Friday Thoughts: Quick Life Update + Easing Back In
After being gone for several weeks, I’m easing back into blogging today with a quick life update.
It’s a hard one to write. Many of you “met” my dear friend, Holli, from this post a couple months ago. Thank you for your response on that post. I can’t overstate what your comments (and all the emails and private messages that flooded in) did to buoy Holli up during what would become the most painful and difficult weeks of her life.
She was so inspired by you. She cried as she read your comments (or as they were read to her) as she realized that her life and example might have possibly inspired others and maybe even helped change lives in some way.
Holli ended her earthly battle with terminal cancer a few weeks ago, and those of us who know her and love her feel the weight of the loss keenly – none more so than her husband and six kids and those extended family members close to her. My heart breaks continually watching this sweet family begin to pick up the pieces of a life without their sweet Holli.
Grief is a funny thing. It invites itself in and settles deep in the heart without asking permission. It can leave you breathless and numb one minute, laughing and crying the next.
At times over the last week or so, I’ve found myself trying to discount my grief and sorrow, telling myself that I wasn’t family to Holli – I was just a friend, and as such, maybe I just need to suck it up a bit? Get on with life?
But I’m learning, cautiously, that grief doesn’t exist on a continuum. One person’s grief is no less substantial or worthy than another person’s. It’s just…different. And we are all entitled to it.
After spending time with Holli and being in her home nearly every day for the last 21 months, I feel like I’ve lost a sister. And it hurts. I hurt for my loss. I hurt for Holli’s heartbroken family. I hurt for the injustice and unfairness of life. I hurt because, well, I just can’t help it.
Holli’s needs and her passing and her funeral (and everything else that is bittersweet and hard in this process) has occupied most of my life space, emotionally, physically and mentally, the last several months.
Added on to that is all the other daily demands of life.
You know. Like, helping an I-refuse-to-believe-he-is-this-old son get ready for his first prom.
And troublemaking pigs escaping fences and peering in at us from back windows.
And making nanaimo bars with a couple of Holli’s sweet nieces the day after her funeral (Holli was born and raised in Canada but her husband’s family had never had the deliciousness of a nanaimo bar, so we made them in Holli’s honor).
And going through the motions of Easter traditions (this is my buddy “T” – Holli’s youngest son), and he was particularly excited to dye hard-boiled eggs.
And fixing garbage disposals in shirts and ties in between church meetings because it’s the only five minutes in the day to do so.
And entertaining kids with spring break diversions (please note: the teenagers wanted nothing to do with the “exciting” rides at the arcade).
And generally just dealing with the other mundane and not so mundane details of a busy, ordinary life while the world, near and far, feels like it’s falling apart.
I don’t feel like I’m the same person I was last year or even a few months ago. I’ve hit pause on a lot of things to figure out how I want to move forward (spoiler alert: I don’t miss social media at all but I DO miss this blogging space and connecting with you).
Thank you to those of you who reached out wondering and worried if I was ok when it was so quiet here and on Instagram for so long. I honestly can’t believe any of you would give it a second thought or think to comment or email me about it. Your concern and prayers and thoughtful, thoughtful words have been a gentle balm to my aching heart. It means more than I can express in words right now. I’m sorry I haven’t yet responded to all the messages.
If you knew spunky, sassy Holli in person, you’d know that she’d be hollering at me to get on with life! Carry on! And “for the love, give the people the dang recipes they want, Mel!” (a direct quote from Holli, haha).
So I’ll be getting back to it little by little. I’m picking up some stray pieces of my own life that I’ve let go by the wayside the last few weeks, and all of it needs to get put back together in the proper order. Some areas involving my kids and other aspects will require a bit more time and TLC than others.
I learned so much from Holli. Namely: God is always, always in the details. She would say that over and over, even in the midst of her worst pain and distress. I have seen the evidence of this more times than I can count over the last couple of years.
One instance that stands out is related to this bagel bread. It is a pretty incredible story. Hopefully I’ll be able share it some day (this post is already getting too long).
In my short remarks at Holli’s funeral, I shared the following message and quote, and I felt like I wanted to share it here, too. It sums up the essence of who Holli is. She was continually focused on service and on her Savior, Jesus Christ, and despite her trials, she had a tremendous amount of hope in good things to come.
As you know, Holli passed away on Good Friday. And just like Christ’s friends and family spent days mourning and weeping after his death, they soon learned…that Sunday will come. The sadness of that Friday did not endure. The despair did not linger because on Sunday, the resurrected Lord burst the bonds of death.
As Joseph B. Wirthlin so eloquently put it: “Each of us will have our own Fridays—those days when the universe itself seems shattered and the shards of our world lie littered about us in pieces. We all will experience those broken times when it seems we can never be put together again. We will all have our Fridays. But I testify to you in the name of the One who conquered death—Sunday will come. In the darkness of our sorrow, Sunday will come. No matter our desperation, no matter our grief, Sunday will come.”
We love you Holli. Our hearts and lives will never be the same. We are forever changed by your dedication to the Lord as we witnessed how truly and completely you have always loved and ministered to others. I have no doubt that’s exactly what you are doing right now. I testify that Jesus Christ knows Holli. He knows us. He loves us. And He will carry us through the hard and beautiful days ahead.
{artwork from here}
Lastly, thank YOU for being here. For being patient with me as I have navigated a particularly difficult time. And for letting me share a piece of my soul here, even though this is “just” a food blog.
It’s an honor to share this space with you. I know we all face difficult, challenging, and messy lives at times. You are not alone. I am not alone. We are all in this together, and I have been strengthened by your goodness, your kindness, your vulnerability, and your virtual generosity in thoughts and words. I love your guts so very, very much.
I’ll be back next week with some recipes that have been patiently waiting for months for their chance in the spotlight. XOXO
349 Comments on “Friday Thoughts: Quick Life Update + Easing Back In”
A little teary eyed. I know it’s been a year but still I am so sorry. What a marvelous woman!
Thinking of you a year later, hoping your heart has healed a bit more and that Holli’s family is healing as well. In Christ, through HIM we shine.
Mel,
I missed this when you posted but was just going through your recipes and came upon this post. I am so sorry for you loss of such a dearly loved friend. This kind of loss is so heart breaking and there really are no words to explain it. I hope you have found some peace since this post but I know Holli will always be missed. When I saw her picture,I realized she looks so familiar to me. Did she happen to go to high school on Utah? All the hugs to you during those tough moments when you miss her the most ♥️
Thanks for your inspiring words! Much appreciated! Carole
Beautiful words! You are an inspiration. As I looked through your photos I thought, “I want to be a friend like Mel.” The kind of friend who visits in someone’s time of need, the kind of friend who builds relationships long before times of need, the kind of friend who could have a friend’s children over to do something fun, the kind of friend who could have someone’s nieces over to make something. That’s pretty incredible. Thanks for sharing your sorrow, pain, the mundane, and the highlights of your life with us.
Mel, thank you. I lost my best friend of 22 years from terminal brain cancer about 3 years ago. I can relate so much to this. You are an angel to help Holli as you did, prior to her passing, and now she is your angel helping you from above.
Mel, this post was absolutely beautiful. Thank you for sharing and opening your heart to us. I wept as I read it. I have never ever left a comment on anything on the internet. But you somehow have broken down whatever walls have been holding me back. Your reaching out has made me less self centred. I have slowly grown to love you as your recipes have been a part of my life several times a week for years and years. Thank you for letting us follow your light. I wish I could return how you’ve buoyed me up.
Ditto to all the comments on here. I am also in the everything-Mel-posts-is-gold-and-I-don’t-follow-any-other-blogs club.
Thank you for your honesty in many areas of your life. Your vulnerability really provides hope to those of us who need to put some grace into practice. Sometimes I think of a photo you posted years ago of your baby girl screaming in her high chair in a messy kitchen. It helps when my baby is screaming while I’m baking the perfect chocolate brownie cheesecake for my 7 year old’s birthday (instead of making dinner, of course) and I’m trying to shovel nutella quesadillas into my kids quickly so I can get them all in bed. That was today.
Life is funny, isn’t it? And hard. God is absolutely in the details. Thank you for sharing Holli’s story.
Mel,
What a beautiful tribute to your friend Holli and a testament to hers and yours faith and friendship. You are so right about grief, there is no one size fits all; your emotions, tears, laughs, highs and lows are proof of that. May you take as much time as you need to process this deeply felt loss and I am certain like you, that Holli is finally at peace. I will say a prayer tonight for Holli, her family, and friends; may the love and memories sustain you now and forever,
Tears are coming as I read this post, especially as you quoted Elder Wirthlin to remind me of the Savior ❤️ Prayers for you and all who knew Holli!
Crying with and for you and your loss, Mel. Holli was blessed to have you as a friend and be loved by you Mel. Peace be on your and her family’s hearts.
Just sitting here with tears streaming down my face; in a very tiny way, entering into the sorrow you are experiencing in the loss of your precious friend. You so beautifully expressed the reality of grief, yet the beauty of grief that is not without hope. May God use Holli’s testimony to draw others to Jesus Christ: the Way, the Truth, and the Life. Thank you for sharing with us.
Same. Crying with and for you and your loss, Mel. Holli was blessed to have you as a friend and be loved by you Mel. Peace be on your and her family’s hearts.
Thank you, Mel. You take all the time you need to grieve in the way that feels right for you. Love and prayers for you and Holli’s precious family. You have been such a true friend to her!
Thanks for sharing things are so painful and personal. This post was very well-written and in addition to helping you deal with your grief, it will help many others who face the same challenge. We love your recipes but even more, it’s nice to know what kind of person you are and what kind of family you are raising. Best wishes.
Mel you are loved! I also don’t know the words to say to express..just gratitude for your vulnerability and goodness and your efforts and everything imbetween. I actually did wonder where you were when a new post hadn’t shown up. I thought something was wrong with your website I’m so grateful for your example! Everyone needs friends that will step in when needed. You’re so amazing! Lots of love
Mel we are waiting for that bagel bread Holli story whenever you have time 🙂 She sounds so incredible
Mel, you’re the best. thank you for sharing your thoughts, love and faith (and recipes) with all of us. My heart wants to say much more, but I just don’t have the words. Thank you for all you’ve done for your friend and her family. The picture of her little boy dying eggs at your house brought me to tears. I have a little boy that looks a lot like him. If I were to leave this world a little earlier than expected, I’d be so grateful for a good friend who took my little boy to her house to die eggs… or just have fun for a moment and take a short break from grief. Thank you for filling your space in the internet with good. Thank you for sharing sooo much good with all of us. Keep it up. Hugs!
Hello Mel! A good friend introduced me to your website a few years ago and I can truly say it has changed my family’s life. Basically 100% of everything we make is from you. The words “is this a Mel?” have become common place in our home even amongst my 3 little girls. I am posting today because I want you to know how different you are from the rest of the insane internet these days, and how much your thoughts mean to me. To be entirely honest I HATE social media, I don’t own any accounts! I have NEVER left a comment or a review on anything online before, this is my first. I cannot standing looking up recipes on the internet and having to read meaningless advertisement fluff before finally arriving to the recipe. But I love you and everything you post. I happily and eagerly await your next recipes and carefully cherish each word/story/comment before the recipe. I find it refreshing when you take little breaks. I know that you yourself are dealing with how to raise children in this crazy crazy world while finding time to serve others around you. Haha it makes me selfishly feel a bit better about myself knowing that you too are human. Thank you for posting the tried and the true both food wise, and life wise. I cannot express to you enough the different you have made in hundreds of people’s lives through your talent and attitude. Food really is your love language. It makes me want to share my love of food with those around me. How incredible it is that this gift God has given you has become a truly Christ-like service to so many around you? Anyways, you might not even see this post as it is linked to an older one now but I wanted to take a few minutes to let you know that we all love you, we thank you for your thoughts, and will be with you both in food and in spirit until the end.
I have missed you dearly. I hope I don’t creep you out with texts or weepy voicemails. No pressure, but it’s SO great to ‘see’ you again. You are food for the body AND soul… so basically, you’re a superhero, haha!
I am so sorry for your loss. My husband died of melanoma after a short brutal battle so I know some of how you feel. It also came out of nowhere but struck hard. My thoughts and prayers are with you and Holli’s family.
I am really sorry for your loss Mel and I appreciate you sharing the beautiful message you gave at the funeral. Like the other readers here we really appreciate everything you share on this “just” a food blog.
Ditto to this. Love all that comes with your “just” food blog. Love to you, yours, and Holli’s family. ❤
My heart goes out to you. You are an amazing cook, and now I know an amazing all around person.I hop one day I can meet you in person.
Thank you. I have followed you for years. I love your willingness to share your beliefs and soul with us..
