Friday Thoughts: Holiday Detox and Other “Stuff”
Random as always, I decided to type up a quick Friday Thoughts brain download while we are on a little 6-hour road trip this afternoon. Don’t forget to comment below with any and all of YOUR thoughts (my favorite part!).
Remodel Thoughts: We thought it would be fun (??) to start remodeling significant parts of our house the week before Christmas. And by “we,” I mean, Brian and I are giving lots of advice but leaving the important work to the highly-recommended Eric from Remedy Residential (locals – he’s amazing, but you can’t have him until he’s done with my bathrooms, k, thanks). It started with the kitchen pantry because my cute, little corner pantry was starting to spill out into every corner of the house. Literally. I was stashing food and cooking supplies in the kids’ closets, above the washer, and underneath beds.
We figured out a way to punch through the back wall of the existing pantry and utilize some of our deeper garage space to create a walk-in pantry. And seriously, I don’t think I’ve ever been so excited about something in my life.
I legit think I heard angels singing when I walked into the renovated space for the first time. Also, I think, maybe, possibly, most definitely Eric was a little caught off guard when I hugged him because of my excitement over pantry shelving. What I really know is that this miraculous, new walk-in pantry brings a whole new meaning to my oft-used coping skill of hiding in the pantry eating chocolate chips.
Brian Recovery Thoughts: Thank you to EVERYONE who has emailed, commented and followed up to ask me how Brian is recovering after this post where I vented a little about it. Brian is doing much, much better. He’s back to 100% capacity in terms of work, home life, and church service. Although he’s dealing with pretty constant congestion from the surgery and his snoring is…well…still very special, we are grateful he’s doing so much better than he was in October and November. Thank you so much for caring!
Go Positive Thoughts: Are you an ambitious new year’s resolution setter? I’m kind of a moderate. I always choose a few things to work on (both personally, spiritually and creatively) but I don’t go crazy. The feeling of failure is hard for my perfectionist personality, and I do better when I set the bar low, or rather, realistically. This year personally, after having some emotional breakdowns in regards to parenting and some issues we are dealing with at home and with the kids, my biggest goal is that I’m not saying anything this year that isn’t positive. While I’m trying this in all aspects of my life, mostly it is in relation to how I mother my kids.
I feel so strongly that if I can stick with this, it will change the trajectory of my kids’ lives. Don’t get me wrong, I’m still correcting behavior and issuing consequence, if need be, but I’m framing all of those conversations positively (i.e. “it would really help if everyone could jump up and help in the kitchen so we can get things cleaned up!” vs. “seriously, you guys, can’t anyone get off the couch and help a little bit around here??”). Not going to lie, I’ve already nearly bitten the side of my tongue off keeping myself from saying something naggy/negative and have ended most nights since the new year with a migraine from the effort of ignoring a lot of “behavioral noise” and focusing on positive, positive, positive, but thankfully I am seeing nearly miraculous improvements in the feeling of our home, and I’m determined to continue, even if the effort earns me some gray hair. I’m also doling out more 8-second hugs to anyone related to me who will take them (and also those who don’t want them!).
Creatively, I’m committing myself to finally finish the Fancy Forest quilt I started a couple years ago. Last year, I finished my first-ever, real, live pieced quilt (this Book Nerd quilt pictured below) and gave it to the kids as their traditional homemade Christmas present (although I didn’t confess to them how many bad words I said while making it – quilting is hard!!). Their reactions were so fun on Christmas morning…here’s to hoping I survive and actually finish a much harder quilt this year.
Cinnamon Roll Thoughts: Would you believe me if I told you over the holidays I discovered the cinnamon roll recipe to end all cinnamon roll recipes? I don’t know how to say this and have you take me seriously (considering I have an abnormal number of “favorite” cinnamon rolls already posted), but I’m not sure I’ll ever make another cinnamon roll recipe. These new cinnamon rolls are amazing – lighter, fluffier, and more delicious than any I’ve ever made, I think. What level of interest do you have in me posting this new recipe (given to me by an amazing home chef/baker friend from church)? Stop already with another cinnamon roll recipe or bring it on??
