Skin Cancer Update + Suncare Favorites 2016
After my post several months ago about my skin cancer ordeal, I’ve been meaning to check back in with a little update. I was overwhelmed with all of the love that was poured out in comments and emails after I posted about the basal cell carcinoma on my face. I was so nervous to show you pictures of my face and try to explain the physical and emotional damage that I felt, but when I did, you responded with such kindness and comfort and support. I’ll never be able to thank you enough for that.
I have been humbled beyond words to read all of your comments and emails that came pouring in and learn about what many of you have gone through personally and with family members/friends who have suffered through skin cancer much, much more serious than what I have dealt with. It allowed, maybe even forced, me to shift my perspective; your courage is inspiring.
Many of you have also emailed me personally and/or commented to let me know that the post prompted/inspired/pushed you to check up on a skin spot/mole that you knew about but had been putting off – I can’t believe the number of people that have found themselves in a nearly identical situation after seeing a dermatologist. While it saddens me that anyone else has to deal with this, I am so grateful (and again, so humbled) that perhaps that post was meant to go out into cyberspace to protect others from more serious cancer growth or damage.
My face is continuing to heal amazingly well. It’s been seven months. I’m no longer putting anything other than facial moisturizer with sunscreen on the scar (no more mederma or essential oils), but I am trying to massage it every morning and night to break up the scar tissue as recommended by my doctor (hurts like the devil). I am seeing my dermatologist every three months for full-body checks to see if there are any other worrisome spots and also to make sure my nose is healing ok (and that the cancer isn’t reoccurring in that area).
My scar is still fairly red and that side of my nose is puffier than the other side…but given the amount of stitches and depth of the surgery, I feel extremely blessed to have healed this well.
I have become, even more than before, a total and complete shade-lover. Thanks to many of your recommendations, I bought several hats from Coolibar (unaffiliated, just absolutely love their stuff), and even bought swim leggings and a long-sleeved swim shirt from there, also. I’m not going to lie, the first time I wore the whole ensemble to the pool with my kids, I felt a bit ridiculous (especially since I got a lot of stares) but by the 2nd outing, I was over it and kind of excited to go, actually. No sunburns and no excessive need for sunscreen (plus the sexy head-to-toe look covers up some of those trouble areas on my not-so-hot mom bod). Awesome.
I know I could just wear sunscreen, but because I’m still pretty nervous about excessive sun exposure, covering up makes the most sense to preserve my sanity (and give me the comfort level to make sure I actually leave the house and teach my kids what a swimming pool is and why people use it). I also bought a lightweight jacket (the Athletic Jacket in Grey Geo Print) from Coolibar that I slip on anytime I’m outside. Even in the hot, hot weather, it’s breathable and perfect (there are lots of companies that sell gear like this online; if you’re interested to learn more google “UPF clothing”).
UPDATE THAT I FORGOT TO ADD: Funny story, yesterday I took my kids to the pool and I was decked out in my Coolibar ensemble with an enormous floppy hat, as usual. It was a really hot day and the sun was blazing down. I was catching Camryn as she came down this little yellow tube slide (over and over and over), and a lady came and crouched down by the side of the pool and kind of motioned to me that she had a question. I walked over, me and my ankle length swim leggings and Camryn hanging on to my arm, and we ended up having a 10-minute conversation about my swim outfit. She has a skin cancer history, too, and knew immediately when she saw me that I probably did as well (apparently dressed like this, I’m a walking advertisement for what to wear after skin cancer – either that or people just think I’m a little eccentric or I get cold easily). She’d been looking everywhere for swim bottoms that covered more and I was happy to let her know that no, I wasn’t wearing yoga pants in the pool – these leggings were meant for swimming!
Someone left a comment in my original post indicating that people (or rather, me) shouldn’t fear the sun – and that I’m creating more of a disservice by influencing people to develop phobias about sun exposure. That is not my intent, I assure you. I firmly believe that some amount of sun exposure is good for all of us – hello, Vitamin D! – but I have to be completely honest that I do fear the sun and the damage it can do if I’m not careful with the intensity of exposure I let myself endure (as well as my kids). So maybe healthy fear? Is that a good way to sum it up?
Many of you have asked…here are the sunscreens we’re using these days:
Disclaimer: all the product recommendations in this post are completely unsponsored and are just products I’ve bought for myself and loved; there are a few Amazon affiliate links; feel free to shop around for the best deal!
