Snapshot Saturday: Why I Keep Blogging Even When I Feel Like I Should Quit
It never ceases to amaze me the sweetness that can exist between brother and sister when they don’t think I’m looking. Now, if only I could witness this between brother and brother. I’d probably pass out.
It is moments like this that keep me grounded and help me keep my perspective. Am I the only one that struggles with this? The ongoing balance of life?
I am so very grateful for this space of mine. This blog. It (and many of you!) have been a part of my life for over 5 1/2 years, which is a long time in blog-speak. But the challenge of balancing blogging with all the other things running through my reality keeps me hopping. No different from any of you managing family and jobs and well, life. It seems that at times the balance comes easily, other times not so much.
So, so much has changed in the food blogging world since I started out 5 1/2 years ago. First and foremost, what used to be a blog that only my mom looked at (hi, mom) has now grown into a spot visited by millions of visitors each month. Kind of knocks me flat when I think of it. What started as a fun little hobby has now turned into a wonderful work-from-home business. It used to be that snapping a quick picture and throwing it up on the web insisting people make it immediately was all it took to share a great recipe. Now, it seems the blogging pressures of the current day are to have the most Facebook followers, most pins, most ad revenue, most food props, most witty writing, most beautiful pictures, most sponsors, most traffic, most step-by-step pictures, most everything. While those aren’t necessarily bad things (some would argue they are changes for the greater good), it still makes me want to run far, far away sometimes. It’s hard not to get caught up in all the drama and noise of blogging, not to mention the competition that leaves me questioning my blogging self-worth (I mean, really, gag! Let’s talk about some real problems here!).
But honestly, stick with me here, my whole point in sharing this is that as I look back over the last nearly-six years, I realize that even though times are changing around me, I am still grounded by the same purpose I had when I posted for the first time ever back in December in 2007: to share tried-and-true recipes, baby. If that ends up leaving me behind in the swirling dust of the blogosphere, then so be it.
When I get burdened down by the cumbersome pressure of blog/life balance, all it takes is seeing a picture with the intense sweetness like the one above to remind me that at the end of the day, I am a mother first and a blogger second…or more realistically 3rd or 4th or 11th when all the other non-compensated roles come into play. And I really wouldn’t have it any other way. The minute I feel my rowdy, little family needs more mom and less blogger or if I lose sight of my goal (the one where I share recipes that rock my world with you), well, then, that’s when I’ll be calling it quits (not as a mother, as a blogger…jeez!). For now? It’s all about the food! And if anything other than sibling tenderness can restore balance in my life, it is food (dark chocolate food, in particular).
Thanks for listening. Love your guts.
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I hope that you will continue to blog! I have shared your blog with my daughter-in-law because she will never go wrong with your tried and true recipes, and video tutorials. I wish I had had that when I was first married. Lord knows I could have used it, but back in those days we didn’t have computers.
I have recently discovered Your blog and it is one of the few food blogs I frequent! And it’s not b/c of the best pics or step by steps or whatever (though you do a fab job with all that too). It’s because of your wonderful, easy, normal (not made with ingredients I have never heard of), delicious recipes! I love it! And so does my family! Thank you!
Mel,
I LOVE your blog! I have learned how to cook from this site and cook 90% of my family meals from here. Thank you for sharing your amazing talent with the world.
Mel! I discovered your blog 2 days ago after putting my 3 month old down for the night……I was searching for recipes to try while on mat leave so I could have an arsenal of tried-and-true family favourites when I return to work in 9 months. Well, let’s just say that I got to bed no earlier than 2am that night not because I was up with my darling 3 month old, but because I started pinning EVERY SINGLE recipe! I have made no less than 4 of your recipes in the past 24 hours and spent every minute either cooking or pinning to my Pinterest boards (all while my little one was nursing, sleeping or amusing herself in her bouncy seat next to me!). Needless to say, I have found my go-to site for everything……i love how witty you are, how you utilize ingredients I already have in my cupboards, and how you obviously value cooking from scratch with real ingredients and fresh produce. You are a life-saver! I am now confident that when I do return to work I will be able to tackle the “what the h*** am i going to make for supper” dilemma head-on. As for taking time with your family, you need to do what feels right for you……..whether that means continuing to post almost daily or reducing that to weekly or even monthly. Your loyal followers will understand……I can tell from reading the comments that they all value their families above all (by wanting to put real food on their tables) just as you do and that is what led them to your blog in the first place. Best of luck in all of your endeavours! A new loyal follower from Nova Scotia!
Mel,
I love how real you are! And I love your perspective on motherhood. I love your food and now that I’m 8 months into the gluten free/ paleo type cooking, I can finally modify your recipes for my Family with allergies. I’m sort excited to trio your quinoa cake!
I’m a new(ish) food blogger and have been learning my own lessons this past year and they are similar to yours. I find the blogs that beg for *likes* and *pins* and *followers* are off putting and fake. I absolutely love popping in here, it feels like a lovely natural space with enticing recipes and honest writing. Don’t ever chnage what you’re doing. It’s perfect as it is.