Oh Mel, I’m so sorry for your loss, for the gapping hole that you and so many others are dealing with right now. Your pain has great purpose. Thank you for sharing so much of yourself, your true self with us. If I ever ran into you I’d talk to you like I would a good friend, because that’s how I feel about you. I’ve actually thought how much I’d love to be neighbors. I needed your post today and I love Elder Wirthlin’s words. Thank you. Thank you for being who you are. Thank you for inspiring me to be a better person. Thank you for adding good in the world. Thank you for adding good food to my world! Thank you for lifting and building and doing good. ❤ Marie
Love this so much!!!! There is a fabulous TED talk on moving through grief, not “moving on” after someone we love dies. Look it up!
I’m so sorry. A great fear of all parents I’m sure, just behind loosing one of our sweet babies, is leaving our sweet babies without us. Thank god they seem to have a lot of loving family and friends, like yourself, to hold them up in her absence.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Praying for you and your dear friends family. Grief is hard. ❤️
I’m so very sorry for your loss, Mel.
I like to think of these posts as ‘Mel’s food for thought’ which are equally as good as ‘Mel’s food for the belly’. Your goodness is inspiring. I’m sure you were a light in the darkness of Holli’s battle.
Oh Mel…I’m so sorry to hear of Holli’s passing…the grief must seem unending. We take for granted so many times the blessings we’ve been given, but I’m making it a point to stop and see the world around me more often, to hug and kiss my family a little extra. Sending my prayers your way and hugs…lots of hugs.
So grateful for your message. I’m currently standing beside a dear friend having her own “Friday” experience. I am keenly aware of the sacred privilege it is to walk through this space with another. Maybe it’s the closest life to Jesus we can create here. Sounds like Holli was a remarkable woman whose influence will be felt for a very long time. Wishing all peace.
Thank you for sharing this very tender experience. What a blessing for Holli and her family to have your love and support through all of this.
I hope you’ll be sharing the Nanaimo bar recipe.
You are an amazing person and so eloquent in sharing your thoughts. Thank you. I don’t follow very many bloggers, but I keep yours because you are real- like in this post. Hugs.
Hi Mel,
Just wanted to tell you I get what you are feeling. Grief is so heavy, and has made me feel much older than my years. But there is also a beauty and a hope that can be felt no other way. I have buried two darling infant daughters, who had “an unknown genetic disorder”. To be with our cherished ones as they begin to stop living is difficult, and has changed me. Especially with your dear Holli’s children and husband figuring out how to live now, my heart makes me tear up. I am sending you a hug from here, hoping all of you can find more sunshine ahead.
P.s. I just re-read “Little Women” recently, and though I lost my own darling Jo four years ago almost, the book named so well many feelings i felt in my experience as their beloved Beth passed on. Might be something for your heart to turn to a bit further down the road.
Much love, Jessee Stewart
Thank you for sharing your thoughts here and tribute to your wonderful friend. I have enjoyed your recipes for many years and have never left a comment before, but was very touched by your post and wanted to thank you for sharing!
I cried reading your sweet words about your friend. My dad always tells me “pain is like a gas”…it fills the entire space, no matter who you are or what the pain is. So your pain is real and you are worthy to feel it. I am so sorry. We miss you here, but if I’ve learned anything about pain and pausing…it’s that we all have pain, some times are harder than others, and we all have moments we need to pause. Hugs to you today and as you move forward discovering a new normal. ❤️
Mel, thank you for sharing Holli’s story and yours. Thank you for not being afraid to share Holli’s and your testimony of our Savior on – as you said – “just a food blog”. Food is an extension of our emotions … it’s happy, it’s sad, it’s fun and silly… it’s ceremonial. It marks occasions and inspires traditions, it’s nostalgic and sentimental. It’s the first thing I think to take to someone on a birthday or someone struggling (almost always your recipes by the way). Food is comfort. My heart aches for Holli’s sweet, sweet family and friends (you). You will all be in my prayers. Thank you for all you said about grief… it was spot on.
Mel, I have never, ever commented on your blog even though my family enjoys your recipes at least 5 night a week. But here I sit in tears, sharing your pain and her pain and the pain of that precious boy smiling with his Easter eggs. Thank you for reminding us that we are all, indeed, in it together, and He is most definitely in it with us – in the details.
So sorry for you loss. I lost my BFF, Holly, to colon cancer almost 6 years ago. She was an amazing woman as well and will always be missed. It’s her birthday today and I still cry wishing she were here. The biggest blessing is watching their kids become beautiful people just like she was.
Prayers to all who knew your sweet friend too.
Thank you for this beautiful, uplifting post.
Thank you for sharing these beautiful thoughts Mel. I’m so sorry for your pain and loss and so happy for the friend you continue to be to Holli, her family, and all of us. You’re a great example of what is good, real, and lasting. Thank you for the light you spread.
My best friend of 30 years (like my sister) went to Jesus last April. I totally understand your pain. God is so good and He is so near to the broken hearted. I am so thankful that I know Him as my Savior and Lord and that I will see Marla again. I will pray for her family and for you.
I love everything about this blog and YOU! ❤️ We’ve never met, but you are a big part of our everyday lives and the ONLY reason my family eats delicious food. Thank you for being you and for sharing yourself with us.
Sending lots of love, prayers, and virtual hugs your way and to Hollis family. Grief is hard ❤️❤️❤️ Take all the time you need. We will be here when you are ready ❤️❤️❤️
Oh Mel, this is so hard. You’ve been through a lot. We sure miss you, but take the time you need. Holli and her family are so blessed to have you in their lives, and you’ve been blessed by them too. Sending lots of love!
You may not have missed social media but you were missed. I’m so sorry you and Holli’s family had to go through this trial. But thank you for sharing your faith and Holli’s faith with us. It helps. Thank you for being real, for sharing your “hard” so that others can see a way through their “hard.” And that talk by Elder Worthlin is one of my absolute favorites too. A friend of mine included it in a powerful talk she gave when she was suffering with what would end up being terminal breast cancer. What a wonderful promise- Sunday will come!
Sending hugs and love ♥️♥️
I’ve been thinking of you and the loss of your sweet friend <3 You were/are undoubtedly a great comfort and bright light to her and her family. We should all love and be loved so well.
Thank you for sharing this incredible story with us! A great reminder of how precious life is and how we all need to cherish our relationships with our loved ones and friends. What a great gift Holli had to share with us all! Being from Minnesota it is always nice to hear how well our Mayo Clinic is able to help and comfort those who are so ill too. Keeping you, your family, and Holli’s family in our thoughts and prayers.
So sorry for your loss. May the knowledge of the gospel be a comfort to you and Holli’s family. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Yesterday was the birthday of a dear friend of mine who passed away 3 years ago to cancer, so similar to Holli’s situation – young family, amazing lady, dearly missed. It’s not easy saying goodbye. I loved your quote by Elder Wirthlin. This is one that comforts me by Pres Nelson, “The only way to take sorrow out of death is to take love out of life.” It makes me realize how much I appreciate the moments and the memories and the opportunities to love.
Thank you for being so open and honest about life and faith. “Because He lives, we can face tomorrow.” Your blog about Holli has me in tears because my heart breaks for you, Holli’s family, and all those out there that cancer has touched (myself included). Thank you for your recipies, but thank you more for being who God called you to be.
Mel, we don’t know each other, so you certainly don’t need my unsolicited advice. However, as a follower of your wonderful blog for many years, working mom of 3 and wife who has also experienced a lot of grief and loss of loved ones- I encourage you to know we’ll all be here when you are ready. Don’t feel obligated to us & take time. Take lots of time. You have given us all so much! is there something we can do for you in the meanwhile? How can we give back? Can we send you some crazy family recipes of our own that we love for you to get laughs or inspiration to improve upon? Can we send you our favorite games or puzzles we’ve discovered in the pandemic for you to easily put together a ‘best of/favorites’ post you do so well? You’ve created a community here. No better time to lean into it! Xo
I’m sorry you lost a sweet, dear friend. She sounds like the kind of friend I wish every one would have. I have missed your recipe posts…. but goodness there is no shortage of recipes posted here on your site! Take your time grieving the loss of your friend….. no one is going to go hungry because of lack of inspiration here on your site. Hugs!!
Thank you for sharing this. Thinking of you and so sorry for your and the whole community’s loss.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost a dear friend to cancer in January and it’s been so hard. You spoke directly to my heart with the feelings of “I’m not family, I should just get on with it.” I felt like I wasn’t worthy of my feelings. I’ve come to find a small group of about 5 friends of hers from different places she lived in her life, a sort of 5 best friends groups and we’ve been able to talk almost every day. It’s done so much for me in being able to not feel alone in my grief. At first though, I felt the need to qualify in my mind that I knew her less time than the other women…what you said made so much more sense to me. There’s no continuum for this. Again, I’m so sorry for your loss of this clearly amazing friend.
Mel,
The talk you gave at Holli’s funeral was absolutely beautiful and so poignant. Holli was so lucky to have you in her life, and especially during her last months on earth. I know you feel just as lucky to have had her in your life. I truly believe that there are eternal friendship that we make here , and no doubt your and Holli’s friendship is an eternal one.
Hi Mel. I’m so sorry. I sent you a note last week on Insta because I hadn’t seen you there for a while. Just now seeing this. I am so very sorry. Everyone needs a friend like you. What a blessing you must have been in Holli’s life <3
love you.
Si
I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your dear friend! Hugs!!! I lost my Dad the day before Easter due to COVID complications, so I know the pain you are going through. Grief is such an odd thing since everyone deals with it so differently. I hope you find peace in knowing that she is in a better place and no longer suffering. That’s how I find comfort with the loss of my dad.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Holli left behind a very strong village which must be a testament to her life.
Thank you for sharing a piece of your heart. It lifted mine today! Bless you, prayers sent your way!
Thank you for sharing your life, your love, your recipes and your grief with us. I am so very sorry for your loss. Sending love and positive thoughts to you and yours for healing and peace. ❤️
Wow. Thank you for this. I got on to reprint for the 25th time your German pancake recipe, but instead got fed spiritually as well. My niece and her boyfriend died in a tragic car accident on December 18, 5 days before her 23rd birthday. The quote you shared from Elder Wirthin was incredible. I will share with her family. Grateful for the gospel perspective of Sunday’s. Best wishes to you and all you are trying to do. ❤️
I am sorry for your lose. I went to High School with Holli and she was such a sweet girl. I know her family is devastated that they couldn’t be there for the funeral. Good friends are such a blessing.
I am very sorry to hear of your dear friend’s passing. Much love to you and all who knew her.
Oh,my heart. I have thought of Holly so often since your last post. I had a melanoma skin cancer removed right about the time of the post and it hit close to home. I am so sorry to hear that she has passed but what a blessing to know of the Plan of Salvation, Sunday will come. You and her sweet family will be in my prayers.
I’m so so sorry to hear of your loss. I lost someone special recently too. Getting back to living life without someone is so hard. ((Hugs))
My dearest Mel, I asked Calvin because I wanted to send you a card. But he doesn’t. And a post online feels not personal enough. But I wanted to let you know that you have been on my mind. Grief is a tough, tough thing. Don’t feel bad that you aren’t the same person. There is no doubt that you have been Holli’s personal angel here on earth. Take all the time you need to heal and some more. And please know that thousands of people adore you, are cheering for you and praying for you. Love you and miss you, friend.
Love you so much Mel!♥️
Blessings for your friend and her family and YOU. Sounds like you and Holli were wonderful gifts to each other. +
Thank you for sharing your feelings and the words you shared at Holli’s funeral. I am so sorry you had to say goodbye to your friend. You are absolutely her family, and the way you have served and are serving Holli and her family is the best way a sister can lift and bless someone else. I hope you know you have lots and lots of friends you have never met out here that love you (and your recipes). Take your time coming back, do what you need to do to take care of yourself, and your family. You are different after what you’ve gone through, and the loss you are experiencing. So it’s ok if the you moving forward is different than the old you.
Thanks for being you. We’re here when Mel is ready to come back in any form that works for you!
Sending Lots of love,
Joyce
Lehi, UT
Mel, you put in to words exactly exactly how I have been feeling but didn’t know how to express it in paragraphs 5-8. Thank you for this beautiful post and for being such a beautiful person. You are a huge example of love and kindness, probably more than you know. It’s been an honor to meet you through Holli.