Aside from sun-protection clothes, I’ve also tested out about a million different varieties of sunscreen. I don’t want to go down the debate path of mineral-based (zinc oxide) sunscreens vs chemical-based sunscreens (like oxybenzone) here today; do your research and find out what you feel most comfortable with. There are A TON of options out there. Like, too many. I have felt overwhelmed over the years trying to interpret and read between the lines about which sunscreen is best, but I feel really good about the sunscreen(s) we are using this summer.
The sunscreen I’m using almost exclusively on the kids (after trying many different brands) is Babyganics Mineral-based Sunscreen SPF 50+ (keep in mind this is not 100% mineral-based; also contains octisalate). It’s water resistant and lasts a long time before having to reapply and we are liking it a lot. The spray form of this sunscreen is worthless – we tried it and my kids got burned; I don’t feel like it lasts as long or is as effective. We use the kind that comes in the 6-ounce tube and it absorbs well and is easy for my kids to apply themselves (if they have help getting those hard to reach areas).
I’ve been using the above Babyganics on the kids’ faces but I also have this Kiss My Face Face Factor sunscreen (30 SPF) that we sometimes pull out if it’s just a backyard/park activity and water is not involved.
For my own self, I’ve finally found a couple sunscreens that I think I’ll use longterm. Insert major cheering! My issue is I wanted a daily sunscreen that I could use every day as a moisturizer that wasn’t overly greasy, overly smelly, overly white, overly expensive, overly chemically or overly weird. Not too much to ask, right?
This EltaMD UV Daily (40 spf) has become my new daily moisturizer, and I love it! I also use the EltaMD UV Shield (45 spf) for arms/legs/neck if I’m out in the sun without being ultra-covered up. My only disclaimer with the shield version is that it has a slightly stronger fragrance to it that I don’t love – it kind of reminds me of sunless tanner smell (the daily moisturizer is hardly fragrant at all and doesn’t bother me a bit) but it’s minor enough that it isn’t a big issue.
Like I said, I’ve tried many sunscreens and I’m very happy with these ones. I also have Paula’s Choice Resist Youth-Extending Daily Hydrating Fluid (50 spf) that is so super lightweight and non-greasy; I love it, but it is more chemical-based than the EltaMD brand, so I use it sparingly (but it’s probably among my favorites in how it feels after applying).
I can’t say it enough (sorry if I sound like I’m nagging or giving too much advice; it’s my only talent) but:
Please stay safe in the sun!
I’ve had some serious sit-down conversations with my kids this summer as they’ve fought me a time or two about putting on sunscreen. Maybe I would have had the same skin cancer issues I do now even if I had worn sunscreen as a kid (which I didn’t wear, ever); I’ll never know. But I don’t want to take the chance with my kids (and whenever they see the pictures of my face again, they are more agreeable), and I want to continue to protect my skin.
Be smart! Be safe! Have fun!
I’m done now.
Way to go with your clothing and sunscreen!!! Have you tried the Coolibar gloves? I’m sure you spend many hours driving your children around and think of how many hours your hands are exposed to the sun while driving. They are my new and favorite addition to my sun-protective clothing. Bonus – they have grips that make for great driving gloves.
I had a 10 inch long 2 inch deep portion of the nape of my neck taken by MOHS Basal cell cancer..I have been picked apart piece by piece for 10 years. I, too, am sun fearful. I lecture my grown kids all. the. time. Skin cancer can invade other areas so your caution and concern is valid. I am blessed my cancer did not invade my muscle. Thank you for sharing your journey.
Thank you so much for this helpful information! It is so nice to hear non-biased recommendations for these sunscreen options. We’ve been looking into this more lately, so this is super helpful! I also was not too careful with sunscreen growing up:( but my husband and I are totally sunguarding our kids who LOVE to swim in the summer.
So glad you care enough to open up your life for all to see and read. I too am of Irish decent. Burn, peal, turn white! I had a few really bad burns as a kid and hated it it turned me into a shade lover! At 67 I still check my skin and get my doc to check anything I think is weird lol. Thank you and God bless you and your family
Thank you for sharing! Wow, I’ve been following you for awhile and hadn’t noticed you’d been dealing with this, your scar has healed great! I’m excited to try out UPF clothing, as I burn easily but always forget areas that need sunblock. Plus I’m tired of putting it on. So I will definitely be checking into this stuff.
Mel-Thank you so much for your post! I just had Mohs on my face yesterday and was googling spf recommendations when I came across your site. Like you described, I was shocked at how large my scar is. You make me feel 100x better seeing your healing process which helps getting my emotions in check. I have ordered your product suggestions and hats and hope to get back out there, but with lots more protection.
Good luck with your recovery, Sheila! It’s amazing how the body can heal, it really is.