Mel, I adore your blog! I am so grateful that you are an avid blogger of only the best recipes! I got married in August of 2008 and I have been a huge follower since then because I feel the need to impress with my cooking-ha ha! I have never had anything from your blog fail me and I love having that trust in your recipes. I know that when I’m in a pinch for a ward or company party, I can pull up your blog and something will speak to me. I always get the greatest reviews and I am not shy in saying where I got my recipe from. Thanks for the great arsenal of recipes-I look forward to many more!
We love your recipes at our house! I pretty much solely use your website to menu plan and my family and friends go crazy for your food. Your name is so common in my kitchen that when my husband asks what recipe I used all I have to say is, “Mel’s” and he knows exactly who I’m talking about! Thank you again and again for the countless amazing meals!
I soooo appreciate all the time you take to do your posts. I read your blog consistantly and truly am grateful for all your insights, recipes, and hints!
So glad you keep blogging! It’s my favorite blog! I am on this site WAY more than any others and my family ALWAYS loves your recipes! Your blog comes up over dinner usually a couple nights a week, at least (b/c our dinner usually comes from your site)! You are very talented! Your website is the ONLY recipe site that the recipes turn out for me every time! Thank you!
I never comment on blogs/websites like this but I thought I’d give you a quick shout out to say how much we love your recipes. All of our favorites are from you and you are our go to recipe site. Thank you so much for all your work on this! I only have 3 little boys and couldn’t imagine keeping up a blog in the midst of all the craziness.
Oh Melanie! This blog is the best kept secret. But I tell all my friends about it, I cook brown rice your way ALL the time, your baked pasta is a family favorite. That cake with cream cheese and peaches is a winner. Perfect corn on the cob every time. Your recipe for burgers is my favorite. We had a neighborhood cookout the other day and the burgers were stellar. And even today my dear friend was talking to me about chocolate chip cookies and refered her to your blog for added info on your recent experiments.
So THANK YOU, for keeping it real, simple, and super delicious!
I LOVE LOVE LOVE your blog! I tell everyone about it! And your food blog is the ONLY food blog that I read! Your blog is the best, with the BEST recipes so why waste time looking at anyone else’s? I can’t imagine how busy you must be trying to balance it all but I sincerely appreciate it! My family owes you for all of the delicious homemade meals that grace our table. Thanks for the hard work you put into this Mel!!
Most of your recipes are part of my rotational meals, and I come back to this blog again and again because I find most of my favorite meals from you. If I can find recipes that my husband, who has certain eating restrictions, from you then I will keep coming back. Thanks so much for your hard work on it. Keep up the good work!
I second all of those who say this is their favorite and first choice when they need a recipe. I also wanted to thank you for NOT using the blog as a medium for constantly plugging brands and products, etc. that is such a turn-off because it makes it so much less real and less trustworthy In my eyes. I have stopped visiting several blogs for that very reason. I love that on the rare occasion you do plug something, it’s because you really do use it and love it, not because you got some extra cash to name drop. Thanks for your wholesome recipes and all of your efforts!
Sweet picture and what you said is so true. What is really and truly important is FAMILY. Thanks for reminding me of that and for giving us readers so much of your self a part from your family. You are my favorite recipe site!
Since I found your blog several years ago, I have admired your commitment to your original purpose and lack of commercialism. In fact, I so admire it that I when I started my read aloud blog for families, I modeled it after yours. Thanks for staying true AND for continuing to blog even though I don’t know how you do it and keep up with everything else!
Great post! I’ve definitely gone through blogging ruts where I’ve gotten caught up in the comparison trap. But now I tell myself, if I don’t have time to network and comment on everything that it’s ok. Time with family and friends is much more important and all that other will be there when I’m able to get to it.
your my very favorite! MOST RELIABLE blog…. and now ALL my family checks in with your blog frequently.
Funny, I was just talking this weekend to my husband about your blog. I had been on some other blogs and was truthfully feeling a little bit **envious** of their lives. I was trying to convince myself that somewhere their life isn’t as perfect as it seems. π As I was talking/confessing my envy I told my husband that despite all the great blogs I do a quick check of every day, yours is BY FAR my favorite blog. I use more recipes from your blog than I do from my own mother (sorry mom!). When someone asks me for a blog or recipe recommendation…I ALWAYS send them to you because I know they will find something and won’t be disappointed. Thanks for keeping it real and keeping the recipes REAL GOOD!
Can I just say please pLEaSe PLEASE keep blogging! I can only imagine what the stress feels like on your end sometimes. But I hope you know that there are seriously so many people on this (consumer!!) side who love your recipes, your approach to food and family, and just the JOY you bring to it all :). So thank you. And seriously, if you plan on calling it quits, will you please give some warning. Or I might just have a meltdown.
P.S. I did something crazy and ordered the planner you recommended – branching out from the one I’ve used since college (for 10+ years). It just came in the mail and I think I’m going to love it too ;).