Sadie
What a beautiful tribute to an amazing woman. I‘m so sorry for your loss and your hurting heart. Don’t feel any pressure to come back until you are ready. While we wait, we’ll be praying for you and your family.❤️
Several years ago my awesome sister in law introduced me to melskitchen cafe. I quickly fell in love with Mel and her amazing recipes and take in life. You reminded me so much of my sister in law Leesa who introduced you to me. She had five sons and a little girl at the end just like you. She shared You’re purposeful living and willingness to put your family first. And every time I read your Friday thoughts, or made a great recipe, I was grateful to have such wonderful women influencing me. Oct 2019 our Leesa was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer. She passed away six months later, after a painful battle with the the cancer. Loosing Leesa has left a huge hole in our lives. She too, like your Holli wanted us to keep living life, and we are all trying. I feel your pain and grief. Life can be so hard and so sad. Thank you for being such a good friend and example to us all❤️
A dear friend of mine lost her baby girl (she lived 50 days) the week before Easter. You so eloquently described some of the grief that I have felt both myself and for her. Thank you for your words, your goodness, and your vulnerability. I needed it today.
I have loved your recipes, and was just thinking I needed to see what was new, as I haven’t checked in a few weeks. And then instead here’s your beautiful message, instead. My mom just recently went through brain surgery to repair an aneurysm, and I have been going through my own battle with grief and heart break. She is miraculously recovering now, but I understand your post in the deep regions of my soul. I’m so grateful for the peace that can come before, during and after the storm. I’m so grateful for prayer. And I’m so grateful and filled with wonder at the doctrine of the endurance of our souls after death. Thank you for sharing your words and thoughts, Mel. I am touched more than I ever thought possible by a food blog!
Sending hugs and prayers to you and Holli’s family.
What a sweet, beautiful post. Thank you so much for sharing such a tender part of your heart. I love this about you, as much as I love your incredible recipes. Prayers for you and for Hollis family
What a truly beautiful post. Much love to you, your loved ones and her loved ones as you navigate this time.
Thank you, Mel. This post is why you’re my favorite cooking blogger ever. Love and prayers during thus difficult time.
This was such a beautiful tribute to your friend. Thank you for sharing. I am inspired by your friendship with Holli. Sounds like you were both really lucky to have known each other. Hopefully, there will be lots of peace and love in the days ahead for all of you.
I’m so sorry for the loss of your friend.
Just wanted to send out a virtual hug. Losing someone–anyone close to us–leaves such a hole in our heart. We are different on the other side of the experience. While we know death is part of life, those of us left behind have incapacitating grief at times. Give yourself the space and time to begin to live again. Find the support you need through positive memories and share experiences with those who also loved her. These suggestions and the gospel of Jesus Christ have been a huge support to me through my grief–hopefully you find they make a difference for you as well.
I’m so sorry for the loss of your sweet friend.
Been thinking about you Mel, so sorry for your loss. I’m glad you’re getting through this difficult time and making space for what you need. <3
My daughter, who is 13, and I have been checking your blog to see when you were on again. Thank you for your tender post. We share your faith and I am crying now at your grief – thank you for sharing it all. It’s a hard thing to know how to carry both grief and faith with over-riding hope. I pray you and your family and all who love and know Holli are blessed. Thanks again for teaching all of us and for sharing. We love you (I think in heaven you’re going to be shocked by all the blog friends you have there – can we have a “best of” food party as we all get to know one another face-to-face while we feed our faces? 🙂
Mel thank you for sharing your inspiring deepest thoughts. Hearts and prayers go out to you for all that you do!! I’m sure that the blessing of Holli goes both ways. When we serve and give both are blessed. Glad your back. I appreciate you sharing your recipes. Karen Wardle
We love you Mel!! Thank you for opening your heart to us this week but also every day opening your family, home and love of food to us. I’m so sorry for the loss of your beautiful friend. I hope that you can be comforted during this hard time as well as anyone who loved Holli.
I’m so sorry to hear of Holli’s passing. I cannot imagine her husband and kids going on without their wife/mother as most women are the nucleus of a family. It will leave such a huge hole and void in their hearts. Prayers for strength, love, support, and faith to carry on each day.
I can feel the love and support and friendship you (and I’m sure many others) had for Holli as well in your words. It can be so hard to process death when things are so busy and hectic and pulling one’s life in so many directions. Don’t forget to breathe through it all. There is no schedule on grieving. You can be okay one minute and a wreck the next.
Just take life a day at a time and know some days will be harder than others.
As to rest of your post, your son looks very handsome for prom! It is amazing how fast time goes once your children are in high school.
That pig picture is too much! What a cutie pie! I grew up on a farm and we had pigs and I will say they were notorious for escaping their pen! Those little rascals liked to roam around.
Rest of pictures were great too. Making bars, coloring eggs, husband dressed up fixing disposal, etc. So many moments make up life. We all have much to be thankful for.
Take care, God bless, and thank you for enriching all of our lives with your blog ❤️
Dear Mel, Thanks for sharing about Holli. I’m so sorry for everyone’s grief about her death and appreciate your thoughts. Miss seeing your regular posts but will hang on as long as you need time. Much love.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Although I don’t know you personally.. I love your recipes and posts about food and life. I appreciate your perspective. It reminds me that My life isn’t so bad.
Bless you and yours Mel and Holli’s family! Fridays can be so devastating and beyond belief, but Sunday will come! Love those quotes! Prayers for you and all as you process your grief which is real and should be respected and processed. You need that. Thanks for blessing all of our lives!
I am so so sorry for your loss! And I’m so sorry for her 6 children and husband she leaves behind. It breaks my heart. What an amazing friend to include her family in fun daily activities even when your heart is shattered.
Love and continued prayers for Holli’s family and friends. She touched so many hearts even those of us who didn’t know her. Thank you for sharing your love and testimony through this time.
In the spirit of your last post about Holli and in remembrance of her, I will cherish the little details with my family this week and write one down every day. God bless, Mel.
Mel, I’m so sorry for your loss. Grief is heavy, isolating, and encompassing at times. I’m hoping you make progress as you wade through all of the emotions that accompany losing someone (especially in the ravaging battle of cancer). I lost my mom to cancer in late 2019 (she was in her early 60s) and have been healing the past ~18 months or so and frankly, I’m still am working on healing. I’ve come to find that grief is something I’ll forever carry, but it does change over time. A quote I came across this year that has helped me think about grief:
“The work of the mature person is to carry grief in one hand and gratitude in the other and to be stretched large by them. How much sorrow can I hold? That’s how much gratitude I can give. If I carry only grief, I’ll bend towards cynicism and despair. If I have only gratitude, I’ll become saccharine and won’t develop much compassion for other people’s suffering. Grief keeps the heart fluid and soft, which makes compassion possible.” – Francis Weller
I hope you find the peace and healing you are in need of; may God be with you during this harrowing and heavy time. I’ll be praying for you, your family, and Holli’s family.
Life is Good 🙂
I wanted to give you a great big hug when you wrote about not sure how you should grieve because you are not a family member but “just a friend”. I lost my best friend in college suddenly and it was the hardest thing I have ever dealt with. We had become SO close over our last semester of school together and then she wasn’t there to start the next semester and I couldn’t move on while the rest of our friend group did. We each handle grief differently and that is ok. It took me a long time to realize that. You take your time. We will be here waiting for recipes when you are ready. Just because you weren’t related doesn’t mean your heart isn’t hurting and your world is different and sad without her there. But just like you, my faith got me through in the end as I know it is doing the same for you.
It was so nice to meet you at the funeral. Your talk was amazing and what a blessing yours and Holli’s friendship was. I loved what you said about grief, because I have had the same internal struggle over my grief of Holli’s death, since I wasn’t able to stay in good contact with her after moving to Utah, but I feel less guilty after reading this post. That doesn’t undervalue my own grief or the bond I once had with Holli. I love Elder Wirthlin’s talk about Sunday will come and have thought about that often since he gave it, and another moment of God being in the details when you shared it. I can already tell you are an amazing women only having met you for a brief time!
Love and hugs to you Mel. Your little food blog is a shining little corner of the internet. Thank you for your beautiful voice and for sharing Holli with us. Your tribute to her makes me want to be a better person. God bless you and your family.
Jesus. Jesus in everything. Blessings and strength to you and all those who are grieving. ❤️
Mel, so sorry for the loss of your dear friend. She is at home now with her Lord and Savior Jesus Christ! Those warm feelings that well up inside you as you go through you day are messages from her telling you she is home at last and no longer in pain and suffering. God bless you for sharing and taking such good care of your friend and her family.
Thank you for being such a fun and positive space and light in this too dark sometimes world. I got an update from the Go Fund Me today and came on here to tell you how sorry I am about your friend. I have lost friends much too soon with children and it is such a heavy load to bear. I’m sorry for your loss and her family’s. You all will be in my prayers ❤️
Your recipes are so good because there’s so much love baked into each one. And this post showed me what your love looks like when it’s baked into the humans around you. I’m sorry for the loss of your dear friend, I’m grateful you would share your grief with your virtual friends, and I wish you peace as often as you need it to manage the grief that you can’t control.
Beautifully and perfectly said.
Thanks for posting! I was worried about you and almost reached out to Brian but thought better of it and remembered your previous post about Holli and put two and two together. I’m so sorry for your loss. Your post brought back a flood of memories of my own and a whole bunch of tears. “Fridays” are harder than hard, even with the hope that Sunday will come. I have been thinking of and praying for you and I will continue. Thanks for your faithful example.
xoxo
mel Ball
Oh Mel, I am so sorry for the loss of your dear friend. I’m grateful for your testimony and that you are doing ok despite all you are going through. My heart has been aching for you these last few weeks and I’ve gotten on every day hoping to hear how you we’re doing. So many prayers for you and Holli’s family have been said and will continue to be said. We love your recipes, but we love you even more! <3
“Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.
2 Corinthians 4:16-18
My heart has ached for you. I am so sorry for this profound loss. She sounds incredible and I am sure she would say the same of you. How blessed to have such a beautiful friend. Be gentle with yourself and continue to take it easy. We are always here! Sending you much love, comfort and peace. xoxo
Hello, dear Mel! I am so sorry for your loss, and proud of you because you are taking the time you need to grieve and take care of other things that need tending right now! I am a Chaplain who leads Grief Support Groups and have found the following resource very helpful.
https://www.centerforloss.com/about-the-center-for-loss/about-dr-alan-wolfelt/
Dr. Alan Wolfelt has such a tender-hearted approach that is based on self-compassion. And he believes the path toward healing is allowing yourself to feel all those challenging feelings associated with grief. I highly recommend this book as well:
https://www.centerforloss.com/bookstore/understanding-your-grief/
(I have no connection with Dr. Wolfelt and receive no benefits from recommending these things. Just very helpful resources!)
You as well as Holli’s family are being held in the light of God’s love through the prayers of so many! Love and hugs.
I am bawling my eyes out. My heart aches for you, your sweet friend and her family. I am just so sorry for your loss. What a wonderful friend and example you are of Christ like love!
I’ve read more of your blog posts than any other blogger out there. Your friend Holli sounded like a friend we all have, and someone to truly cherish. I’m so sorry for your loss and her family’s loss. Death is a very difficult thing, but it is also beautiful. The pain is so hard and the hurt is almost unbearable. But Holli was right, God is always in the details. I am sure and I pray that you and your loved ones who have felt this loss are closer than ever and are closer to God than ever. Much love Mel. Your blog will always and forever be my favorite.
My friend died from cancer as well a few weeks ago. I’m so sorry for the pain you are feeling right now. I think grief is a pain that is circular. Just like faith is something you have to have over and over again, grief and pain visit again and again and each time you deal with it, it changes you. And just like the Savior dealt with grief and pain and all the injustices of life, you get to taste a small portion of what makes us love Him and grateful for Him. Grief makes us more like our Savior in ways we can only learn that way. It also is an invitation to be healed by Him in ways we cannot heal ourselves. Prayers for your sweet friend’s family. She really isn’t that far away. I loved your quote you shared at the funeral.❤️
Wow I felt the Spirit so strong reading your post. What a blessing Holli continues to be in so many lives. Thank you for your testimony, it is powerful! I’m sending my love and prayers to you and her loved ones. I pray that God will bring all of you peace, comfort and strength. I know He cares and loves you individually.
Love,
Maren
How could we not be thinking, or worried, about you?? Yeah, you post some pretty fantastic recipes, but you’ve also cultivated a beautiful corner of the internet, and that’s a big part of why we keep coming back here.
I’m so sorry for the loss of your dear friend. Feel the pain and grief. If you love someone, it’s only right you feel those things when they are gone. And what an honor to have been friends with such a special person! Hang on to the memory of her. It will be so good.
Also, I can’t wait to see how things change and grow around here, as you change and grow! That’s such an important, great part of life. AND I’M NOT GOING ANYWHERE NO MATTER HOW THINGS CHANGE.
Dear Mel…
I don’t know you in person but I feel I know your heart. Thank you for speaking heart to heart and for touching my heart deeply. Sending much love and many prayers your way! ❤️❤️❤️
I’m so sorry to hear of the loss of your sweet friend Holli. She sounds like an absolutely amazing human and was able to spread joy and kindness to many. Hope you find peace, Mel, as you navigate through such a difficult time.