I’m new to your website, but this post caught my eye. So sorry you have to deal with this. If you get more basal cells in the future, you might consider an ED&C + imiquimod as an alternative to the MOHS (ask your derm, of course). I just had a basal cell removed from my scalp in February of this year by my sister-in-law (a dermatologist). I had a good long talk with her about excision vs. ED&C + imiquimod, and ED&C + imiquimod was the clear winner (not as disfiguring, cure rate over 90%, maybe 95%–I can’t remember). I had an ED&C followed by imiquimod for a few weeks (just a little dab–that stuff is potent!), and so far, no recurrence (and my hair grew right back through the spot! Bonus!). Imiquimod is a TLR-7 agonist, so it’s basically like smearing bacterial protein on your face–it makes your body really angry and go crazy on that spot, killing those cancerous and precancerous cells.
I was meticulous about wearing hats and seeking shade when I lived in Utah, but the mountain west really does just have a high UV index 🙁
Love you, Mel. Another great post. Btw, I didn’t even notice any lingering traces of your surgery on your face at the cabin. You look perfectly back to your usual beautiful self to me. Thank you for your thoughts on this important subject! Seriously, kudos!
Thank you for sharing your story! For the essential oils, did you put those on the scar when you still had stitches or after the stitches were removed? Thank you!!
After they were out. 🙂
Thank you so much for sharing your story! Would you mind sharing which essential oils you used on your scar? And did you use them when you still had stitches or after the stitches were removed? I have to go in next month for surgery to remove skin cancer and your scar looks like it has healed nicely.
Wonderful post, thank you! I had a stage 1A melanoma removed from my arm this June and while I have always been vigilant with sunscreen, I can 100% relate to your comments about switching to wearing full cover-up (especially the swim tights!) at the pool with the kids and getting looks! Thanks for sharing, it’s really nice to read about someone going through similar things. I am also on the hunt for a favorite daily face sunscreen and kids sunscreen. Right night I like MDSolarSciences Mineral Crème Broad Spectrum SPF 50 Sunscreen and ThinkSport SPF 50+. Best of luck with everything!
Thank you for the Elta recommendation. I just received it in the mail and I love it, too. It goes on so smooth and doesn’t leave any “white” behind on my face. I will be purchasing more. Happy Summer!
Awesome post. I have an olive complexion but always wear sunscreen and a hat! Thanks for your honesty and for sharing this. It may save a life. <3
This is a great post, thank you for sharing your story. As they have gotten older, I have slacked over the last couple of years on applying sunscreen to my kids. I usually never wear it as I am a shade lover and get hardly any (if at all) color during the summer. Your post is a great reminder to stay on top of my kids and to be cautious myself. All the best in your recovery!S
Hi Mel,
I’m a long time fan of your blogs and cooking! Coming back after a bit though. Love how you are healing. You look beautiful as always! Try and do some meditation few times a week. It is a great healer.
God bless.
I had my first basal cell removed from my cheek when I was only 27. At 32 I had one removed from my nose. Last month I had one taken off my hairline. I know more are in my future (not because I’m not careful now but because the damage was already done years ago). It’s a scary thing and you never can be too careful. Thanks for your example to cover up and seek shade! Life is too short for me to miss out on outdoor fun with my three small kids but shade and sunscreen are my best friends!
You still look beautiful. Don’t worry about your scar.
You are looking great Mel! In time, it will all just disappear and you will have to look very closely to see anything at all. I had a basal cell carcinoma removed from the end of my nose. The doctor used the Mohs procedure. It took 4 tries to get clean margins and then a skin graft. Now you can hardly see anything at all! I have been a reader and using your recipes for years, and they are the BEST. Good luck to you as you continue the healing process. xoxo
No need to apologize for trying to stay safe! We love you and are so happy that you are getting back to normal, most importantly that you have found a method to the madness that makes you comfortable.
I have very fair skin, I have always always burned with the slightest sun exposure. It’s just what it is. I was always sad as a teen growing up that I wasn’t like the other girls and was so white when they could all be so tan. But, then you grow up and realize we all have differences. I avoid much in the way of outdoor activities at high sun times, I definitely restrict when my young son plays outside because I don’t want him to go through the pain of a sunburn. I hate the feeling of sunscreen, so I don’t wear it. This means I don’t do sun related activities and I am fine with that.
I have got to say THANK YOU for posting about the swim leggings. I had NO idea that was even a thing, omg, that is amazingly useful.
Thank you for being so incredibly open with your experience and so brave for sharing pictures with us. I think more people need to be aware of the dangers, so many bake themselves and then have to pay for it the hard way later. Keep doing what your doing because you are an inspiration!