Friday Thoughts
Tap, tap. Hey. You guys there?
How are you doing?
I debated about doing a Friday Thoughts post today. But as I was sitting here ruminating in my own thoughts, I realized these are EXACTLY the type of moments when I want to check in with these Friday Thoughts posts.
Because life is so much more than making chocolate chip cookies and planning a dinner menu.
Right?
I think we can all agree the last few weeks (and months for some) have been a chaotic whirlwind of events and emotions.
Today I wanted to see how you are doing with all that’s going on in the world.
And then take a little diversion from serious talk and follow up on a few things.
I’m looking forward to hearing from you today. Please comment below with any and all thoughts and experiences you are having right now!
1) How Can We Help? My heart feels heavy for those who have been affected in ways that I can’t possibly begin to comprehend. Even though we are having our own ups and downs with the emergency and all that has come with it, I know many family and friends who are having a far more difficult time than we are.
And all the healthcare professionals working on the front lines! Many of them with families of their own. I am in awe and humbled by their endless service right now. My brother is an ER doctor in Montana helping in the forefront there. In response to how we can help, his matter-of-fact answer is: stay home.
I’ve racked my brains and prayed a lot to know how to help those around us in our community. It feels particularly difficult when we’re also strictly trying to follow the directive to social distance. {Brian has a job in a “critical/essential” industry – food production – so he continues to go to and from work each day.}
We’ve continued to bring meals to neighbors and friends when help is needed. They’ve been on board with us bringing them; we’ve kept everything very sanitary and perfected the zero-contact porch drop-off! We’ve also donated to local food banks and national organizations providing meals to children in need, and it sounds silly, but I’ve also made a more conscious effort to make actual real, live phone calls to connect with family and friends and neighbors.
What are you doing to help during this time? I’m sure there are many, many other ways. I’d love to know your thoughts and ideas on this.
2) Kids at Home: In our area, school has been canceled until April 20 (with online curriculum supposedly coming around April 6). Our governor just issued an additional stay-at-home order until April 15 (which honestly doesn’t seem much different than what we’ve already been doing).
So largely, we’re just trying to all survive each other being homebound during this extended and eternal spring break.
Although I keep reminding my kids this is not summer vacation, and gosh darn it, sometimes I just NEED EVERYONE IN BED.
We have a mini schedule in the mornings: make beds, clean up breakfast, practice instruments, exercise, other jobs/chores as needed that day. But I’m not being too terribly structured at this point.
I wholeheartedly believe in this quote by Brene Brown: “boredom is sacred. We shouldn’t deny our children this holy experience.” {You can read the full quote shared recently on my friend, Andrea’s, Better Screen Time account.}
So I don’t plan our days full minute by minute. My kids are the most creative (and yes, messy and sometimes irritating) when they’re bored.
My kids are spending most of their day:
- helping with meals (making and cleaning up)
- making cookies or muffins (a lot) depending on what ingredients we have on hand
- playing out in our pasture and building forts by the creek
- reading and reading and reading
- writing poems about what’s going on in the world (when I make them…and then we perform them for Brian when he comes home from work; my 15-year old greatly wishes this activity would stop ASAP)
- learning new things like playing the ukulele and photoshop and making stop motion videos and sewing simple blankets
- building old school blanket forts in the bonus room
- keeping elaborate brackets on who is currently winning at Mario Kart (our only playable video game right now)
- and often figuring out ways to stop the bickering and just trying to ignore each other
Honestly, I don’t want to make it sound like every day is dreamy with everyone cooperating and being creative and doing amazing things independently with joy in their hearts and smiles on their faces.
It’s hard. Sometimes we’re just a regular hot mess over here. And the worst thing I can do is make you feel like we have it together 100% of the time. Not possible.
Thankfully I have a lot of bittersweet chocolate chips waiting for me in the pantry. And each day is a new slate to try again.
What’s working for you and your kids? Any thoughts to share?
Here’s a post with some great ideas and resources (especially in the comments).
3) Switching Gears: On a totally different note, on the Friday Thoughts post from a few months ago, you guys came through big time on recommendations for a) natural deodorant, b) family vacation ideas, and c) vegan/plant-based recipe ideas.
I’ll share the family vacation ideas later (when it feels more appropriate to do so). And I’m also still compiling a resource on the vegan/plant-based recipes…I promise to get that to you soon.
But if you’re curious about the natural deodorant, the overall verdict was:
A lot of you are passionate about the natural deodorant you use. And it’s clear that what works for one person may not work for another!
Largely, the Native brand and Just Ingredients were the most popular recommendations (by far). But if you want to see the whole entire list of natural deodorant recommendations, here you go. The deodorants are in no particular order except for the two most popular suggestions at the top of the list.
After I read through all the comments, I bought Native deodorant in the coconut vanilla scent {aff. link} and Just Ingredients sweet citrus scent deodorant to try. {Neither of these suggestions are sponsored in any way}
Prior to using either, I also detoxed my armpits (I’m pretty sure I just lost about 1/5th of my readers with that last statement) with this activated charcoal mask {aff. link}. It’s amazing (I use it on my face about once a week, too).