Such eloquent words Mel ……. and this is so much more than “just a food blog”. Hoping your memories of Holli will help your heart heal.
Such an uplifting post! Thank you for being human, thank you for being you. There is so much fake in the world – it is so refreshing to read about real people. So grateful you are willing to share a piece of you.
I have nothing profound to say. I just wanted to let you know that Holli, her family, you and your family will be in my prayers. ❤️
I am very sorry for your loss. When the blog was quiet, I wondered about Holli. The loss for her family is devastating. The picture of her little boy, so beautiful. So much loss this year it is difficult to comprehend. Prayers to everyone dealing with loss and working to move forward each day.
I’m sorry, Mel, that you have lost your beautiful friend. She is an amazing soul-I’m glad you were able to know her and share a piece of your lives together. My heart goes out to you as you grieve. Prayers for her family as well. I hope Christ’s peace will be with and sustain you all. Thinking of you!
No words… just sending all the love. ❤️❤️❤️ We miss your recipes, but take all the time you need to heal. ❤️
Just sitting here, crying my eyes out! Thank you for being so vulnerable, honest and open. Thank you for sharing your friendship with Holli , with a complete stranger who uses your blog daily for meal ideas. Thank you for sharing your beautiful thoughts. I have been touched and will appreciate the mundane, beautiful things of everyday life.
Love you, Mel. I’m so sorry for this pain and grief you are carrying. And for her family’s broken hearts. Thank goodness for the knowledge of
the Plan to help us get to our “Sundays”. Thinking of you!
Oh Mel! I wept as I read this. I am so sorry for the loss of that sweet wife, mother, and friend.. Remembering friends and family tops any ol’ recipe. I prayed for Holli when you first told us about her. I too loved her from your description of her. Thank you for sharing your beautiful talk. We are so blessed to have a Savior who loved Holli and will now send comfort to her family and her friends. Thank you for this beautiful post.
Amen! I am so sorry for your loss. Your food blog is way more than food. You strengthen me, you make me laugh. I refer to you as Mel, my friend. Thank you for your testimony. You will see Holli
Saying a prayer for Holli’s family and dear friends. Praise God for his love, mercy and redemption. Thank you for sharing this tender part of your life.
So very sorry to hear about your incredible friend and the sorrow you are feeling now. It sounds like a sacred time you were able to spend together. I hope you feel peace in the coming days. ❤️
I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️ Grief and mourning are strange and nonsensical at times. I hope you’ll give yourself grace in all stages of it – just like Christ does. As someone who has lost loved ones to cancer as well, I’m grateful Holli had a friend like you and you had her as a friend.
So very sorry for your loss. I appreciate your thoughts on grief. They ring so true with me. Once you feel that kind of grief it changes you. I’m grateful for the gospel and how it’s helped change me for the better.
Came here to figure out what to make for dinner and ended up reading about your friend instead. I’m so sorry for your loss and for all of her friends and family. What a beautiful person. I’ll be praying for you all tonight now.
I’m sorry for your loss, Mel. What a hard thing for everyone to endure. My heart breaks for Holli’s family and friends. Thank you for sharing these tender thoughts. ❤️
May God bless and keep all who love Holli. What a heartbreaking yet lovely post. Thank you for sharing it.
I shall hold close in my heart Holli’s phrase “God is always in the details”. It is one of the most beautiful things I’ve ever read. God bless you Mel and healing, hope and blessings to you and Holli’s families and friends. I lost my brother a few months ago. I understand grief. I pray that your grief will be replaced with the warm and loving memories of Holli that bring you comfort and peace.
Wishing you time, space, and peace during your grieving process. Sending hugs
Mel, thank you so much for this post. In the short time I knew her, Holli touched my heart. I still remember the day Holli called Tiffany to tell her of her diagnosis and how much she cried for her and with her on the phone. Holli was such a sweet soul and she will be greatly missed by everyone who knew her. Your remarks you made at her funeral made me get all choked up! I am so glad you are doing okay and you are also an amazing woman of God whom He and the Savior are very proud of. XOXO-Jenn
You and Holli have been on my heart these past few weeks. I’m sorry her famil,y and dear friends now have to experience her loss but can rejoice too now that she is with Jesus. Take your time Mel as grieving takes a while. We your readers and friends are patient and love you.
Mel, thank you so much for who you are. I came here to look for a dessert recipe and am leaving with tears and a renewed desire to get through hard days. A beautiful tribute to a dear friend. Thank you for being here for us as I hope we can be for you sometimes as well.
Thanks so much for sharing. I appreciate your clear and fixed priorities on God and family. So well written.
I am so, SO sorry for your and that sweet family’s loss. So utterly heartbreaking and unfair. Each time I went to your site over these past few weeks to get a recipe, I noticed that you hadn’t posted anything new, and I knew that you must be focusing on your fleeting time with your friend. You are most certainly allowed to mourn and grieve even though you aren’t “technically” family. I am glad her family has wonderful people like you in their lives to help pick up the pieces. Sending so much love to her family and to you! <3
A beautiful tribute from one beautiful friend to another. Thank you for sharing. ❤️
Mel, You are such an amazing person!! Thank you for showing Holli and her family what a true friend is, especially when it is HARD!! Be patient with yourself. Grief comes and goes. There is no hurry. I will continue to pray for all of you!
I was very happy and grateful to see you post! I’ve been worried that maybe you decided it was all just too much; then reading the journey you’ve been on supporting Holli’s family, taking care of your own family and living life including renegade pigs and a handsome son going to prom; everything made sense. I may not know much but I do know this; grieving is hard work and there are no shortcuts. Give yourself time and permission to do whatever it is you need to do. There will be hills and valleys but with patience and prayer and kindness toward your heart you will heal. Hang in there! One day you will find yourself laughing and smiling for real.
Mel, it is OUR honor to share this space with YOU! I am so sorry for your pain and am amazed by the loving friend and human that you are. Even though we know so much about death and resurrection and Jesus Christ and his love and power and promises, it is ok and even good that we still feel so very sad when someone we adore moves to their next stage of life without us. It is so hard and beautiful at the same time. Thank you for sharing your grief with us just a little, and for taking time to take care of yourself and those you love. We can wait patiently. I always love your blog posts, no matter how close or far between they are, and if they have something to do with food or not! Take care friend, and thank you for revolutionizing dinner and food at our house. <3
Delicious – will make again!
I love your kind, sweet heart so very much! Every time I read one of your heart felt blog posts that love for you grows! You are such an amazing woman Mel. Such an example of the believers, of Jesus Christ. You share your talents, not only your amazing recipes but your words of wisdom, faith, and humor 🙂 Thank you for opening up your heart, and for sharing your thoughts here. Missions come in many different forms – you serve a mission every day in the work that you do – and you probably don’t recognize it – but it’s true! Hugs and prayers. What a blessing the gospel of Jesus Christ is. What a comfort it is to know that Friday’s are not the end, but that our Sunday will come as well! Love you!
Mel,
I am so sorry for your loss. I have missed you so much the last few weeks. I was worried and kept checking the blog to no avail. I knew you were taking care of whatever needed it the most and I hoped you would be back. God is in the details. I pray for all your continued healing.
Ann Federwisch
Mel’s is not “just” a food blog! It’s a life blog that shares your heart and love for Jesus Christ.
Peace be with you and Holli’s family.
❤️ I am in tears reading about your sweet friend and all those who love her and are left behind waiting for the day they can see her again. Thank you for sharing your pain with us.
Mel, I am so profoundly sorry for the loss of your dear, inspiring friend, Holli. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers and continue to remember her legacy during those times when I feel less than. I wish you strength and the ability to give yourself grace during this very difficult time. Thank you for taking time to update us. Wishing you all strength and love.
I’m so sorry mel… I can’t imagine how difficult this has been for you as her dear friend and for her sweet family. Thank you for your thoughts and for sharing holli’s goodness with us, it inspires me to be better. Sending lots of love and prayers
Never just a food blogger…As you can see by the many comments people were not worried about the recipes, they were concerned about Mel. A woman that most of us have never met or will never meet in person, but a woman that we feel we know. I come to your blog daily not only to feed my family great food from your recipes, but to connect with an incredible human being! A human being that allows all of us to see real life, someone that is not afraid to let people see the good, the bad and everything in between.
Thank you for always being real Mel! You take your time healing! Always remember that your friend was incredibly blessed to have you by her side as we all are daily to be a part of your world! Praying that you continually see and feel love!
Dearest Mel: Thank you for sharing your grief with us and for honoring Holli with us. We all mourn her loss for you and for her family. Please know that this isn’t just a food blog. None of us would have subscribed if it were just another food blog. This is a place where food is love and when I have the itch to make ….. well,….. anything, I look at your blog first to see if you have a favorite recipe for that thing because you have literally never let me down. My “favorite” recipe for whatever is usually yours.
We miss you but we want you to have the time to recover from this awful loss and when you feel ready, we will be here ready to cook you out of that corner. Being a good cook is about measure and method, but more so it is about heart and soul. You have that in spades and it is what makes you successful.
My sister died young from cancer. You know what she told me before she died? She said “Don’t waste a day”.
You will get there. And we will be with you.
I love your thoughts here, Colleen. Thank you for sharing your sister’s sweet words. They brought me to thinking and tears. <3
Sending so much love to Holli’s family and you, her family, too. I lost my mother when I was 10, and it was so wonderful to have friends and extended family include us in traditions (like egg dyeing) when the grief was too much for dad. Thank you for being your generous self, and may Holli be in peace.
Mel, this is a wonderful tribute. I pray it was a small measure of healing for you, as it is a huge blessing to your readers. Continued prayers for you, your family, Holli’s family and everyone she touched in her earthly life. God is always in the details-Love that!
Gosh I’m so so sorry for the loss of your sweet friend. Thank you for updating and for loving her family so well. Praying for all of you as you continue on in faith. I love how you have honored Jesus with your words and actions in her family’s life.
I am so sorry for the deep loss of your beautiful friend, Holli. She has touched many lives and will live on in the hearts of those who loved her dearly and those she never met because of you, her amazing friend, sharing memories of her life. Hugs to you.
Thank you for this post, just last Saturday I found out one of my best friends sister was diagnosed with breast cancer. My friend’s mom and oldest sister died from cancer before they were 45, same as a lot of her extended family. Yesterday I just found out that another really good friend’s mom was just diagnosed with breast cancer. Both of them have to have immediate surgery, both don’t know what stage yet. I was in the store when I got the message yesterday about the second one. I hurried and left to go home. As soon as I got home I started to bawl. Just intense pain and grief for both of my dear friends. I was promoted to check your blog. I couldn’t read it all then, but just knew then I needed to pray. I have been doing a lot of praying since then for my friends and their families. I just finished your post and thank you for your testimony about our Savior, Resurrection, and that Sunday will come.
I’ve thought about Holli multiple times since your last post about her. I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your faith.
Thinking of you. Thanks for sharing your beautiful heart with us.
Beautiful post Mel and beautiful talk at the funeral! As far as getting back into blogging and giving the people the dang recipes- yes! I love new recipes and get so excited when you post them, but that’s not really the reason I keep coming back here. And I’m pretty sure most people agree with me. It’s because of you. It’s because you are kind and hilarious and generous and make me want to be better. And it’s not just words. I see you being that way in real life. If I didn’t feel like such a stalker I would invite you to do things with me more often just so I could learn from you! Thanks for being you and sharing it with the rest of us! XO Jackie
I’m so happy you’re back!!!!! Sorry it’s been rough lately though. Love & hugs!
I’ve thought of Holly and her family almost daily since you first posted about her. I will continue to pray for you all as you navigate your profound sadness from her loss. What a beautiful soul she was and what a beautiful friend you were to her and are to her family.
I am so sorry for your loss. Holli was obviously an amazing person and I can only imagine how hard it must be to lose someone like that. My heart has been heavy for you and her family knowing you are going through this. So many hugs and prayers for you all.
Oh, Mel. My cheeks are wet with tears. I’ve worried about you, prayed for you, and checked every day to see if you would pop up somewhere. I am so deeply sorry for your loss! Thank you for sharing your heart and words us – words, which by the way I have loved but forgotten and are the exact words that I think I need to share with a friend today who is also mourning a devastating loss. Your blog is so much more than a food blog to me. I learn from you in so many ways. Take all the time you need. I’ll be here whenever you make it back, and in the meantime we’re enjoying some of our Mel favorites and catching up on some of yours that I’ve been eager to try and missed along the way. Sending so much love your way!
My heart breaks for you and Holli’s family. I’ve missed you. More so, I’ve been worried about you. I hope you can navigate this new normal. I can imagine what a rock you have been to Holli’s family. Your families will be in my prayers. I’ll still be here when you get back into the swing of recipes again. >hugs<
(Just made your frosted brownies tonight. They were delicious.)