P.P.S. just read a fabulous book called Bread & Wine by Shauna Niequist and her breakfast cookie recipe is out if this world, in case you were looking for something like that…
Can I just tell you how much I LOVE you and your blog! My husband teases that you are my BFF because I refer to your blog so often! π I am so so so grateful for the recipes you post. MOST of what I cooks comes directly from your blog, so thank you – thank you – thank you! You’re awesome!
You’d better not stop posting! π Even if the recipes are fewer and further between, I hope you’re always able to keep this up! Your blog is BY FAR my favorite. I really think you’re doing great things here–allowing us to improve and enjoy the experience with our families because of your talents and interests. Thanks! (And, if you need to take a blog break because of all you’ve got going, feel free–just PLEASE make sure to come back!)
Hi Mel! I don’t think I’ve ever commented before but I’ve been reading your blog for a while. I just wanted to share with you how much I enjoy it, and this post I made a while back sharing a recipe I made from your blog… http://epictreats.blogspot.com/2011/12/recipes-i-love.html
I actually just made your chicken enchilada pasta and it was very tasty! Thanks so much for all these amazing recipes.
Just had to let you know that yours is the one and only food blog that I read … and please keep sending your awesome recipes my way because my family was eating the same 4 things over and over until I found this site. But also no pressure – even if you only posted one recipe a month – your archives would keep my family happy for a long long time. Thanks so much!
Your tried and true recipes are the reason I come. Your little tidbit about the recipe makes me want to make the food. I could care less about your pinterest stats, facebook page, or page views. I enjoy your blog for the reason you started it. If it comes to a place that you need to quit, please give us enough warning to save our favorite recipes. π
Even if you only did one recipe once a week I would still come here first when looking for a new recipe or for a tried and true pizza crust (which is delicious) or beef stew (yum), yogurt. Your the reason I have the courage to make yeast doughs more often. I love your broccoli salad.
Next up one of these days I am going to make your oatmeal pancake recipe.
Thanks Mel and please no pressure. I appreciate your family first attitude. Your clean humor and tasty recipes. Thank you so much!
Mel, you are outstanding. Can never thank you enough for your commitment to good food and health! We have learned to trust only you if we don’t want any baking, cooking, or snacking failures around here! Really, if I want to try something I come here and find success every time. You have it all
i love your blog. if it was legal – i would marry it. its the first place i look when i need a recipe, and i am NEVER sorry that i did. everything i have made has turned out wonderful. don’t ever let the crazy aggressive blogging universe get you down. you have a seriously awesome thing going here and everybody needs a good balance between work and life. find your balance and keep rocking, lady! π
When you stay true to yourself and your family, nothing else matters. I’m SO over pinterest and 98% of blogs out there, but a blog that posts real-life recipes in a straight-forward way will never get old. That said, if you decide to move on, I understand…but you would have to at least maintain your post history because it is my cookbook!
The title of your post scared me a little bit! My first selfish thought was, “oh no! who will teach me how to cook!”
I have to tell you that when I started following your blog about 1.5 ago it was because ALL of the ladies in my office were following and we all chatted about your recipes and posts as if your blog was a tv series we were all watching!
Since that time I have discovered a few other blogs I enjoy reading. But I always think of MKC as #1. The focus of your blog is truly the food and that keeps your content hearty and not full of fluff.
I hope you never stop blogging but when the day comes you will be missed! Thanks for all you do, your really helping a lot of people myself included. Cheers!
Mel – I LOVE your guts too and as I’ve mentioned before we have never even met (maybe someday I will be lucky enough to meet you in person). You are an inspiration to me and I am a better mother, cook, sister, friend, and person in general because of YOU – YES YOU. Thanks for your honesty and your great recipes. You are the BEST!!!
I have commented already, and I agree with everyone about family being the priority. You can see how many people love this blog and how important you are to them (me included). Keep in mind, though, it’s good for you to have something “just for you” and this blog may be that for you. I hope so…so, thank-you for all that you do, and wishing you all the best!
I’m sad to think that you would ever have doubt– your blog is the absolute best! Hands down. No question. Best recipes. Best photos (and I like that not every recipe has photos of every step and ingredients; it makes it cleaner to read). Best layout. Best commentary. Best blogger. You are always so kind and helpful in response to questions and posts. You are genuine, funny, and smart.
That being said, we’d still be loyal and love you if you wanted to post less frequently to spend more time with your adorable kids (I’d still be here every day as this is basically my living cookbook, and there are a tonne of recipes here for us already). Or, maybe you could rest on your laurels a bit and publish a cookbook? Those girls at Our Best Bites have made a pretty penny on their books, and I would love to see the same success for you. Notwithstanding that I have printed off dozens of your recipes for my home binder, I would buy a copy and many others for gifts . . . I’m just saying.
What they all said! I’d be hard pressed to add another thing. There’s a reason I’ve probably posted more of your recipes on my blog than any other!
Mel, your blog will always be the ONLY blog that matters in my book. Seriously, I love your stuff! Keep up the good work!!