Holiday Wrap Up Thoughts: Overall, we had a great Christmas and New Year’s despite having some lingering sickie germs. And, you know, general holiday and sugar overload (can only be blamed on poor parenting choices such as committing to a Harry Potter movie marathon among other things). We’ve also completed no less than four pretty substantial puzzles thanks to the fact that we are a family of puzzling nerds. The kids go back to school on Monday, and we are currently on a last-minute family drive to Utah to celebrate the life of Brian’s grandpa who passed away on New Year’s Eve at the age of 91. A bittersweet, but also wonderful, way to end the holiday.
Ok, now gimme all YOUR thoughts! Holiday thoughts, cinnamon roll thoughts, pantry thoughts, goal setting thoughts or any old thought you want to share. I love reading them all!
A couple things…thank you for posting your pantry! I have a corner pantry too and have been contemplating bumping it out into the garage so it was fun to see how you did it. My grandma also passed away this year on New Year’s Eve at 95. and I love your goals, ignoring all the junk behavior is so hard! way to keep at it!
i’m usually not one to comment, but your thoughts about being positive really struck a chord with me… especially when it comes to talking with my own kids. is there a book or something you’ve read that is helping you along or are you just slowing down to find a more positive way to say/ask what needs to be said? i’m thinking this is something i really want to do. any thoughts will be greatly appreciated. enjoy the rest of your week!
I agree. I would like a separate post all about this!
I’ve been using your recipes for years and years now. I’ve never read your thoughts post before. I just sat down to print out a Sunday dinners recipe when I clicked on the above post. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. I have stopped making resolutions years ago because I never felt like I had the time or energy for another “thing”. This year I had this impression that changing my heart doesn’t require any time. It just requires me to change. Being soft spoken is not my natural tendency. My natural tendency is to be critical. I have already failed alot this month, but when I read your post it made me start crying. Maybe I started crying because I relate to you, or maybe it was because your post was an answer to my prayers, I know I need to change, and what you wrote about being positive really just nailed it on the head. Thank you so much for your thoughts, and know that what you do makes a difference. The recipes you organize on your site have blessed our family a lot. Family dinner is really the thing that keeps our family feeling like they belong, and feel accepted. What you do is more than just food for the body, it promotes family solidarity, which feeds the soul. The one thing I want my kids to remember is that their family was always there for them, So Thank you for your recipes, and thank you for your post about being positive.
Oh, Lisa, your comment almost made ME cry. Thank you so much for your words. “family solidarity which feeds the soul” really stuck out to me. I think you are right and it makes me feel valued in my efforts to have family dinners with my kids and revolve life around food (which seems to unite us). Being soft spoken isn’t my natural tendency either, hence the need for change. It can feel so hard, but I’m right there with you…let’s do it together. Last week was a bit rough, I found myself sliding into more negativity than I had all month, so I took a step back and figured out what was triggering me to be negative instead of positive and am trying to recenter this week. Thank you for your comment.
Pleeeaaase post the cinnamon rolls! Your other cinnamon rolls are so good, I can’t imagine something better. They must be magical!
I love all things Mel and admire many things about your intentional parenting. Being a mom is the hardest job you’ll ever adore (and no one tells you that ahead of time). I would love to hear if you’ve discovered a way to look ahead a year or two or three and be planful about fun/connecting as a family/memory making ( I.e. family retreats?). I worry that, poof!, graduation day will come too quickly, and I’ll wish we had done more together to enjoy life. BTW, I’m not a very planful gal. I tend to take things one day at a time.
That’s a great question, Jami. Brian and I do plan a year or so ahead in terms of family activities, especially now that we have a teenager who works a bit during the summers. But it’s also a balance because we know how quickly life, jobs, finances can change and so the plans aren’t cemented in. Just ideas and tentative scheduling of dates.
Mel, new pantry looks fab. Can’t wait for the cinnamon roll recipe.
Thanks, Michele!
Your Friday Thoughts post are some of my favorite. I really loved the idea of positive thoughts/words parenting and I think it’s something I’m going to try and implement. I didn’t think I needed to, but I read this post a bit ago and have been thinking about it and listening to what’s coming out of my mouth, and you know what?, I’m not as positive as I think I am! So it’s something I’m going to try and be better at. As Marilyn said below, thanks for inspiring me to be better! Life is Good 🙂
Thanks, Ellen! I’m forging ahead with the positivity. It was much easier the first two weeks of my goal. Haha. But I see such a big difference when I can make it a life change and not just a trial type thing.
Very excited for that cinnamon roll recipe!!!