So far, I am loving the Native deodorant. A lot. I sweat more because it isn’t an anti-perspirant, but I actually don’t mind it (except for a couple times when I’ve had to stand up in front of people at church and then it wasn’t maybe the best moment ever, but every day use is fine).
Compared to Native, I don’t feel like the Just Ingredients deodorant glides on as smoothly…and because of that, I don’t feel like the texture and coverage is as good. BUT, I can definitely see why people like it and I’m keeping it on hand for when I need to change.
Because apparently, sometimes your armpits like when you change things up. At least that’s what a million of you told me in the comment thread last time. 🙂
4) What’s to Come: I know the next little while is uncertain, to say the least.
Even though I don’t know what the next few weeks (or even days) hold, I am still planning on giving you the best recipes I can during this time.
I don’t do blogging or computer tasks with my kids at home and awake, so as long as I can burn the midnight oil without being a total grump, you’ll still get new recipes!
I’ve scrapped my whole editorial calendar (which isn’t that intense anyway since I tend to fly by the seat of my pants in regards to what recipes I want to post and when), but I have some easy, family- and pantry-friendly recipes coming your way over the next couple of weeks. Like those amazing little muffins you see above.
And I have a few Easter recipes to share, too, if the timing feels right (in terms of ingredient availability).
If you’re on Instagram, I’ve also started a daily “series” on Instagram stories where I post a real, live picture of what we’re eating that night for dinner.
It’s supposed to be kind of a helpful peek into reality, but I’m not going to lie, it’s also a little sketchy some nights. Ultimately, I hope it provides you with ideas for how to cook real food in a real world with a real family! And not feel guilt about it.
Ok, that’s probably good for today.
I have much more I could say but I’ve already wasted a lot of your time (assuming you made it this far), AND my inclination to keep blabbing is largely just because I am not interacting with many other adult humans on the daily right now. #sendhelp
Love your guts so very much. I hope you’re hanging in there.
Comment below with ANYTHING you feel like sharing right now!
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I love so many of your recipes . I don’t have one exact favorite. I have not made this recipe.
You are an inspiration to some many people out there. Keep up the hard work.
I love your Friday thoughts posts! They always make your whole internet support group feel like a bunch of friends! Thank you for putting yourself out there so that we feel safe to do so as well! I love all your recipes as well. You are just awesome! Your little meme on here made me laugh! My sister put this song together, maybe it can make you laugh too! https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=kESRaww2Iy0
Thanks for all you do!
Oh yay!! Ever since I found out I have a dairy and egg allergy (in addition to my nut allergy), I’ve had to avoid baking. I’m so excited to see what you discover!
I’ve been meaning to tell you on IG, but I’ll share it here—I love your IG dinner posts!! I love the real look into your family dinner. It’s refreshing and interesting. And I’m thinking you must cook in large quantities because you often have leftovers and yet you have a big family. Anyway, love it and please keep it up!
Staying home is really important so that we don’t overwhelm the medical community–doctors like your brother. There are a few other things we can do and it sounds like you’re doing your part in other ways…helping others. My husband is a physician and I read up on CDC recommendations. There are a lot of videos posted about how to make cloth facemasks. They aren’t as good as hospital grade commercial ones, but they’re still very good and some of our hospitals are desperate. Even the CDC says, to use them rather than nothing and that even a bandana is better than nothing. My husband said that using cotton cloth and making sure there are at least two layers in the mask is very helpful. I’ve even seen some videos that add a small wire over the nose to help with shaping and making a double-layer one where you can add a tissue or filter paper inbetween those two layers…anyways…if you know how to sew, there’s an idea. Anyways, there are some of the harder hit areas in the U.S that could use these or you could make some in prep for the need that might arise in your area.
Also, there are many homebound older folks that potentially could use help getting toilet paper and such. We need to make sure we’re not sick if we help them and be as hygienic as possible, but there’s another idea that we’ve had in our area. In fact, a local hospital was taking toilet paper and paper towel donations…if you can find any to donate. 🙂
It sounds like you’re already doing an amazing job, but if you need ideas, there’s a couple.
Here are some fun things we’ve done during this time:
-went hiking in a fairly remote area
-had our own British Baking Show
-had our own March Madness
– prepared our yard and garden for spring
-had a board game day
-had a freebie day where I just let my kids live unstructured all day
We started back into online school today. It won’t take as long as regular school but I just tell my kids that they need to work on school, youth goals, exercise, piano, etc. til 3 pm…then they have unstructured free time…as long as those things are done. I think a balance between structure and lack of structure is good. We did have an official spring break last week and we did the above activities so that it gave them something a little different. Necessity is the mother of invention, right? I bet a lot more ideas will come as we continue to be in this situation. Please share if you find out some really good ones!!
You always bring joy as you share thoughts and family moments. I spy the Camille Roskelley fabric on that sweet doll quilt. I am a quilter and follow Camille’s blog. Back in 2009 she mentioned these wonderful oatmeal coconut cookies and linked to your blog. I have never turned back. My kitchen is all things Mel! You also introduced me to grinding my own wheat. Flour is in short supply here too, but I have my stash of wheat berries thanks to you.