I love your blog. I love your recipes and I love your testimony. I’m so sorry for your loss. Loss seems big lately. I was just thinking the other day – where is Mel? Thanks for sharing your loss and your learning. I appreciate you. You’re an amazing young Mom and fantastic cook! Sending lots of love.
Kathy Christensen
You have been missed! I’m sorry that you are experiencing such a great loss. It sounds like Holli was a wonderful person. It’s completely understandable that you need a break. When my premature baby died and then later my dad died suddenly in a car accident I remember thinking, “the world just needs to stop for a minute, a life was lost and I’m heartbroken.” Grief is so tough. You will learn how to manage it and move on, but you’ll never forget. It definitely changes us. It has taught me to have more empathy for others and focus on what’s really important in life. Hang in there 🙂
My heart goes out to you and Holli’s family. Your post brought tears to my eyes and feelings I haven’t felt in a while. I lost my dad to terminal cancer when I was 13. It was a life-altering experience and we saw God’s hand through it all, many times through the hands of angels. People like you.
There is life after grief like that. It changes your heart like nothing else can. I came to know God in away that has stayed with me my entire life. The heartache I experienced was painfully hard for years, very few around me truly knew. But I know He carried me. I know He will carry you and that sweet family. My heart truly goes out to you all. You will always be one of my favs on the internet. Take care of you and your family. What a beautiful example of Christ-like service you’ve been able to give them. That will stay with them too. ♥️♥️♥️
I’ve never met you but send you all the love I have. Take care of you, your family and your friend. ❤️❤️❤️
This was a beautiful post
I’m so sorry your loss. Thank you for sharing your raw emotions and the beautiful words from the funeral. Although I’ve missed your posts, I totally understand. Take as much time as you need to grieve and heal. Sending love and prayers.
Thank you so very much for sharing your beautifully tender and loving thoughts. May you be blessed in your heart and soul and know that our Heavenly Father and His Son, Jesus Christ, are ever present to buoy us up through all of our life journeys.
I am sending love and prayers your way. Thank you for all that you do. You and Holli both make me want to be better. Thank you for the delicious recipes and for the inspiration and hope.
Although we’ve never met, you wouldn’t believe how many times over the last month I’ve checked your blog, not seen a new post, and mentioned to somebody (husband, sister, my other personalities) “I wonder where Mel is and I hope she’s ok, I hope her friend is ok. I hope they’ll all be ok”. I felt nosy wondering what might be wrong, but please just know that I’m so sorry for your loss. For her family’s loss. I’m so sorry about the grief and sadness. How lucky that family is to have the help of an amazing friend to navigate the nightmare. Please don’t feel pressure to rush back until you are ready. I’m guessing people have been wondering, but more out of concern and care than absolutely needing a new recipe. Thanks for sharing your story
I’m so sorry to hear of the passing of your dear friend. I’m praying for you, your family and Holly’s family.
As a fellow Canadian, I’m so glad you were able to introduce Nanaimo bars to her family. Somehow, baking helps.
You are a blessing in the lives of so many, Mel! It is never easy to lose a friend. Please know how much we all love and care about you! Much love and prayers headed your way. ❤️❤️
Oh Mel, thank you for the update and for your sweet testimony. I am so very sorry for the loss of your dear friend. That Joseph B. Wirthlin quote has always been a favorite of mine, I revisit it every Easter and whenever I find someone in the midst of their own Friday. Your son is so handsome, hope he has a wonderful prom. And I hope that the pieces of life come together for both your family and Holli’s. You are a good friend and your website and social media is a good, happy place for me to fall. I felt the Spirit reading today, thank you.
What a beautiful tribute to you, Holli, your families and the power of friendship and relationship. I’m so sorry. Praying for all.
So much love to you, Mel! Thank you for sharing a piece of your heart. Take as long as you need to grieve…you truly did lose a sister. It sounds like you and Holli were meant to cross paths and learn from and be strengthened by one another. Thank you for allowing us to see part of the journey and to be touched by it. My heart goes out to you!
Sending love and prayers, along with big hugs to all of you. This post was beautifully and poignantly written. Holli was so blessed to have you in her life. Lord carry Holli’s family and friends as they step from Friday to Sunday.
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Sorry for your loss.
This was beautiful Mel, thanks for sharing. Holli was one of a kind she will be missed by so many. So grateful she had so many kind and loving friends and family with her at the end of her life. ❤️
Thank you for the goodness you share! I appreciate your bitter truth followed by a beautiful hope. You definitely encourage me to seek for things of a better world.
Take the time you need grieve. I love you and your blog and I hope you keep blogging in the future but for now take the time to be in the space your need to be in. And thank you for the recipes. I just made the fallen chocolate cake for my own birthday cake.
I admire you more than you know. Thank you for being so honest with your feelings and your pain. You take all the time you need to heal and to be there for your family. That is what is most important.
This is a beautiful post, thank you so much for being willing to share something so personal. That talk from Elder Wirthlin is one of my favorites – I listen to it on Easter every year. Also, we say in our house that everyone gets to feel how they feel and of course you feel so much grief mourning your friend. Hoping all the kindness, love and light you share with others comes back to you during this difficult time.
We have missed you, Mel! I am so sorry for your loss and her family’s loss. Hugs & prayers to you as you mourn and grieve your dear friend. What a gift you were to Holli and are to us!
Mel, the tributes to you and Holli pull at my heart strings. What a wonderful friend you have been to Holli and her family during this difficult time. I can only imagine how the two of you touched each other’s life …..and in a good way. At this very moment I am praying for Holli’s family, and for you and yours. Thank you for being there when Holli and her precious family needed you. Thank you for being there for them now. You make the world a better place for being in it. You inspire many of us to do the same. You are loved!
Wow Mel. This post really touched my heart to the core. Thank you for sharing such deep and tender thoughts. Your grief is valid, and allow yourself time to sit with it and work through it. We will still be here anxiously awaiting your next recipe or post. You have been a blessing to our family, and your recipes have blessed our kitchen for many years! Thank you!
Mel, we grieve with you in the bond of sisterhood.
Take all the time you need to find that part of you that got put on hold while you served your friend so faithfully the past two years. I’m going to go bake something (from your amazing archives I use constantly) and just try to be present and still a little more today.
My heart is broken for you and her beautiful family. Likewise my dearest friend passed away almost 4 years ago from cancer and it’s all those little things we shared that keep her very much alive in my heart and mind. I feel your pain and loss.. {{ HUGS}} ♥ ♥ ♥
Hi Mel —
Not knowing about Holli, I had worried about the hateful comments from your Instagram feed. I am so sorry that you had to read and endure those, on top of your personal challenges. I’ve checked your site twice a day for the last month, and am delighted to see you posting again. And I want to tell you that my promise to Holli – to play more piano and volunteer at the local hospice – is happening. Your post and “challenge” there was inspired and inspiring. I’m very glad to see you back.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful words from the funeral for Holli, they are inspiring. May you find peace as you make the way forward in your grief. God Bless you and Holli’s family too.
Oh, this just breaks my heart. I’m so sorry for your loss, Mel and especially for Holli’s sweet husband and children. I’ll be praying for them.
Thanks so much for sharing the details of your life, even the hard ones. I so admire your willingness to share your testimony with the world, any chance you get. You inspire me.
Mel, I am sorry for your loss. God bless your family and Holli’s family. You all are in my thoughts and prayers.
I’m so very sorry for your loss, Mel. I actually mentioned to my son just a couple of days ago, “I hope Mel’s okay. She hasn’t posted a new recipe in a while.” (He’s the one who says you’re a “good cooker” and that we should make all of your recipes.) I’m glad you are okay and I pray that you (and all those who love Holli) will be given the peace that passes understanding.
I am so so sorry, Mel. I had wondered if that was the case when I hadn’t seen any new posts from you, and I was deeply touched by Holli’s story. It brings tears to my eyes and I don’t even know her (or you, for that matter). Thank you for sharing your faith and testimony, and I pray that all involved will be comforted. Indeed, Sunday will come, although maybe not as quickly as we’d like. Hugs!
My heart hurts for you, Mel. It is very difficult to lose a sister and/or a dear friend. I appreciate your willingness to share your pain and your thoughts with your readers. I hope you can feel peace and remember the joy.
Mel, my heart is aching as tears fill my eyes and spill down my cheeks knowing somewhat of the pain you are experiencing. I am so very sorry for the loss of your dear friend. Be gentle with yourself and take the time you need. The peek into your life through your words and photos feels like a sacred space.
I know we’re only virtual friends, but I wish I was there to give you a huge hug and shoulder to cry on. You are loved!!
Such a beautiful post. Keeping you and Holli’s family in my thoughts and prayers. ❤️❤️
Thank you for having the courage to share something so difficult. Your posts always bless me as well as your amazing food! I have been following your blog for many years now. And as a fellow sister in Christ I will keep you in my prayers! I pray that you take this time to rest in Him. And know that he will never leave you nor forsake you. I pray that he gives you his peace that passes all understanding. Love and hugs from Buffalo, NY!
This was sweet, tender, and heartbreaking to read. I knew that she had passed and though I never met Holli, I have been praying for her family, and for you and your family. She sounds like a truly remarkable woman. I’m so sorry for your grief and heartache.
God bless you in your time of grief. I lost my mother January 2020 to brain cancer and while yes, it’s my MOM… so initially you’d think it were uniquely different to grieve the loss of a parent for which you were the primary caregiver, it really is a loss to anyone who knew her. I love and appreciate that everyone is walking this path with me… That — that very thing in and of itself helps. I think that’s a unique aspect I’ve discovered on this journey is that LOSS is one thing we all have in common. And if there’s no other reason to extend grace, it’s that you know you’ve got more in common with people than you think. I’ve always told my kiddos when teaching them driving lessons (I’m going through that now) that when people cut you off or are speeding or just seem grossly inconvenienced by our presence… you never know what they’re going through at that very moment so please extend them grace you might need in your worst moment, too.
I wanted to reach out to check on you but I feel so nosy doing so. LOL
Social media is consuming and is a huge energy suck… having a creative outlet, however, is therapeutic. Do what you need to for YOU! We will all be here if and when you’re ready! <3 Sending much love
Thank you for your beautiful thoughts! I have missed “connecting” with you the last few months, and it’s good to “hear” your voice again. My thoughts are with you and Holli’s family too. What a wonderful friendship you have with her. Thanks for sharing your real life with us.
Dear Mel. I cannot thank you enough for all that you have done to help me through my own grieving through the love of cooking! My mom, my inspiration for all things fun and delicious in the kitchen since I was a little girl, passed away on Thanksgiving Day after dementia and surviving two broken hips, two subsequent surgeries and challenging but successful rehabilitations only to be taken from us from the insidious Covid. Your words have comforted me and I only wish I could offer to you even a small part of the gift that you are for Holli and all of us. My mom would tell us to “give flowers to the living, not to the dead” and you have done, and continue to do, just that! Hugs, hugs, hugs and thank you for being who you are! Corinne❤️
P.S. Please let me know if my comments are even getting through if you can.
I have been writing another longer response which for some reason is not getting posted. Please advise if you are able to. Thank you!
Dear Mel. I just want to say thank you for helping us all to see that we are all in this together! My mother passed away from Covid on Thanksgiving Day and as she was my inspiration in the kitchen since I was a very young girl I baked a pie in her honor that morning. You have suffered a great loss but you continue to honor your incredible capacity to love and give and your dear friend Holli was a brighter star because you were in her orbit. She felt you love each and every precious moment and your relationship reminds me of some of my mom’s sage and loving advice: give flowers to the living not to the dead. Thank you dear Mel for all of the flowers you share with all of us! Hugs, hugs, hugs! Corinne
I just wanted to send you a warm and virtual hug and thank you for sharing a very personal part of your world and journey. You were/are a most deserving friend of your dear Holli and you gave her the most precious of gifts while she was here. As my mom, who sadly passed away from Covid on Thanksgiving day would say, “Give flowers to the living, not to the dead.”. You have done just that, not just for Holli but for me as you offered me comfort in my own grieving over the enormous loss of my beloved mom. Your cheerful, warm and wonderful recipes are the greatest way for you to touch this world that far too often seems filled with angst and challenges. Thank you, Mel, for offering your love through the cathartic process of creating delicious food! Hugs, hugs, hugs! Corinne❤️
You have a gift for touching hearts, inspiring faith, and sharing hope. Thank you for your heart felt post. Thank you for your and Holli’s example of faith and courage in the face of crippling burdens. My husband and I read through tears. You and Holli make the world a better place and we are so thankful for it! Prayers for Holli’s dear family and for you and all who are mourning her beautiful life. I will think of her when I hear, God is in the details – and he certainly is! <3
When I was a kid my cousin died in childbirth. We were all devastated, she was really something :), anyway, at her funeral someone shared a quote, “to take the sorrow out of death we would have to take the love out of life.” Every time I have lost anyone (person or pet) I have thought of this and it has made me so glad that I had the chance at the love. I am glad you had the love, even though now it is causing the pain. You will have your “Sunday” and you’ll be stronger because you had the love. I wish you peace and comfort.
