing me. It’s easy to get lost in the chaos of it all and it helps to remember I’m not alone in all the craziness.
Thanks for sharing your real ups and downs and encouraging everyone who is willing to do the same. With all this support it just feels like we can do those things that seem impossible.
Bridget, you are so kind! Thank you! I’m so glad you found your way here, too. Love the cookie name! No one has suggested that one yet, and it’s so clever. Love it. That’s amazing that your mother in law has a long arm machine. SO nice for quilting those projects! That’s kind of what holds me back. I’m sorry your machine broke! Do you know what kind you’ll be getting? I might be in the market for a new one, too. I have my grandmother’s old Bernina right now. I loooooved your #7. Thanks for inspiring me with that one. I’m sorry about your mom! I hope you are finding your way through the chaos. Hang in there.
I’m so glad you liked Three Peaks lodge! It is one of my kids favorite places. As to your question, I’d like to do more enjoying my kids and less anxiety inducing, over thinking that I’m failing as a parent. My oldest is 13 and I was not prepared for all the changes in her attitude and personality that have come recently. Life is hard but somehow I seem to make it harder by over thinking and worrying about worst case scenarios.
I love your blog and your Friday posts. Thank you for being open and vulnerable, it really means a lot.
Or maybe you should call them the Fantastical Fanatical Amazing Wonderful Beautiful Delicious Astounding Astonishing Surprising Stunning Perplexing Remafkable Spectacular Stupendous Awesome Phenomenal Unbelievable Marvelous Flabbergasting Mind-Blowing Cookies
Haha
Just a suggestion
Haha. GREAT suggestion. 🙂
I think you should call the cookies: Everything Cookies, Wonder Cookies, The Healthiest Cookies Ever, or Mel’s Signature Cookies. Thanks!
You are amazing!I love all your recipes!
I say you should call these cookies “dump truck cookies “
Cute name!
The cookies look great.
Possible name – Cobblestone Cookies
First one to suggest that name and I love it! Clever!