My daughter made the Snickerdoodle Brookie bars last night. Another winner.
Take care.
Good eye, Nancy! Yes that is some of Camille’s fabric (it’s the same fabric on Cam’s big girl quilt on her bed – and Camille’s pattern, too!). She’s the sweetest and has answered a lot of quilting questions for me over the years. I’m glad you found your way here and ended up staying! thank you!
Are you still reading these comments? In these unpredictable times we are hoarding our white flour supply for cookies. ( I did not have enough white flour!) We have a few favorites and I was totally content until I tried a CRUMBL cookie two weeks ago. I had no idea what we were missing! It’s soft but flakey/crumbly like a pie crust on the edges. How?! I must learn how to make these. I thought of mixing butter/crisco combination with flour before adding eggs etc? I don’t know. We need professional help. 😉 Do you have recipe like these?
I’ve never had an official crumbl cookie (although I’ve had them from various other cookie shops). I’ll have to try them! But yes, I’m guessing they use a mix of butter and shortening for that outside texture. The mixing method could be interesting!
I’m super late to the party, but I just wanted to say that seeing your messy kitchen made me SO HAPPY. We’re doing pretty well here despite all the craziness, but having my kids constantly underfoot and constantly EATING occasionally drives me bonkers. I hate cooking in a messy kitchen!
So, yes. Thanks for keeping it real. It did my soul a whole lot of good.
Thanks, Alanna! It’s very “real” around here. Hope you’re hanging in there!
Being a blogger myself, I am beyond impressed that you don’t do anything blogging-related while your kids are at home and awake. You inspire me, in so many ways, to be a better human and a better mom.
We regular toast your existence over here after a particularly scrumptious meal is made from your blog, and we hope you guys stay safe and well and happy.
You’re so sweet, Torrie! And don’t give me more credit than I deserve. There are some days that I sneak onto the computer while the kids are watching a movie and I have about a million ways I need to be a better mom!
Thanks for this, Mel! I would love to get your input on what to say to teenagers who constantly tell me everyone else is sleeping in and playing video games all day. I had my kids take a break from any computer games last week (we don’t have a console) but it was pulling teeth to get them to want to do something creative. They have been spending a lot of time doing school work. Our district had online school up and running by our third day off. Although, we recently have been notified that course workload will be reduced quite a bit based on parent feedback. I’m hoping we’ll have more time and energy to devote to cooking, and hoping the weather will cooperate with all the yard work I’d like to get started. No more snow, please and thank you!
Haha, well my response would be: come to my house! And you’ll see quite the opposite. My teenagers were complaining about the same thing this morning. Last week was their official spring break so we let them sleep in a little bit, but this week it’s back to waking up for family scriptures in the morning and they weren’t super happy. I hope you have nice weather for the foreseeable future!
Mel. I just spent a blissful hour outside in the sunshine and light snowfall, doing a run and an outdoor workout. All cares gone for 1 hour. Then I came back inside and the reality of the chaotic life we are living right now slapped me in the face. I needed some normalcy. So, where did I turn? You. Your website and hour thoughts and your awesome sincerity has been a safe place for me for a lot of years. Over a decade! I am not looking for perfect. I am looking for brave, real, and genuine. Girl, you tick all those boxes. We are all in this together. We may be miles apart but I always have a prayer in my heart for you and your family, and I always will. Sure do love you!
My biggest challenge with food right now is actually eating it. We have what we need. I’m hesitant to use it because of my silly scarcity mindset- when are we going to get more? So I don’t dare break in to my food storage just yet, which means we are eating a lot of unplanned odds and ends. It makes for very stressful mealtimes. We have a high risk household so we are just going without fresh stuff for now until the garden matures. I don’t know what to make for my family and I don’t know how to make the meat in the freezer stretch out when half of us are gluten free and all of us function so much better on a high-protein, low starch diet. Meals are my biggest anxiety right now. Any ideas of how to make frozen chicken/pork and food storage staples fit together without all the fresh veggies and dairy products would be welcome, but don’t stress over it. I’m sure we will figure out how to work through this. Glad you’ve got your chocolate chips on hand. 😉 love and hugs!!!
Oh Amy, I feel the same way about you! This is all so hard! But we aren’t in it alone. And I’m craving realness, too…I’m so grateful for this comment thread and everything everyone has shared. I’m sorry dinner time and other meal times are so stressful. I’ve had to fight back the same feelings. Actually going to the grocery store solved most of my anxieties. When I realized that I can still get a lot of fresh produce there (and the lines weren’t bad), my stress went down a lot. Do you have any canned fruits and vegetables on hand? Let’s email about this! I want to help you.
We had spaghetti pie tonight with one hour divine breadsticks and chocolate peanut butter cookies (the ones that marinate in the fridge). 3/3 on 5 star recipes from Mel’s kitchen cafe. It’s nice to know I can still eat well, even when we’re staying home. Thanks Mel! The world would is a lot yummier and honest and real with you in it! ❤️
Thank you so much, Annie!