I say, as a long time reader, take all the time you need. I’ve discovered a bunch of “new to me” stuff on your blog to keep me going.
I’m so grateful Holli and her family have you and no doubt so many others supporting them. I’m so sorry for your loss.
You have a gift of touching hearts, inspiring faith, and sharing hope. Thank you for your heartfelt post. Thank you to you and Holli for your examples of faith and courage in the face of crippling burdens. My husband and I read through tears. You and Holli make the world a better place and we are so thankful for it. Prayers for Holli’s dear family and for you and all who are mourning her beautiful life. ♥️ I will think of her when I hear God is in the details – and he certainly is! ♥️
Mel, I’m so sorry for your loss, and I appreciate your willingness to share your life and feelings with us through the ups and downs. I was just thinking about you yesterday and wondering when we’d see you back here, and though I’d be sad if you ever decided to step away, you don’t owe us anything. Even for those of us lucky ones that haven’t lost anyone personally, this past year has made us all reevaluate priorities in a way that I think will have a lasting impact. So I wouldn’t have blamed you if you didn’t want to bother with the extremes of the internet anymore…but selfishly I’m so happy to see a new post again and therefore doing my best to tip the internet scales toward love. Sending healing thoughts from CT to you, your family and Holli’s family.
My heart goes out to you Mel. It’s okay that you’re not okay right now. Slow down and give yourself time to mourn. For me the thinking tasks are the hardest during challenging times. So don’t worry if you can’t hurry back into blogging right now. Be okay with just keeping it together. Love ya. ❤️
Deepest sympathies on the loss of your dear friend. I figured that was what happened when there weren’t any new posts from you. Holli sounds like an extraordinary woman in so many ways and you were blessed to know her. One of the most beautiful sayings I ever read is from Amanda Bradley:
Love Lives On
(Amanda Bradley)
Those we love
are never really lost to us–
we feel them
in so many special ways-
through friends
they always cared about
and dreams they left behind,
in beauty that they added to our days . . .
in words of wisdom we still carry with us
and memories that never will be gone . . .
Those we love are never really lost to us–
For everywhere their special love lives on.
Take care of yourself. Better days are ahead of you.
I just read that talk a couple weeks ago!! It’s SO good. I also love the part where it says “The resurrection transformed the lives of those who witnessed it. Should it not transform ours?” I think that could also apply to Holli and her life, she sounds like a pretty amazing person.
I’m so sorry for your loss of Holli.. I too have been wondering if you were ok and was worried something more had happened to her. Take all the time you need! We all love you, but we will be ok– no matter how much time you need! We get it. Sending love and virtual hugs your way <3
We’ve missed you, but we knew you were up to something important. I’m so sorry your friend is gone and that your days are emptier without her. I believe, in hope, with you, for all the Good that will come. In the meantime, your people are sort-of our people, and while you’ve been careful in the past, I hope you’ll allow us to help your friend’s family in any ways they might need, beyond the obvious: prayers for endurance, grace for each day, divine surprises that sustain them…
Much love to you, Mel.
A beautiful tribute to your friend. Praying for you and her family.
Mel! You are simply the best. What a wonderful friend you are, in every aspect of how you supported and loved Holli and her family! I am praying for you, and Holli’s sweet family, that you will have the strength to carry on and do exactly as you know she would be telling you to do. You are simply a wonderful human!! I am so grateful that I have the chance to know you and rub shoulders with you every once in a while. Hang in there. And know that we are praying for you and thinking of you often.
Mel, I’m so deeply sorry for the loss of your friend. My heart aches for all of the people who loved her. But I also want to thank you. Your post brought me to sobs, in a good, cleansing sort of way. My religious upbringing was traumatic and I left the church of my childhood long ago. As a result, faith has never been a source of peace or consolation for me. For decades I’ve carried a tremendous amount of anger over the damage that was done. But in recent years, I’ve been able to let go of some of that anger. Your occasional posts on faith, and your generosity, kindness, and warmth, are among the reasons for this. Your gentle spirit shines through your writing and softens my heart. It’s a reminder that my future faith experiences need not resemble the past, and that there is much good still to be found. I don’t know where my journey will lead me, but sometimes it feels like doors that have been bolted shut for a long time have opened at least a crack. Anger is a terrible burden. I thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for helping to ease it.
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your dear sweet friend. I did notice your absence over the past few weeks and have been thinking of you lots and wishing and hoping and praying that it didn’t mean what I thought it meant. Alas… Please take your time getting back into real life, whatever that is. Sending love.
Mel, you have been missed and not just your delicious recipes I’ve been using regularly over these last 10 years. You’ve become a friend in my eyes with your vulnerability and witty words. I’ve appreciated it so much especially after moving to a new area and the isolation COViD created. I’m sending you my love and sympathy during this difficult time. Take the time and space you need as you grieve your dear friend.
I am so sorry for your loss and grief. I am currently battling terminal cancer and so I can confidently say, “Cancer sucks.” Your loving service for your friend will never be forgotten. Thank you from another mom fighting cancer for dying eggs with her son and making treats for her nieces. These are the exact things I would want done for my son and family members when my time on earth is over. This post made me cry this morning. Thank you for sharing your faith and talents!
I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve missed you–thank you for these uplifting words, and I hope they bring solace to you, too.
Among the terrible things about losing someone we love is noticing that the rest of the world just goes on doing its thing as if nothing had happened. Why is the sun still shining? Why are people just driving down the road and going wherever they’re going? Why is everyone acting as if nothing has changed? Don’t they recognize the emptiness that has happened because someone we love is no longer with us?
It’s so hard to keep going as if nothing has happened. But something has, and nothing will ever be the same.
Please know, Mel, that while we don’t know the pain you and Holli’s loved ones are feeling because we are just ordinary finite beings, there is Someone Who really does know and Who loves Holli and loves you all and will succor you as you struggle to find and put together the pieces left in your lives.
As you and Elder Wirthlin said, “Sunday will come.” Oh, blessed day!
Oh Mel- so very sorry. Grief is a strange thing- I like the analogy of the beach- some times grief just laps your feet but other times it washes over all of you. For me I say to myself “ better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all”. May you feel God’s arms around you and your family. May her family feel that also. I too know that Sunday is and will come. So so grateful for that. It gets me through many days. Hugs and love to you.
❤️ Sending so much love to you. You are a light in this world.
I am so sorry Mel. Prayers for you , your family and Holli’s family. ❤️
Oh my heart aches for you…I can’t help but think of a quote (from WandaVision of all places) “What is grief, if not love persevering.” How true this is…grief and mourning is one of the deepest expressions of pure love and I can tell that you loved Holli dearly.
A book that I purchased after a loss of a loved one was “Tear Soup: A Recipe for Healing After Loss” By: Chuck DeKlyen and Pat Schwiebert. It was really helpful for me and my kids to read and re-read. Please know that you are loved and have prayers of comfort being sent on your behalf.
Mel…..so very sorry for your loss. It’s so strange how when you lose someone……your whole world seems to stop….but yet life goes on all around you. That’s Gods way of nudging us forward……kids going to prom, pigs on the loose, garbage disposals break etc. Take a deep breath……you’ll catch up…..it’s ok. Always enjoy hearing from you. Bless your heart. Lynn in Chandler, AZ
I’m so sorry for the loss of your friend. Though I came here for the food, I have stayed for you and for all that you share about your life and your family. I so appreciate your vulnerability and grace in sharing the ups and downs of life.
I love this post and all your beautiful thoughts on grief, life, and faith. I’m so very sorry for your loss ❤️ Thanks for sharing your beliefs, I feel the same and it strengthens me.
Feeling for you in your grief. My oldest friend lost her dad last week so I know where you’re coming from. The grief is complicated by the Covid restrictions since I haven’t seen my friend or her family in over a year. Even the funeral had to change due to Covid limitations in my country. I’ve had thoughts very much the same as you, I’m not family so maybe I shouldn’t be feeling this. Trying to remember that grief is allowed and to sit in the Holy Saturday feeling as long as I need. Hugs to you in your journey.
Wow, what beautiful words to hear this morning, thank you! I hope to be a friend like you, I see and can feel how much thought and energy you put into your friend and especially now her family. You continue to be a great friend to her by continuing to love and serve her family. Don’t worry about us, we have lots of recipes from the archives, take care of yourself, your family, and your dear friends family.
Take all the time you need. You are one of the brightest and most genuine places on the internet. Praying for peace and sending love to you and your family.
I wrote a really long comment and then deleted it because nothing feels adequate to say here. I’m so sorry for your loss. Take your time to feel however you feel and piece back together when you’re ready. We will still be here! Lots of love ❤️
Hey Mel,
I love your message and I appreciate your courage and honesty in sharing the deepest, most tender thoughts and feelings. I know God is in our lives and I’ll share my little experience of that with you.
I have not been on social media for quite a few months now. It’s made me a lot happier. The other day I did go on to check something and came across your post about sharing kindness. After reading that I felt prompted to pray for you.
This morning my 4 year old asked to make the “super hero muffins.” I was surprised he remembered them because we haven’t made any in over a year. So, I looked at your site and then read this post.
Even in the smallest things, God will guide us if we let Him. Thank you for being genuine, kind, honest and using your talents and interests yo bless countless lives. Thank you for sharing Holli with us and letting her story have a platform that will reach so many people that it otherwise would not. Love to you and everyone who is mourning the loss of such an inspirational person.
Oh, Mel. Sending so many hugs and prayers to you and Holli’s family. Grief is such an odd, hard thing. What a beautiful message you shared and what a beautiful legacy Holli has given. I’m glad you’ve been able to focus on what’s most important. Thank you for not only sharing amazing recipes with us, but yourself. We’re all better because of it. Love you, Mel.
I am so sorry for your loss Mel. I think you put it perfectly, grief has no existence on a continuum. Holli was so blessed by your friendship and her family will no doubt continue to be.
Just take all the time you need and don’t feel like anything your feeling is wrong! Someone was put it that grief is like the ocean tides. It never goes away, someday there are less tsunamis of grief, and more lower tides of calm, but there is never a permanent phase and they never go away.
I am sending all the virtual hugs your way, I wish I could do more! Have loved your content for over ten years now and am so impressed and inspired by you. Thank you for the update, you and her family are in my prayers ❤️
I’m so sorry for everyone’s loss. Please take the time to grieve – and don’t feel guilty about the laughter that will come your way unexpectedly.
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So sorry for your loss. It is a very sad situation on many levels but especially because 6 children and a husband are left without their mom and his wife. Thankfully they have a beautiful person like you that will help them and her husband through this. I am sure Holli was comforted knowing you will be in their lives. God bless and powerful prayers still need to be spoken for everyone left behind. She is whole again. You will be in my prayers and thoughts.
I’m so very sorry for your loss. Holli was such a beautiful soul and touched me greatly – a Catholic mama living some 2,000 miles away. Praying for you all. Thank you, Mel, for sharing your beautiful friend’s story and witness. Big hug, love, and prayers!
I’m so sorry you lost such a special person in your life. Thank you for sharing. I always feel uplifted reading your posts. Take care of yourself and your family. Xo
So sorry about your loss. My best friend passed away 10 years ago, leaving behind 4 small children and it was devastating for me. I learned there’s no timeline on grief, and it definitely feels like the world is going on the same while your world is so changed. Be good to yourself and take this time ❤️
Oh Mel. My heart just goes out to you and Hollis family. I have missed you. My friends and I were just taking about how much we missed you just yesterday. I went through a time when a dear friend passed away too young leaving a young family. There are so many whys and grief is powerful. Unfortunately that is the price we pay for love. It is crazy that time marches on. Prom, pigs and traditions. Even if you have to somehow make it through each day, you’ll make it. Love you friend.
Oh Mel. My heart just goes out to you and Hollis family. I have missed you. My friends and I were just taking about how much we missed you just yesterday. I went through a time when a dear friend passed away too young leaving a young family. There are so many whys and grief is powerful. Unfortunately that is the price we pay for love. It is crazy that time marches on. Prom, pigs and traditions. Even if you have to somehow make it through each day, you’ll make it. Love you friend.
Thanks so much for sharing! You have been missed on here, I check your blog everyday, it not just for recipes though, I read every single post. I feel like I know you and your family and my heart aches for you! My heart aches for Holli’s family, I’ve had her in my thoughts since your first post about her. So glad to be apart of the same gospel as you and knowing where she is and that you will all be able to see her again. It still hurts terribly even knowing that, she was so young and so loved here on earth! Prayers will continue to go out to you and all her loved ones!
Hey Mel. I want to add my condolences and sympathy at the passing of your friend Holli. My heart breaks for her family and for you. She sure sounds like the kind of friend everyone hopes to have and her love and faith in Jesus is something I will always remember about her, even though I never met her. Thank you for sharing her with us. My prayers will be for peace and comfort for you all. Grief is hard, and confusing, and unpredictable. Thank you for having the strength to get back here and sharing your life and for keeping this community going. It really is something I look forward to! And I have to say great picture of your oldest son – handsome guy! They sure do grow fast. My one and only son is finishing his freshman year in college! Unreal! Anyway, take care and know you have my support and prayers. 🙂
I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing a little of Holli with us.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful self today. It is a truly sacred experience to grieve and to mourn with those who mourn. Loss changes our perspective on every part of life and gives us new eyes to see what is truly most precious. I want you to know what a bright light you have been to me and my family over the years. The days you post a new recipe I get a text from both of my daughters telling me we need to make it the next time we are together. Food is love and you have shared that with us and helped us love our families and friends with your amazing talents. Thank you for being so authentic and sharing yourself and your testimony of Jesus Christ. He is the healer of all broken hearts. Chocolate chips help too. Love you Mel.
Deepest condolences to you, your family and Holli’s loved ones. A lovely tribute to a dearly loved friend and a gentle reminder to us all to embrace the pauses in life (sometimes they are forced upon us and other times we feel the gentle nudges to step back and breathe). Continue to give yourself and those you love the space and grace mourning needs … it’s our soul’s way of tenderly caring for us
Thanks for sharing. I’m so sorry for your loss.
I love this saying, “It’s better to have loved and lost, then to have never loved at all.” I’m sure she feels the same way about you.
Keep on doing. Keep on loving. There are more people who will be blessed by knowing you.
I’ve silently followed for years and it’s not just for your wonderful recipes.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. Your Friday thoughts posts are some of my favorites, even when they’re on hard or sad topics. I have learned that grief really is a reflection of the love that we have for others. That love is still there, but when we lose them, the love takes on a different form. Like love, we experience it in our own way and on our own schedule. And when (if?) that schedule eventually brings you back here to this space, we’ll be here. In the meantime, we will mourn with you and support and love you from afar.
(Also, if you’re interested, check out “A Grief Observed” by C.S. Lewis. it is a beautiful look at his experience with grief after the passing of his wife Joy and brought a great deal of comfort and understanding to me after the loss of a loved one.)
Thank you for your beautiful testimony! Lots of love sent your way and to Holli’s family at this time! ❤️❤️❤️
Mel, I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m indebted to you over and over for helping me feed my family; I pray that God will give you spiritual comfort food for your grief right now.
While I didn’t reach out — you’re a busy lady — I do check your website every day and have wondered if everything is OK where you are. Clearly not, and now we know why.
Loss is part of the game, but man, it hurts. And family is those who are blood relatives and those who are soul relatives (I just made that up). You and Holli had a soul connection and that makes her part of your family.
Remember that she’s not really gone as long as you tell the stories. Tell us the stories please.
Virtual hugs all around.
Thank you so much, Mel, for sharing your story and Holli’s with us, your loyal readers. I’ve prayed for her and feel her loss. Thanks also for your words on grieving. Four years ago, my best friend lost her husband to cancer, leaving behind 5 children ages 4 to 15. Sometimes I’ve felt, like you, that I shouldn’t grieve as much as I have. Thanks for giving me permission. ❤️ Love you, Mel! You’re such a part of my life and kitchen We may not meet in this life but when we do, I think we’ll be good friends!
Sending you love and peace. Give yourself time to heal. What a beautiful friendship you had. This great community could probably raise some funds for Holli’s family if needed. While I am waiting for your next recipe… I will make some sour cream banana bread.
You’re amazing, Holli is amazing! I love you both. Thanks for being you and taking care of her and her sweet family, more than the rest of us. I loved your talk at the funeral and I think we need that Nainamo recipe!!
All the virtual hugs!!!!!!!!!!
Mel, I’m was so sorry and sad to hear about your dear friend. Thank you for sharing her inspiring self with us- (it gave me courage when I needed it- God IS in the details) you got this, one day, one minute at a time, but you got this- sending prayers your (and Holli’s families) way .
So very sorry for you and everyone that loved her. Sounds like you were and are an amazing friend to her and her family.
Thank You for your beautiful message. It has brightened my day and my faith. Certainly God’s plans for Holli’s loved ones will be revealed, and they will carry on her mission. You have helped so many during this difficult period, it is now time to follow your heart. I am nourished by your brave outlook and delicious recipes.
I do not have words, so I will just sit, cry and pray with you virtually. Holli was a gift, thank you for sharing her with us (me) and sharing your heart, not just today, but through the years. Just like Holli, we are forever changed by your dedication to the Lord and how you share his love. How can I help?
I was so worried about you! The scriptures tell us to mourn with those that mourn. As a child I never could understand why I needed to be so sad if someone else was feeling sad. Why should two people feel the pain? But then as an adult I’ve learned how important it really is to go through that pain with someone. To truly mourn with someone means that you are feeling some of that pain, heartache and grief alongside them, just as our Savior has done and continues to do. As we walk that road with them, our hearts are expanded and we become more like our Savior. And that is a beautiful thing, a beautiful detail. Thank you for helping each of us reach a little bit deeper into our hearts.
Mel, I am so sorry for the loss of Holli. I am glad she is no longer in pain, but ache for her sweet family and friends like you. Take the time you need to grieve. Thank you for spending time with her family during this incredibly difficult time.
Oh Mel, I am so sorry for your loss! Prayers for comfort for your family and Holli’s family!! Your Sunday will come!❤️
Oh Mel, I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your heart.
After reading the update on the post about Holli a few days ago, I included you and her family in my prayers. May you all continually be strengthened during this difficult time. Thank you for your beautiful testimony and words. Jesus Christ brings so much hope to our lives and you testifies of that so beautifully. May you continually feel buoyed up by him at this difficult time. You truly are amazing Mel and beautiful, inside and out.
What a beautiful post. I am so sorry for your loss. Holli inspired me to tackle a chore I had been putting off for over a year, and there is a weight off my shoulders since I completed it. Thank you for sharing her inspiration. My thoughts are with you and I hope for your healing. Your service to her cannot me measured, but I believe she can and will be there in spirit, to return the favor.
I’m so sorry to hear about the passing of Holli. I consider you Mel as one of my friends, and yet we’ve never actually met. You’ve helped me so much in the kitchen through your recipes snd helped turn me into a “rockstar in the kitchen” . I began following your recipes as a young wife and mother years ago. And now I have 8 children and often double your recipes. You’ve helped me so much! . From reading your remarks the last few months I can tell you were an amazing friend to Holli. We miss you posting recipes, but please take all the time and break you need. Love you!!
Thanks for opening your heart to us. I shed a few tears reading your message.
We have missed you. But take the time you need to come back.
You and Holli were lucky to have shared such a close friendship. Hopefully many wonderful memories will help ease the pain.
Take care!
Oh Mel!!! I am so. so sorry!! She sounds like such a lovely person and those friendships are so special! It also sounds like you have had some really special times remembering her the last few weeks. I will be praying for you. Take your time easing back in. No one is going anywhere. We are all here for you! Also,,,I especially love the picture of the pg.
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Mel, I am so sorry. We long-time readers missed you (not because of new recipes – your back catalog is deep enough to keep us busy for years!) but because we knew what the absence signified for you and your family. It seems contemporary culture is often so inclined to rush the grieving process, but learning to live with grief, man, that is where the growth comes. Prioritize yourself, your faith, your family and those closest to you. The rest will come in time. Sending prayers for peace.
Hi friend, I’ve wanted to text you so many times when I found out about Holli. But I just couldn’t. I knew you already were in a puddle of grief (a helpful puddle but still) and I just understand that feeling. But know we’ve prayed continually for Holli’s family and that we will keep doing so. My family and I were all so sad to hear about it and I’m just grateful we got the chance to help a tiny bit. The funny thing is we used your recipes to help not knowing the impact you were already having. When my brother in law passed away from a stroke at 30, we were all crushed. It still does a number on us and always will but Sunday will come, you are right! And it will be the greatest Sunday we have ever known. That is the blessing that comes from grief. The reward is that you get the Sunday. But in the meantime, that Friday and Saturday can feel extremely long. So we’re here! We’re available to help anytime. Life has its way of getting back to “normal” and we’re here especially then. So, make the recipes and know that they do a lot more than just feed people. They create friendships, help through hard times and create memories! Holli was blessed to have a good a friend as you. Also, your son looked darling for prom. And wahooz is my least favorite place lol and I agree with you on social media. Ok bye
Thank you Mel. You have a beautiful soul. You have lifted and inspired me with little comments over the past 12 years I’ve been following you. I know you have been blessed by Holli in your life, and she was blessed to have you.
Thank you for being so open with the world. In my struggles (a divorce that I never wanted or expected) your vulnerability feels like a tender mercy. Your testimony a boon to my sometimes weak heart.
I hope you recognize what a blessing you are to so many people in this world with your recipes, joy, and love.
Beautiful words. All the feelings.
Mel, I am so sorry to hear about Holli. This was a beautiful tribute to her. What can we do for her family? I wish you peace on the days when the sting of death is strong and please know you are loved in our home.
I am so sorry for your loss and for the grief and pain all of your dear friend’s family and loved ones are experiencing. Thank you, thank you, Mel, for shedding some insight into the terrible beauty and perspective that can emerge when we are made raw. I know it’s cliche to say so, but your words and experience were an absolute inspiration and answer to my specific prayers as I navigate some difficult times. May God’s peace and strength buoy you up.
Mel, praying for you and your family and Holli’s family during this difficult time. It sounds like Holli was an amazing person, and you are an amazing friend. So thankful for your testimony, and that Holli is pain free and rejoicing with her Father in Heaven. Thank you for everything you do for all of us!
Maybe Those adorable pigs knew you needed a funny moment. That picture made me giggle. Your words made me cry. It is beautiful that you and Holli had such a connection and now you are sharing your love and skills with her family. What a blessing you are.
A very gentle welcome back to the corner of the world that absolutely loves you and the inspiration you share with all of us, both in the kitchen and in life. I’m so sorry for the loss of your ‘sister’ and know that Sunday will indeed come! (One of my favorite quotes too).
My heart hurts so deeply for you, Mel, & for all who were touched by Holli. Thank you so very much for sharing her w your community & for your bravery in the worst of times. You inspire me to take a breather when pain hits, & put one foot in front of the other when facing adversity. May God continue to bless Holli’s husband & six beautiful children today, tomorrow & always~Team Holli – I may not have been on it during her earthly life but will remember her the rest of mine. Offering up peace & prayers for you, Mel, giving thanks for the gift of friendship you extend to All~
Mel! I just commented to my mom yesterday that you’d been quiet on your blog – and then I saw Holli looked and saw Holli had passed away and I figured you were busy with many things. I’m sure I’m one of many who has missed you here – and I considered this to be much more than “just a food blog!” I know you have made a difference in so many lives through your food, your stories and your sharing of your life (Reminds me of Paul’s words in I Thess 2:8 – we loved you so much that we not only shared the good news of Christ – but our lives as well). Praying for you, your family and Holli’s family! I look forward to hearing more stories and recipes from you – but in our culture we often don’t give enough space for people to mourn, grieve and rest. May you experience peace, comfort, and rest!
Mel- I have been reading your blog for what seems like forever and it always feels like a friend is writing to me when I see your name pop up. I just wanted to tell you that I am so sorry for your loss. May Holli’s memory be a blessing. Take care.
I am so very sorry to hear of this devastating loss. What a privilege to have such an inspiring friend, as close as a sister. I love the thoughts you’ve shared today and am grateful to hear you’ll still be engaging with the blog, but also encourage you to be gentle with yourself and your grief. Take all the time you need. <3 Love and prayers to you all
Dear Mel, so nice to hear from you again. I am so sorry for your loss. Loosing a friend is hard. After all friends are the persons we freely choose to be by our side (we cannot choose our blood relatives) and finding a good friend is a treasure. Thank you for this beautiful community you have created, where we cannot only learn to cook but gives us the chance to share so many other things. Oh, and that pig is too cute!
So inspired by you both! Your writing Mel is deeply touching and equally down right cheeky My Culinary Institute of America mug quips…
“FOOD is LIFE, Create and Savor Yours”.
You live that and feel blessed and buoyed by your
Recipes, words, faith and family. Thank You.
Dear Mel, I’m so sorry for the loss of your sweet friend. It’s been cold and rainy and depressing here in Michigan and yesterday I made your pot roast. It brought warmth and coziness to our family table. Even in your absence you are blessing families with your love. Grief takes the time it takes. Be good to yourself. I’m sure Holli would have wanted that. May God hold you and your family gently.
I was worried about you. I know this has been a difficult time for you, and I pray God will comfort you, Holli’s family, and all who loved and cared for her. Feel what you feel for as long as you need. Also, your son looks very handsome and happy in his suit!
Mel,
Grief is an expression of our love. And, in my experience, it never really goes all the way away; but the loss does become softer and the memories and good times and loving moments become louder. My thoughts and prayers have been with you.
Hi Mel, I know I don’t know you or Holli personally…but her story really grabbed my heart. I’ve been praying for her and her family daily since you posted about her. I will keep her family (and you, too!) in my prayers. Hugs to all of you!!!!
Mel, you are so wonderful. Such a beautiful post! I am inspired by your love for the Savior, for your family, your dear friend, and others. You are a light in this crazy world. Your blog is so much more than a food blog. Thank you for sharing so much of your life.
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What a beautiful post! Grief comes in waves, it is different for everyone, and it cannot be rushed along. Wallow in it, embrace it, and then slowly you will be able to slowly (so very slowly) let it go. In the place of grief, there will be a wonderful collection of memories mingled with the ache of loss. Take your time. Be kind to yourself. Remember always how precious life is. I have definitely missed your posts, but please know that you are so appreciated. We will be here, waiting for you to heal❤
This post had me sobbing. I lost a parent unexpectedly last fall and what you said about grief really resonated with me.
My heart goes out to Holli’s family and friends. Thank you for sharing about her. God IS in the details and I’m so thankful for that. I couldn’t imagine doing life without Him.
And thank you, Mel, for sharing your heart with us. I think a lot of us are struggling right now and it helps to know we are not alone.
Lots of love to you and your family.
Lovely tribute to Holli. God bless you and your family and Holli’s family. Loss is always so hard. Thank you for sharing.
Oh, Mel. My deepest, most heartfelt condolences to you and Holli’s loved ones. Thank you for letting us know. What a gift she was, and how sorely she will be missed. So glad to hear you are taking the time you need to prioritize the in-front-of-you humans that need some extra attention, including yourself. Your son (and pig!) are adorable. Sending you a big hug.
Grief is a funny thing. It is such a powerful emotion. The pain that it causes can be almost unbearable. I believe that grief is really just love with nowhere to go. When the person you love is alive, it’s so easy to show them how much you love them with physical actions: a hug, a phone call, a text, words (the list goes on and on). When they are no longer here, you still have the same amount of love but it becomes stuck. There is no more outlet. Love is meant to be shared. It is so painful when love gets stuck inside of you. It’s not easy, especially when the grief is so new and raw, but part of the grieving process should eventually include physical ways that you can still show love for that person. I was devastated when my grandmother passed, but I learned that I can still show my love for her by playing the piano, telling my children stories about her and reading (clean) Jane Austenesque romances..
Thank you for posting this story of yours. It was very real, and I think will touch a lot of people. I know it touched me.
Mel, I am so sorry for your loss. I’m new to your blog so wasn’t aware of all that was happening. Your blog was so beautifully and honestly written, I cried as I read it. The most beautiful part was learning Holli knew Jesus and that you will see her again. I will be praying for you and Holli’s family throughout the coming days.
I don’t normally comment but welcome back and I am so very sorry for your loss. She was blessed to have a friend like you.
Thank you for sharing your life with us Mel. Your tender words brought tears to my eyes. Knowing that our Sunday will come is the ultimate light at the end of the tunnel.
This is such a beautiful post Mel. It made me cry. 🙂 I have missed your frequent recipe posts but it sounds like you were exactly where you needed to be during this difficult time. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and all those affected by Holli’s loss. She sounds like a wonderful woman of faith, hope, and love for all those around her. We all have our Fridays, but yes, Sunday will come. What a beautiful tribute to your friend. Your grief is only a testament of how much you loved her, so let it come. Take care of your kingdom right now and we’ll all be looking forward to trying new recipes when you return. Take care.
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What a beautiful tribute to your dear dear friend. God bless you all.
Thank you for sharing your life with us Mel – this is more than a food blog. Your words and thoughts are so meaningful to your virtual friends. Your way of describing feelings of grief, frustration, panic (aack! pigs are loose!), fun, and love almost always make me think, “yes! she’s has nailed that emotion!”. However and whenever you post, your virtual friends will be here to support you 🙂
Mel,
Hang in there. So heartbroken for you. I just lost a friend last October to Pancreatic Cancer, she was 54. Her spirit and smile are with me always. It’s amazing how you feel and remember the most simple things when they have moved on. I pray you will see her joy all over in your life!
Your Son is adorable and I want your PIG! Happy Friday Friend!
Thank you for sharing with us your grief. Praying for you and Holli’s family.
Oh my!! I am so sorry for your loss of a wonderful friend. So sad for Holli’s family. Seems so unfair for such a loving person to be taken way too soon. GOD BLESS all of you during this time of grief. Thanks for sharing!
Mel, I am so sorry for your loss. What a wonderful gift to have had a friend like Holli! I pray that God will console you and comfort you in this time of loss. Thanks be to God for the gift of faith!!! Through it, we always have that beautiful hope that death is not the end, but only the beginning—the beginning of a perfect eternal life with the One who is Love. God bless you and glad to see you back. I’ve missed you!
Your words are beautiful and touching. Praying your soul may find peace and comfort.
Mel, we love you! Thank you for sharing. Sending you a huge virtual hug.
Mel, we love you! Thanks for sharing. Sending you a huge virtual hug.
God Bless you. Know that God never gives us more than we can handle although it may seem like it some times. I am truly sorry for your and Holli’s family loss. Hugs, Jenny
My thoughts are with you and Holli’s family, and all those who have lost loved ones .
Mel;
Here I sit, reading your post in my work’s break room on lunch getting tears in my eyes . I am so touched by your words about your dear Holli and the comfort that all of us will eventually see our own Sundays for those moments when things are hard. Thank you for posting those words; how true and amazing that is! I have been so worried about you the last few weeks and am glad for the update but so sorry to hear. Prayers for you and Hollis other loved ones.
Thank you for sharing Holli’s journey and love for life with us.
Please take the time you need for yourself, we will be there when you feel ready to get back, no pressure ❤ Take care.
At a time like this, there are just no words, only a prayer to you for such a great loss.
Oh Mel, I am so deeply sorry. Grief is so heavy and losing someone you care about so deeply gut wrenching. Even when you know it’s coming it is still so much more painful than imagined when it comes. Thank you for sharing Elder Wirthlin’s quote. It is helping me through my own grief at the loss of my dear mother in law who passed away on Sunday. Hugs and prayers to you and Holli’s family. ♥️
I am so sorry for your loss ❤️
Mel, I am sorry for the loss of your dear sister friend. I hope you and Holly’s family find the strength needed to carry on. The pain ebbs & flows & it is different for all of us.
I am a devoted reader & recipe user & I will include y’all in my prayers. You have been noticeably absent. I understand now why. Take time to heal, dear lady. You owe it to yourself. (& yes, kids grow up way too fast. Prom indeed!)
This was beautiful. I’m so sorry for your loss. I first loved this space because of the wonderful recipes. I found you when I was in the middle of post partum depression years ago and making your easy to follow, delicious recipes made me feel so accomplished. It was absolutely a tool in me feeling better. I continue to love this space because of the life stuff you share too. You are a gem. Thank you. I am praying for you and Holli’s other friends and family in this difficult time.
I’m so sorry for your loss, and thank you for sharing your thoughts. Take your time easing back in. I’ve been learning lately the importance of taking care of myself, so I can then in turn care for those I love (I can’t take care of my family or others if I’m wearing myself out and giving myself migraines). Thank you for being you.
Again, thank you Mel. Thank you for being you. Thank you for your insight, your example and your service to all. You are amazing and we love you!
Just crying for all of this. Grief is just hard. Its so much more than we can even fathom before we have to be thrust into it and then we have to give it time to work through and heal and learn from.
There are many of us who are processing a year of grief- rather from the loss from a death or a loss in expectation that one expects will come true in moving forward. In my own life I’m clinging to the belief in God and looking for the lessons to come from the scars. It’s not easy but as I look back at times of immense change and trial I can see the lessons learned and the hard skills and perseverance that developed were in the hindsight necessary and needed. Be kind to you as you heal from this loss.
Oh Mel. The amount of sorrow and grief and heartache you have experienced and continue to experience is such a sweet testament of how much you loved your dear friend. Sending prayers to her family, to you and all her friends.
Wow, what a post! I am sobbing reading your words. I am so sorry for your loss! Your thoughts and words touched my heart and I loved your testimony. Hang in there! You are in my prayers. ❤️
I have been praying for you and for your sweet friend’ and her family ❤️ Take all of the time that you need, we’ll still be here. Sending lots of extra love to you guys!
God is definitely in the details. Thank you for sharing this post. I can imagine the pain you, her family, and everyone else her life touched are feeling now. I’m grateful that you shared her story, as it inspired me and many, many others. All those who were blessed in some way by her life are so much better for it, including you. Thank you for your example of selfless, loving kindness and service to Holli and her family as a true friend. May we all strive to be that kind of friend, on regular days and on those tough Fridays we all face in one way or another. Sending lots of hugs ❤️ You are always loved here.
Sending so much love to you and also to Holli’s family. I watched the funeral via zoom and your remarks were so meaningful. Thanks for sharing your heart here.
I’m so terribly sorry for the loss of your dear friend. I’ve always believed that friends are the family that we choose; and what a blessed choice that is. Thanks for your inspiring thoughts. Looking forward to Sunday. 🙂
Mel…….I’m so very sorry for your loss of such a dear friend!We are so blessed to make life changing friendships while on this earth. Many are casual but some are the “ family “ we choose! They are the ones who are always there for us, no matter what- as you were to Holli and I’m sure she was for you. That loss is profound and will take time to move forward from. So , be good to yourself and take the time you need. We are here waiting for you and wishing we could help….
Mel, I’m up late working on a few things and just saw your new post. I’m so happy you’re back! I’m one of the people that has been worried and wondering about you. I’m so sorry about Holli – for your loss and for her family. She was very lucky to have you as a friend. Grief is a tricky thing. I’ll be praying for you and for Holli’s family. Your words expressed at her funeral were simply beautiful. Jesus does know and love us all. I know I’m not alone when I say that it wouldn’t matter if you could only post once a year – we’d all still be here! Your blog has changed my world and you are my go-to for preparing hot breakfasts, after-school snacks, and getting dinner on the table. As a lover of nutrition, your blog in invaluable! Take good care of yourself and please know how appreciated you are.
I am so glad to see this post from you, Mel. You say you are surprised that any of us gave it a second thought, but although we’ve never met, I’ve thought of you repeatedly over the last several weeks and months and know I was not the only one. I wasn’t worried about the lack of recipes – we are always excited to get a new one, but you’ve honestly given us a lifetime of recipes already – I was worried about you. I assumed you were dealing with grief and other hard things, and hope that there are sunbursts of joy that break through. You certainly bring that light and life to all of us.
Thank you for sharing this beautiful hope filled and tragic story. May the truths you shared give comfort to all who are enduring this loss. Your recipes and messages are a gift.
I’m so so sorry. Saying goodbye is so hard. I’m saying prayers for you and Holli’s sweet family. I hope you will be comforted as you mourn. My mom passed away the week before Easter. I’ve always felt it was a tender mercy to have the hope of resurrection and eternal families so near each anniversary.
Love to you and your sweet family
I’ve actually been meaning to email you because I figured something big was going on in your life, and I wanted to let you know that I admire you for letting the less important things go so you can focus on what’s MOST important, good, better, best talk by Dallin H. Oaks. I’m sorry I have failed to email you. But your post just brought me to tears and I figured leaving a comment on this post will just have to do. I love you Mel. I look up to you so very very much. Thank you for testifying of Jesus Christ. I, too, feel like a very different person than I was a year ago, and it’s all thanks to Him and some struggles I’ve had in my own life. I am so grateful you are using this blog post to gather scattered Israel and I could not be more grateful for your courage to do so. I love you.
Love to you and your family, and all of Holli’s, too. Of course you are entitled to as much grief as you need! (Recipes can wait!!) And I know God will be there with you in all of it.
Oh Mel♥️♥️. I’m so sorry. I’ll be praying for you and Holli’s family . Thank you for sharing your soul here in this space. You are so loved♥️.
Mel, you are such a treasure! I don’t know you personally, but I feel like we’d be good friends. I always love reading your thoughts and insights. Thank you for all you do and for sharing your heart, testimony, light, and optimism. Reading what you write always makes me smile! Much love!